2006-07-11 04:03:48 · 24 answers · asked by jransmac 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Many people have this same problem. We get to pick our spouses, but unfortunatly they come with families, too. The worst idea is to somehow force your significant other into a choice between you and them. The best solution is to find some neutral ground (a common interest in movies, sports, cuisine, etc.) that can keep the time that you MUST spend together as painless as possible. If they are the type that refuses to play nice with this idea, politely excuse yourself from any conversation or activity that would lead to an uncomfortable situation. In the end, you must suck it up and be the bigger person. Keep your contact friendly and polite, but don't overdo it to the point of being smug. Just remeber that your significant other appreiciates your willingness to do this and that YOU get to pick the next movie you go see together!
2006-07-11 04:15:36 · answer #1 · answered by xbucknutx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the Baha'i Faith, no matter how old we are, or how many times we've been married/divorced, we must have parental consent to marry. (This doesn't mean our parents choose our mates, it just means they consent to our choice [or not].) One of the reasons for this law is that, in reality, when you marry, you DO marry the family. Our parents know us better than anyone else does. They can see better than we can, if we are a good match, or not. Unity in the family is so important, because the unity of the family is the basis for world unity.
If you really love your husband, grow up (bite the bullet) and accept and love his parents, as you do him. If you can't make an effort to do that, you will have eternal unhappiness. We must make the attempt to love the unlovable. People are usually unlovable because no one has loved them. You have the power to change them into someone you love by being the first to love.
2006-07-11 04:20:24 · answer #2 · answered by GypsyGr-ranny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont want to be with your inlaws leave the family but if you cherish the person your with learn to deal or just ignore them.
2006-07-11 04:10:27 · answer #3 · answered by VANILLA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a wife, you don't really have anything to do to your inlaws. according to the 'african culture' you have to accept them and learn them or another way if you are boyant enough, you can settle them if they are of age, that is the solution to the problem.
2006-07-11 04:12:17 · answer #4 · answered by alajogun 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You grow up and accept that you married a man and got his family in the deal too.
2006-07-11 04:05:12 · answer #5 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go over there
unless they ask that way
you will not look like the problem loll
2006-07-11 04:05:13 · answer #6 · answered by Linda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anallyze if they are so bad persons,
And if it is so, don´t be too close to them, but always remember ITS THE FAMILY OF YOUR LOVE!
2006-07-11 04:08:44 · answer #7 · answered by Isadora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be with them. Everyhting stays cool if you don't come around them unless you have to.(holidays, birhtdays etc.) And when you have to be polite and nice.
2006-07-11 04:06:41 · answer #8 · answered by babyjay_babyjae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your pretty much stuck with them, keep ur head down and ur nose clean, grin and bear it.
2006-07-11 04:07:19 · answer #9 · answered by laydee_t_xx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take them somewhere they enjoy visiting or introduce them to people who might share their interests.
2006-07-11 04:06:29 · answer #10 · answered by shae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋