Muslims/muslimahs please help me!?

Question

Salam Aleykum Wa Rahmatullah!

My parents hate that I am a muslima for a year. My mom does not wanna allow me to wear my hijab and she even yelled at me today that she hates this whole thing and I am so sad. What can I do? Marry and move or what? I am trying to be patient and Islam teaches to be patient with my non-muslim parents but there is a limit I guess.

Nour

My mom wants me to not to wear hijab. Of course I do not wear it at home but it is always with me and when I am about to leave the flat I secretly put my scarf on the flight of the stairs but my mom told me that I sure only want to disturb her and my dad and this is just a rebel something (but I am serious) and which one is the more important, do what my parents say (no hijab) or follow what Allah and Mohammed (PBUH) want/said?

Dear careful: I am sorry that you are not "convinced of my story", perhaps saying this is easy for you since this is not you but me in this situation, thanks for your comment though.

Answer 1

Waalaikum salam warahmatullah...

First thing you are a very brave person. For you to tell your parents that you've converted to Muslim is not an easy thing to do. I'm sure it took a lot of courage to do so.
You are obviously doing the right thing by being as patient as you are right now.
Has anyone ever explain in particular details the concept of Islam to you parents before? If not try to get them to sit down with you and explain the whole thing. Make them understand why you have choose to be a Muslim against their current religion. Tell them you have not regret your decision and that you are old enough to make your own(you are aren't you?) .
Whatever decision you make or made, you will be fully responsible to the future consequences.
Also you can get them something to read like, books,leaflet or printouts from Internet or other sources.People understand better when they relax and read.
Tell them that when you have convert to Islam,that doesn't mean that they have to be one too. Give them proofs that not every Muslims are bad and evil. They must understand that. Most people get the wrong idea when something bad happen involving Muslims.
I wish you and your family all the best solving this problem and don't forget that even though they are not Muslims they are still your parents. Respect them as how you have respected them before.Good Luck and all the best!
Dear Nour,
If you are really serious, you have to let them know how serious you are about this. To listen to what they say is good but it is more important to follow what our god had stated since you are now a muslim. You are indeed a very obedient child. May Allah bless you and show you the easier way to settle this problem.Good Luck!

Answer 2

3laikom elssalam...
at first u should be proud of being a muslim.its a great gift from ALLAH that u r at the right way and u should take care of this precious gift.
2-u should not give up and u should do what u do believe in whatever happens.so wear ur hijab watever happens.
3-at the same time u should keep respecting ur parents and u should keep loving them espicially ur mother although she is not muslim,maybe ALLAH will bless them and inspire them to islam by ur hands INSHALLAH.so dont forget that the massenger mohammad asked muslims to rspect there parents if they r muslims or not.its an important issue ,so take care.
salam

Answer 3

Dear Sister,
You must be patient with them and this is the only tool that can work. Islam does not allow us to say anything bad even a bad facial expression.
Alhamdo Lillah you are a muslim and Allah the Almighty has guided you to the right path, now it is your turn to prove that you are willing to do everything for that.
I would advise you to be patient and let them think about, they will not only accept you but the islam too. Insha Allah the Almighty

Answer 4

Salaam alaikum wa Rahmat Allah,

Patience will give you reward and success; it is some thing that most of us, including myself lack. People hate what they don't know or understand. Some time they are told the wrong things. There is a story of a man who went to Imam Jafar as-Sadiq (AS) in which he said his mother was Christian and she hated Islam and Muslims. The Imam (AS) said go and serve her as if you were her slave. He did so and not after too long the mother accepted Islam also. This was just a summed up version of the story. If you don't think it is offending, and your mothers reaction will not cause a adverse reaction from yourself, give some pamphlets of what Western scholars think of Islam. Some could be found @ www.al-islam.org in a nutshell. You can also show her Islamic prophesies in the Bible like the one in genesis ~And from the seed of Ishmael a great nation will I create, and 12 righteous descendants will I give.

Answer 5

Nour , you should be patient and never show intolerance . You should try to read the stories of the wives of the prophet who were abused ,when they were young , by their non-muslim parents . Just take every insult as one step closer to heaven .Reason with your parents and talk softly with them .Allah said to Muhammed "If you were harsh and rude everybody would leave you ,
And then if you can't endure it try to be wise about it . Wear the veil outside home only and don't show it to them .It's completely o.k for ur mum and ur dad to see ur hair .
I wish you all the good luck , just be patient as you have crossed the hardest part .The best is yet to come.

Answer 6

Although I am not pretty convinced of your story, I would advise you to talk to them and show them the reasons why did you choose Islam. Either you will convince them and make them convert (or at least not objecting it), or they show you their opinion and you can discuss it or even be convinced if your decision was wrong.

One last thing, wearing Hijab is not a bad thing and therefore if they insist that you should not do it you should not listen to them because this is absolutely self-preference (you are not trying to walk nude for example).

Answer 7

I think your parents are concerned that you would convert to a faith that mandates violence and intolerance, and treats women like property. They are probably hoping you'll grow out of it, and I imagine that sometimes their patience wears thin.

Because your parents are interfering with your Muslim practice, the ninth sura of the Qu'ran requires waging violent retribution against them until they submit to the dhimma or are killed. So you better sharpen up that sword.

Answer 8

well i think u must talk to them,seriously or maybe ask a muslim person who is proffesional in islam rules(u know wht i mean,a holly person or sth) to talk to them.or maybe u should tell them as they must know everyone is free to choose their religion and u have chosen islam and they r to accept it.DO NOT give up ur religion cause as u know(or maybe don know)it is said in Qoran that chilren must obey their parents and respect them in any case except the case that the parents want the child not to obey god and prevent their child doing his/her religions duties.
so don be worried and try my suggestions,hope that they work!
(ur Q made me feel great that i live in a muslim country and have muslim parents,tnx!)
good luck!hope u succeed!

Answer 9

I feel for you from the bottom of my heart and wish to help you as much as possible. You must educate your parents on ISLAM and explain to them what it means to you, maybe they will come to see it has made you a better person.

Answer 10

You should show them some respect and not wear the outfit until you have your own money and move because they Love you but not the religion and I know all religion will tell you to respect them