my ex boyfriend bought me some 20'' rims for my car. during this time he lived with me for free because i own my house, but i payed all utilities and we split grocery bills. one day he just up and moves back home with mommy and said that he needed a "break". he said we said we would stay friends but i honestly hate him for walking out on me like that . he has only called a maybe 4 times since he left 2 weeks ago and 2 of them were to see if i would re-pay him for the rims he bought me because he lost his job. but i feel like i don't owe him sh!t, after all he was living with me for free. do you think i should repay him? if i don't repay him, i know i will loose any chance of friendship there is left?
2006-07-11 03:57:04 · 27 answers · asked by Mz. Tanning Bed Junkie! 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the only thing you owe him is a kick in the balls
2006-07-11 04:03:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 16⤊ 5⤋
Sounds like the loss would not be anything to great. You seem better off without him. The rims were a gift, not an investment in case he lost his job. Whats next, repayment for dates when other bills come due? Maybe a friendship can develop when he grows up a little.
2006-07-11 11:01:05 · answer #2 · answered by psycmikev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you agree ahead of time to pay him back or were they a gift?
If it was an unsolicited gift, you don't owe him jack. But let him know he can feel free to come over and polish the rims as often as he wants.
If you agreed to pay him back before the split, do the right thing and pay him back so he can move on and quit prolonging your agony.
2006-07-11 11:03:20 · answer #3 · answered by Sebring Sage 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't repay. He gave them to you as a gift. I personally think it's wrong of him to ask for you to repay him. If he wants to be that way, tell him you already paid him back every month when you paid all the bills by yourself and by your calculations, he owes you. As far as the friendship is concerned sweetie, I hate to break it to ya, but if he was concerned with the friendship, he would have never asked you for repayment for a gift. Good luck!
2006-07-11 11:02:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't pay him back. If you loose a friendship over something material like that then chances are you're better off without him. You don't owe him anything. And if he tries to come back to you just remember that he walked out on you once and he can do it again so think before you take him back.
2006-07-11 11:02:17 · answer #5 · answered by Duckie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a total cad this guy is! He buys you a gift and mooches off you for everything else. A gift is a gift, sorry about his bad luck, but he gave those rims to you and they are yours to do with as you wish. He walked out, and he never paid you for any of the bills. I say let his "mommy" deal with him. Good luck and I hope the next man you meet treats you wonderfully.
2006-07-11 11:02:27 · answer #6 · answered by SuperJenn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Were the rims a gift? Given for a birthday or holiday present? If not, did you say you'd pay him back or was there an understanding that it was for repayment for his sorry, lazy a$$ living off you like a parasite? If it was a loan, pay him; if not, too bad, so sad and who cares if he's gone...you can do much better!
2006-07-11 11:03:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want a friendship or any kind of relationship with this man? If he continue to harrass you about the rims give'em back and tell him to shove them up his a**. Otherwise, keep'em and enjoy what little contribution this freeloader made.
2006-07-11 11:05:58 · answer #8 · answered by T S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl there is no need to repay him because he was living with you for free with out helping you with nothing expect the food. besides you deserve better than him. your right you don't owe him ****. my best advice to you is find you a real man not a child. like i said you deserve better than him.
2006-07-11 11:04:50 · answer #9 · answered by Annette A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is how I look at it. He moved out. You don't owe him anything. It sounds to me like you gave him too much as it is. Enough is enough. He probably did you a favour by moving out.
2006-07-11 11:01:17 · answer #10 · answered by jenntherealdeal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long did he live with you and how much were the rims, I'd say don't pay.
2006-07-11 10:59:17 · answer #11 · answered by boxing_fan_4_wlad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋