2006-07-11 04:01:11 · 20 answers · asked by Stacey R 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
We haven't went to court for visation and he didn't sign her birth certifacate. I we did was a dna test and set up child support.
2006-07-11 04:08:05 · update #1
he has a job as a electrition working for his dad! He's making plenty of money!! Where is it right for me to support her alone when shes his child too?
2006-07-11 05:17:17 · update #2
No...but get either an attorney, or a legal aide person to assist you. You need to have a way to support your child. Get his wages garnished, or have an court enforceable order in place. I pay $700 a month for my 10 yr old daughter, and I also pay $300 a month for my 20 yr old daughter's car payment. (I am SUPPORTING for LIFE, not just until 18)(Any man who thinks otherwise is a fool, or does not care about his children very much). 25% of his net disposable income is the guideline in California; check the regulations where you are.
Restricting his visitation is LOWERING yourself to his level by his failure to pay for his DAUGHTER's welfare (it is not an OBLIGATION, it is a CHILD)...hey, he was there for the fun part...why not be man enough to go the distance???
2006-07-11 04:12:29 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Why would you do that? As a punishment? That does not make sense to me. If you were together, married or whatever and he lost his job and was unemployed for sometime would you take away his rights. If not why do so now? if he is a positive influence in you child's life then why jeopardize that? Please contact me and explain why you would do that? By the way, if the child support is court ordered the courts will surely catch up with him.
2006-07-11 04:09:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you had gone to court and they ordered child support -- the law says that you cannot withhold the child due to nonpayment. Just like he cannot withhold payment due to noncompliance with visitation. Two wrongs don't make a right- what kind of influence does that set for the child? you're saying that Dad has to pay you to see her (which will later teach her that she's only worth what someone pays for her.....)
2006-07-11 04:34:19 · answer #3 · answered by sherdencutiepie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two things:
(1) When you prevent them from seeing each other, this does not only impact him--it also impacts her. She should not be emotionally hostage to your and his financial arrangements.
(2) There may be legal limits to what you are able to change about court-ordered visitation.
You should speak to your family law advisor (your divorce & custody attorney) & your state's child support recovery assistance office about how to recover the child support. You may need to pursue garnishing his wages to provide you dependably with the child support payments. But using your child as leverage is unfair to her, and that is not appropriate.
2006-07-11 04:07:05 · answer #4 · answered by snowbaal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless he is a bad father, then she needs that relationship with him. As far as the support, the only way to make him pay is through court. You will need to prove he is the father in court and have the judge order support.
2006-07-11 05:56:24 · answer #5 · answered by Stewiesgal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally would NOT stop her from seeing her Father. It would not be fair to your Daughter because she hasn't done anything except know that she loves both her Mother and her Father. Even though it is his responsibility to pay for her, you would be depriving her of seeing her Father. You can take him to court and have his wages garnished. Should he suddenly stop working, or what ever the case may be, please continue to allow your Daughter to see her Father. When she grows up, she'll understand that while her Father didn't care enough to pay for her, her Mother stood by her side and still allowed her to see her Father. She'll make her own decision on just what kind of a man her Father is.
2006-07-11 04:08:17 · answer #6 · answered by Goblin g 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELL NO!!!! YOu dont EVER stop a child seeing their father because of money issues. CHILDREN ARE NOT TO BE USED AGAINST THE FATHER FOR FINANCIAL GAIN. No I'm not a man i'm a woman and I HATE where all people see is money and put money over important relationships. That is harmful, spiteful and will come back at you.
2006-07-11 04:52:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sux. bear in mind shes only 3 , love her, no pick to describe detention center, she wont understand. tell her hes lengthy gone away and could come decrease back. undesirable ingredient is , she'll ought to relearn him in many years(no one does finished time). Worse ingredient is you've your baby round someone which could no longer only a deadbeat, yet a criminal. She acts out becuase she likely doesnt have adequate good impacts, why may you position a baby in that spot? you nevertheless ahve time, good parenting isnt basic, end searching on the small problem, improve your baby in a loving manor round those that furnish good examples, starting up with you. I desire you success.
2016-12-01 01:36:09 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't take it out on the child. Although it would make you feel better! Let him stay in the child's life. The child will grow up to realize dad is a piece of .... work!!! then the child will decide that he/she won't want anything to do with the dead beat... take it from me!
2006-07-11 04:29:59 · answer #9 · answered by kaala79 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no by doing that you'll only mess up the relationship between a father and a daughter which is a very important relationship for your daughter to have until you get another man in your life that will treat her like his daughter let him have his visitation. if not you daughter my grow up to constantly be with the wrong man seeking the approval, love , and attention she didn't receive from her father. Get the money from him legally let the courts know he is not making his payment they deal with him.
2006-07-11 04:19:41 · answer #10 · answered by NAZARIEL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋