Following on from first question 'is she right to be upset'?

Question

Well I think my sis is being too sensitive. She expects people to do everything that she wants. I am not going to fall for her tears. She has been a disgrace to this family. She nearly got sent to prison cos she got obsessed over this white fella who was twice her age and had sex with him too-dirty cow. Then she kept attention-seeking by overdosing …was in a ward of nutters for a few weeks. My mum trusts me; I feel I earn her respect and trust. I can go off traveling as my trusts me…no one can trust my sis. Her problem is that she expects too much of people. The other night she presumed I purposely banged the door and that was whining to me. She really pisses me off so slammed the door again. My sis is a liar, manipulator. I will never forgive her when she punched my tooth out when I was little. She said the other night 'I can't remember doing that we were kids we are adults now’..Yeah Right! I don't trust her. I refuse to lend her my stuff now. I hate her.

I deserve the money…mum swiped money of my three sisters and put it in an AXA account so according to my mum they get that split between four of us. I get the houses to keep as my mum says the ‘boys ‘ family strong. My sis shouldn’t even be talking about this. She should be grateful for what she has. No one forced her to pay. Once she gave my mum £3K for some dogy Indian priest to pray for my dad who is dead. She gave my mum money on her own accord. My mum use to get annoyed with her as my sis use to work in Mcdonalds cleaning toilets and handed the money over to my mum. When she got her first wage packet …she kicked up a fuss as she wanted the money but mum showed her.....that as a family the money should be pooled she was 16 then….I was 10. I don’t give my money away although my mum never asks but always asked my sister. My sis can’t do anything right. A few weeks ago she brought a £5K cross trainer on credit. I said it was a waster but she insisted.

i'm asking this question again...as I would like to get a broad perspective and have a few males answer this as most people answering are women

Answer 1

Now that you're gone further into what you're sister is like, I can safely say that she doesn't deserve the right to moan. If she wants the same respect and trust that you obviously have then perhaps she should try to change herself for the better.

Answer 2

You said in your addition to your question that you were asking again because mostly women were answering this question. Do you not respect for women and what their opinion is? Or do men have a better sense of thinking than women in your traditions.

You seem to have alot of respect for your Mother, is your mother not a woman? Actually I think the only thing you seem to have respect for is your Mother's Money! You should support your sister especially if she is ill because your mother ain't going to be around forever. And what's the matter with sleeping with a white man? Because that works both ways If a white woman sleeps with an Indian man does that make him a stinking Ba*****? Get away from your mothers apron strings, grow up and live a life of your own!

Answer 3

Here's what i think it could be that you have feelings of harsh hate for your sister from childhood until now. you seem to want what she has or it could be that your sister need the pity and cant get over her older white man.

Answer 4

Bore off

Answer 5

Not found an answer to suit you. Your the one with the problem. Grow up!

Answer 6

i think i answered your sisters question the other day.
She was and is not being sensitive if she has to be up for work the next day and is unable to get enough sleep due to inconsiderate childish behaviour by other members of her household.
and you were in the wrong to slam the door at if i remember the time around 1:30am or there abouts (from what i recall was said)
remember you are not the only one with a job in that house so have a little common decency and if your coming home in the middle of the night try to be as quiet as possible if the house is in darkness or you suspect your family is sleeping.

as for the money issue if you'r not, you should be paying something towards your keep at home regardless of whether you are going to inherit the house or not.

from what i understand only your sisters paid into the AXA savings and your mom is expecting to split the money between you and your sisters (i may be wrong but that's how it reads to me). your sister(s) are pissed off that they paid in and you did not and you are going to get a share of the money. personally i'd be pissed if i'd paid in to a savings scheme and the money was split with someone who paid in nothing and who is being a child about paying his way at home. (again i may be wrong but thats how it reads to me).

I want you to go into your sisters room lay on her bed and then get her to go and slam the front door as loud as she can, then i want her to close it as quietly as she can. You will then know why she is pissed off with you. As if i remeber from what she said her bedroom is at the front of the house.
your 24 or 26 and she is about 30 if i recall the details correctly. or i may be thinking of a completly unrelated but similer situation.

regardless of whether she is a lier or not she has to go out to work like you do. how would you like it if the door was slammed or loud music was playing while you were trying to sleep so you can be ready for another day at work.
my guess you'd be pissed off tired and ready to kill to get a good nights sleep (speaking as a guy who is kept up half the night by my neighbours constant loud music and jumppning up and down on the there floor my bedroom ceiling. I'm in a GFF)

as far as the money issue goes if your mom does split the money between the four of you and you have not paid into the saving scheme then you should do the decent thing and split it with your sisters and not keep one penny for your self.
As you said you will be inheriting the house and your sisters will be getting nothing so be greatful and be honest.

as for your mom, well she is in the wrong. any money you earn should be yours to keep after you pay a fair amount for food, gas, electric, water, council tax and other essential bills. just as your sisters should be paying there way, there money should be theres to keep.
I'll give you the same advice i gave her and that's:
"If you don't like living with your family your over 16 so MOVE OUT and pay your way", you're a grown man yet your acting like a spoilt child. JUST GROW UP and stop complaining, you seem to have it too damn good at home. i guess your mom still does your cooking and laundry. learn how to do this yourself and go live on your own as you sound like an unsociable arrogant jerk.
As for what your sister gave your money for thats between them and none of your business.
i seem to recall your from a traditional indian family. if this is your attitude to women to treat your sisters with little or no respect. this seems like this is built in to your personality, so you are heading for a wealthy financialy yet misserable existance as a human being. as any and all relationships you have will in all honest and probability end in disaster or the woman getting pissed off with your disrespect that she either leaves you to be treated better by a guy who loves and respects her failing that you are heading for an early grave as you push her too far and she kills you putting herself behind bars.
sorry but thats how it reads to me from what you have typed as your question.

Answer 7

Does you family saga never end...we dont care ...its boring as hell lol

Answer 8

boring boringboringboring

Answer 9

tell your sis to do it her self