If your parents put you up for an arranged marriage. Assuming everything about the person was decent, do you think you can grow to love him/her?
2006-07-11 04:11:51 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
As you mentioned, assuming everything about the person is decent...I would say YES.
2006-07-11 08:49:32 · answer #1 · answered by JC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a toughy. I think if you are friends with a person then you could grow to love them and have a relationship with them, but an arranged marriage would be a different matter. I would hope that I would grow to love someone I was set up with but I have a sneaking suspicion that I would be so pissed at my parents for doing that to me that it wouldn't allow me to love the person even though they were in the same situation I was. For a time, at least.
2006-07-11 04:15:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't really care about the arranged marriage, but I could definitely grow to love those legs wrapped around my waist
2006-07-11 04:26:02 · answer #3 · answered by snuffy_muffy_eater 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont know much about arranged marriages, but im my point of view...marrying without knowing the person is not a good thing, and you might if you set your heart to it you might be able to love the person with time
2006-07-11 04:16:16 · answer #4 · answered by Texas_at_its_best 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know.You may grow to like him. In a marriage,some people go into it not knowing everything about the person there married to.And sometimes they fall in love all over again.Just by spending more time together.So it might be possible to fall in love with someone after your married.But the best advice I could give you is to follow your heart not your head.
2006-07-11 04:20:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely. When I was young, a fortune teller told me that I would marry my best friend. I thought that this prediction was horrible, what about passion, love, I learned. I had a horrible marriage with a charming and handsome man who cheated and treated me like dirt, but whom I believed I loved.
After he died, I married a kind and decent man whom I liked very much. He was and still is my best friend and has turned out to be the love of my life. Passion does not equate to compatibility.
I married my current husband eighteen years ago. Three years ago, I became very ill. My late husband, the charmer, would have deserted me. My current husband lovingly cared for me and brought me back to reasonable health. Kindness, consideration, friendship, common goals, these are the things that lead to great love (and oh, by the way, eventually lead to great passion).
Being married to your best friend is the best thing that could ever happen to you.
2006-07-11 04:20:31 · answer #6 · answered by Mary Lynn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe that arranged marriages are right, but I do believe that you can grow to love someone.
2006-07-11 04:15:22 · answer #7 · answered by Krissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I had a teacher explain to me once that she was introduced to a man who was decent yet she did not love him. She agreed to marry him and 20 years later their marriage was going strong. She did grow to love him.
2006-07-11 04:15:27 · answer #8 · answered by shae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Possibly. I don't really see it happening, but it'd probably be similar to the way I've grown to love my boyfriend. It wasn't easy not being single anymore, but I grew to love him and it all worked out. I imagine it'd be similar in an arranged marriage.
2006-07-11 04:15:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eventually. I've some times wished, an arranged one had been arranged for me, but it never happened.
2006-07-11 04:15:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋