Has anyone noticed that mnay, NOT ALL, younger parents sem to be irresponsible with their children?

Answer 1

Yes! Many aren't ready themselves to be responsible for someone else besides themselves. They aren't mature enough to put their child and their child's future first.

Answer 2

There are many irresponsible parents a lot of them also older and don't deserve to even reproduce let alone have the joy of children around. I was 19 yrs old when I had my son and I've been told time and time again since he was born from his daycare,my family and his dads family that I am one of the best mothers they have ever met. I found out I was pregnant the day I started tech college and I finished too. Growing up having to help take care of my younger siblings really prepared me and I knew more about babies and parenting than some adults, so one of your previous answers about younger parents not being able to take care of their children because they are too young...is totally wrong...that person probably isnt even a parent themselves. I'm 24 yrs old now and probably spend more time with my child and make more money than some parents.My 4 yr old is one of the smartest in his preschool, he can count to 30, recognizes numbers and knows what they are,knew his colors by the time he was 3 and his ABC's, and can write his first and last name, he is very well behaved...And I did this all by myself, 19 yrs old and living on my own,and going to school while working full time to make a better life for my son...which he has now.

Answer 3

I have noticed quite a few older parents that are irresponsible as well. Parents of all ages are doing idiotic things with their children. The thing that burns me up the most is the ones who let their children ride in the car without being strapped in. The excuse they give is that they always rode that way, and cars didn't even HAVE seat belts until the 70's. There were a lot less cars on the road then...

Answer 4

I have noticed this, and most of these people I have observed are my age. I try to model the behavior that I would like in my children, and to establish firm boundaries. My children are well-behaved (i've been told) and I always know where they are and what they are doing.

I think the problem with most younger parents ( I am 26, but I had my first at 19) is that they are still more interested in learning about themselves and having fun than thinking about caring for another person. Sometimes they are just not taught any better.

Answer 5

Someone is going to have to define "younger parents" to me.

If you are talking about us "Gen X-ers," I am going to have to completely disagree. Studies have shown that more Gen X women are working mothers, and do a better job of the balancing act than our "Baby-Boomer" mothers did. We get great careers, but are willing and able to make sacrifices for our children, and to put family first.

If you are talking about teenaged parents, I'm gonna sit the fence. I have worked with and around a lot of parents, young and old, and they are pretty much the same across the board when it comes to how involved they are with their children's discipline and education. Some parents are great, and there are some that make you wish there was a required license for parenting.

Please don't put a label to it, because there is simply no easy explanation as to why some parents are worthless to their children's upbringing. Age and experience may be factors, but they are certainly not the only ones, and there is far from a 1:1 correspondance between the two.

Answer 6

You bet! Younger parents seem to allow their children to do things which older parents are much more cautious of allowing. I believe this comes from thinking that nothing bad can happen. As you get older, you realize that bad things can happen - very easily. Children can get hurt or disappear in a second. Sometimes I wonder how some kids with irresponsible parents will ever make it to adulthood.

Answer 7

Ja, I see these young parents coming in the retail store. The children are 'tearing up" the place, because the parents do not discipline their children!

Become a parent 2 Jul 1989, things changed for the better!
Been a singleparent(by divorce) since 27 Jan 1998 and as proud as can be of my 17y old daughter! She follows God's way!

Answer 8

Children are not born with a training manual. If young parents had good parents, they learned by example. However, it is very difficult to be a great parent now in a time of must have two income families. Prior to this era, a child would be parented by extended family as well as his own parents. Extended family included grandparents, aunts, uncles, all who usually lived in the same town or close by. Additionally, there was community parenting, I grew up in a suburban development where most of the parents bought the houses new and had young children. You couldn't do anything bad without the whole neighborhood alerting your folks to your behavior.

People now are not as close to their families or even their neighbors, therefore the burden of parenting fall completely on the shoulders of young parents both of whom hold jobs, probably have long commutes and struggle to be able to spend "quality time" with their children. So, now, parenting is learned in classes, rather than by example. Children are placed in child care, rather than with relatives, and grow up without a sense of community or family unless the parents go out of their way to provide both.

Answer 9

yes. so much so that I want to smack the parents and take their children away from them and raise them myself. And I'm only 20! But for heaven's sake! I could do a better job than they are! I'm so glad I had good parents that spanked me when I did something wrong. I learned so much more respect and manners than most of these children combined. All these kids that are being put in "time out's" aren't learning squat from that, or they just aren't being disciplined at all. *shakes head* It's a shame that these parents don't know any better....

Answer 10

Hi,

I know what you mean. I was 18 when I fell pregnant. My son is two now. He's so well behaved, well mannered and intelligent. I work and pay my own way, my parents don't babysit, when they spend time with my son I'm there to. I own my own house and I'm proud of it.

I used to be offended when people were so surprised by my situation and my sons good behaviour. Now I understand where they're coming from. I think young parents need to wake up and realise they're shaping thier childrens behavioir. Monkey see Monkey do, as my mam used to say.

I mean why have kids if you don't want to help them flourish an provide for them yourself?

Answer 11

And I thought I was the only one who noticed this. I guess that's what happens when kids have kids. When you don't understand respect and responsibility how can you teach your children?

A lot of my girlfriends had kids in high school, I'm talking 14-18 years old and every last one of them is disrespectful, rude, ungrateful brat. It angers me that they let their kids walk all over them and get away with the crap they get away with.

Not only does that behavior carry over outside of the home, but it tells a lot about the person raising them, I try to explain that to a couple of them and they just don't get it.