I like my friends ex boyfriend. WE (her boryfriend and I ) have been friends for a long time. Now that they are broken up I wnat him even more. Please help.
2006-07-11 04:15:50 · 15 answers · asked by babyjay_babyjae 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is a question that you really have to answer yourself. Will your friend get mad if you start talking to this guy? How much does your friendship with her mean to you? You must decide if getting with him is really worth the risk.
2006-07-11 04:19:43 · answer #1 · answered by GirlieGirl85 2 · 11⤊ 2⤋
Man law from the commercials says you have to give it a certain amount of time. I am not sure why. If the breakup was friendly it should be fine. But I have really never heard of girls having an issue with it. The only backlash you may run into is that your friend or even that guy wasn't real sure they wanted to break up and may have left ways to get back together. If that is the case then you could end up losing a friend or he could go back to the girl leaving you. It may be selfish but I say go for it. Isn't your desires as important as any petty jealousy? If she broke his heart she deserves what she gets. If he broke hers he may break yours. So be careful but don't stay on the side lines.
2006-07-11 11:25:22 · answer #2 · answered by targin1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen.....
Even if you get the "ok" from your friend, the truth is that she'll be jealous, and it'll bother her no matter what! Oh, she'll tell you it's "fine" to date him, but deep down inside it will hurt her. It's only natural, she's human.
But eventually, in time, she'll get over it (especially after she falls in love with someone else).
You and her ex can still date each other, but be conscious that your relationship with him won't sit well with your friend, despite her seeming "acceptance" of it.
Date him and have fun with him, especially in private, as a couple......but when you two are hanging out together with your friend, be sure to keep those outward expressions of affection in check....
When the three of you are hanging out, don't be kissing him in front of her, or holding hands, or telling him how wonderful you think he is (and make sure he doesn't do that either when he's in if front of her). You two can do all of that in private, when she's not around. That's the only way to spare her feelings.
Good luck. And have fun!
2006-07-11 11:38:21 · answer #3 · answered by Pulse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and tell him that you like him, He's gonna love that attitude. Then, once he knows that, he will help you to manage the situation on how to tell this to your friend. If you use the correct words she will understand that her relationship with him is over, and if she's a good friend, she will want the best for you, which in this case, is her ex bf LOL!
2006-07-11 11:20:08 · answer #4 · answered by Genio Atrapado 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the ok from your friend before you do anything! You don't want to ruin a friendship over some guy. Also, keep in mind why they broke up. He might not be a good guy.
2006-07-11 11:17:40 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are unwritten rules about dating a friends ex....even if she says she doesn't mind...it is usually NEVER a good idea. There are far too many guys out there...go find your own!
2006-07-11 11:27:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she was really in love with him then don't do it it will end your friendship.. but you could always get up the courage and ask her if it would be okay...but if they ended the relationship bad he might date you out of spite of not liking her
2006-07-11 11:21:16 · answer #7 · answered by byoung212121 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, depends how long they been broken up, and how much your friend cares about him?
2006-07-11 11:17:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out with me only if you get advice from your friend, you don't want her to become an enemy.
2006-07-11 11:22:07 · answer #9 · answered by Frankie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont do it no matter what your friend tells u you will end up hurting your friend and no one is worth that!!
2006-07-11 11:22:15 · answer #10 · answered by drea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋