Im 21 years old and my girlfriend is 22 , Shes pregnant what should we do?

Question

We,ve been togather 4 2 months and broke up the she called me and told me she was pregnant. I told her that i will do what ever it takes.She wanted to get an abortion, but is also considering keepin it. I dont know what to do...

Answer 1

My girlfriend and I had been together for two years. We fought constantly and broke up often in those two years. When she became pregnant, my first instinct was to have an abortion. She didn't want to have one, and we decided to be parents. It was the best decision I've ever made.

Now, it's three years later, and I have an adorable little girl who loves me very much. Her Mom and I are broken up, and I have custody. I can't imagine my life without my daughter. Check out my 360 page, and you can see pictures of her. I'm so proud of her.

Even if you and her don't stay together, do what you can to be a father to your child. It's the most rewarding thing a person can do.

I think you know the right thing to do, you just may be afraid to do it. Don't worry, all parents have gone through that at first. It's time for you to step up and become an adult.

Answer 2

I'm 21 and my bf is 20 we are 7 months pregnant. When I found out I was pregnant we had only been dating for 4 months. While I considered an abortion he was against it. He was 4 hours away in college, no job and I myself was unemployed. Everyone thought we were crazy for going threw with it but abortion is not the way to go at all. If she nor you want to keep this baby then giving him/her away for adoption is a much better idea. I on the other hand have decided to keep my baby and couldn't be happier I know its a rocky road trust me I have been there and done that. It all works out in the end. Just please consider letting this life live.

Answer 3

Honestly, are u sure its even yours. I mean you've only been together for 2 months, then broke up, then she calls u to say she's pregnant? I only ask cuz I know chicks that have done that just to get a guy back then they mysteriously they have a miscarriage (cuz they were never preggo in the 1st place or have an abortion cuz its not the guys kid) or the guy finds out she was screwing 4 other guys on the side.

If you love her and u know its your kid then I would look at the situation realistically? Can you afford to give your child everything it deserves financially, emotionally, mentally? I'm 21 too and been with my b/f for 4 years and I think if I got pregnant I would give it up for adoption to a family that could give it everything it deserves cuz I know i sure would not be able to. I would love my child enough to give it up for adoption so it could have the best life possible.

Answer 4

You need to make some money, and save it up, so that when she finally has the baby you can buy all of the necessities. Good luck man. Both of you need to think about what you want. If she wants to gets an abortion, then you are off the hook, but she will scarred for the rest of her life. If she doesn't then you will have 18 years of hell or more, on top of that you guys are already not on the same page, she will give you even more hell, so it is up to you, I would go for the abortion, because I would not want to bring a baby into a world where it does not have its true father. I know I've been there. I haven't seen my dad since I was 7, I am 26 and he died in Feb. Think about it bro and talk to her.

Answer 5

The first person had a good point, but what you need to consider is that having a baby is a lifetime commitment, it gets on my nerves that people are so blinded they jump to the conclusion "oh abortion is murder! keep the baby!" if you or you're partner or whatever she is, is not ready to make the commitment, sacrifices and time that it takes to raise a child, then she has to consider an abortion. Learn your lessons, mourn the loss of the baby of who's life you destroyed. And have sex when you can have kids. Oh yeah, and there's this thing that's called birth control, comes in handy.

Answer 6

That is one awful situation. First of all this is not about the moral and opinions of other people, it is YOUR and your Gf's life. You both have to sit down together and talk about this. How is it with your education? Job? Apartment? There are many things you have to consider. And like some people advise to give birth to the baby and give it away for adoption is not always the best solution...this way you don't know what kind of life your giving your child and this is just not fair to the child and not responsible. If you both can't take care of it for whatever reason or aren't ready to be parents yet...then your gf should consider abortion, in this case it would be the best solution. But if you want it and are ready to be parents I would advice you to keep it, maybe form time to time you will have to struggle but you will be very happy. Whatever you both decide.......think, think, think first! Think whats the best for YOU TWO and whats the best for the BABY.

Answer 7

YOU and your girlfriend must not kill the baby, show your girlfriend this documentary movie about abortion it is called SILENT SCREAM a doctor will show you and will explain the truth about abortion, this movie has actual scenes of baby being aborted and dropped in buckets, many of them, as if they were animals, it is horrifying and many of us do not understand it. Check with your local library if not go on your web site and type abortion or silent scream documentary but there is a lot more than just one abortion documentary and there are all about abortion that people and society do not want you to know, because society today is sick and perverted look at our Justice system not just here in the u.s.a but all over the world. It's pure EVIL and corrupted.

Answer 8

Deffinately keep the baby. Try your hardest to make your relationship work for the babies sake. If it doesn't then it doesn't but just make sure you are there for her through thick and thin. Pregnancy is very emotional and she will need your support more then ever. There will be times when you will think that she is impossible because of her moodswings, but remember that she is dealing with so many hormones and changes to her body. It will be tough especially if the two of you don't stay together but it is possible. Good luck and congratulations!

Answer 9

study after study shows that children do perfect in a strong living house with a mom and a father who're married to at least one yet another. i do not imagine your age is a important deterring aspect, I had my first baby even as i became 23, very on the point of your age. regardless of the indisputable fact that the actual incontrovertible truth that you at the instantaneous are not married is. Even in properties the position the mum and dad are nevertheless at the same time and living at the same time, if the mum and dad are not married the children do not do besides. Why? properly, i fairly do not understand. yet in case you at the instantaneous are not waiting to come back to a decision to at least one yet another perpetually then that's likely perfect to no longer have a baby yet. Do you spot each and each and every of the posts contained in the parenting section about human beings disenchanted with their boyfriends baby, or someone mad that his lady friend would not recognize his guidelines for his baby. you do not favor to have a baby and cut up because then each and each and every of the individuals who come into your existence and then are going to imagine they get a say on your baby's existence and that is fairly no longer straightforward to him/her. in case you 2 love one yet another and plan to be at the same time perpetually no remember the united statesand downs that come your way then age isn't any aspect in having a toddler see you later as you're an individual.

Answer 10

If you know beyond a shadow of a doubt that you can love it and care for it the way it needs to be, then keep it. If you can't don't kill it because you screwed up give it a chance to live, there are people every day dying to have a baby. take it from someone who knows.Iwould do just about anything to have a baby.