The reason I'm asking; I'm in 5 year relationship, and he says he never wants to get married, just curious to know how many say yes or no, to possibly make up my mind from your answers
2006-07-11 03:45:53 · 50 answers · asked by DrPepper 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you really want to get married, u need a serious talk with yr guy. If it fails, time to dump him n find another one who will marry u.
I personally do not believe in marriage so it's fine for me if the guy says no.
2006-07-11 03:49:00 · answer #1 · answered by ES 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can answer this from experience. My b/f always swore he would never marry, had no interest in kids, etc. I wrestled with it in my mind ALL the time- because I wanted those things! At one point I felt I was going to leave and I gave him an ultimatum. He dumped me. During our separation I realized just how much I loved him, and that a piece of paper wasn't everything, so we got back together. I guess during that time he was thinking about things too- and realized he couldnt live without me. He asked me to marry him a few months later and now we have 2 kids! People change- don't give up. It's true, he may never come around, but you have to decide if you love him more than anything- including your dream of having a family. If the answer is no, then you know what to do! Good luck!
Ps- it took him 5 years to come around- and now we've been together for 10!
2006-07-11 03:53:26 · answer #2 · answered by Kimmie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That doesn't depend on the relationship or on him. He's been very clear. The correct question is how you do feel about being in a relationship w/o getting married? Honestly, if it has been 5 years, and you're completely committed and there is no legal downfall to getting married, what's keeping him from doing it?
Sounds kind of crazy.
I'd say, if you are comfortable, then well and good. If you are asking this question, it is possible that some part of you is not comfortable and you need to decide if this is a deal breaker on the relationship.
2006-07-11 03:48:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what you want. If you want to get married some day then you should take this guy at his word and move on. If you don't want to get married and are satisfied with this quasi-committed relationship then don't change anything.
One thing I can say is that the guy is honest...
Of course he is also stupid because you are a very attractive woman and he is a fool for not wanting to ask you to be his wife and sharing this adventure with him....
Finally, these people that like to say, "It's only a piece of paper...blah, blah, blah." If that's true then getting married would be such an intimidating thing, would it? It's a great indication of how able they are to be in a committed relationship.
2006-07-11 03:52:24 · answer #4 · answered by Bud 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way! I'm assuming you would like to get married....this just starts you guys off on the wrong foot. He will have nothing keeping him there. No committment. If you have children, he could walk out like a breeze. Marriage has been around forever and there is a reason. Marriage provides a safe place for both people to be intimate, honest, and loved. Outside of it there are no rules.
I would be asking is this guy the right one for you! There will be many disagreements to come. This is a major one to start out on.
I pray you make the right decision. You can pray that too!
2006-07-11 03:52:17 · answer #5 · answered by Eliza 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why stay in a relationship if he never wants to get married? If he would really love you he would want to get married. Maybe he just wants to live with you for the rest of his life, Who knows? Still he should be open to make you his wife to love and take care of you! So personally I doubt I would stay in that relationship very long. But still I know it's VERY hard to say goodbye!
2006-07-11 03:51:58 · answer #6 · answered by Lorla 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That all depends! What that something that was openly disussed in the early stages of your relationship? Did you come to any terms with your mate regarding the situation and are you willing to give up your hopes and dreams of someday getting married. You need to be open and honest with your mate about this. If you truly love him and he loves you whats the reason for not getting married?
I think 5 years is enough time to know of the person your with is the ONE! Whats holding him back?
2006-07-11 03:49:10 · answer #7 · answered by Mena 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you were little did you ever have a dream and knew which dress you would wear when you got maried, did you plan it all out and have the perfect partner to go with it and have three lil kids running aroung the white picket fence house................well, sister you are not going to get that if you stay with this guy.he already said this in his head ,he told you he never wants to get married.whats makes you think he will change his mind. he wont, this is what he wants. i know if i want something i am not going to let anyone stop me from my dream or from me getting it.what a waste of five years, for you. i think you should leave him and find the right guy that will give you what you want.the next thing you know this guy is going to say i dont want to have kids either. i think if you are looking to marrythis is not the right guy for that.this guy seems too into himself.good luck.
2006-07-11 03:53:57 · answer #8 · answered by Christina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope... been there, done that. I was in a relationship for three years and the guy said he never wanted to get married. Turns out, he did, just not with me and now he's engaged to some bimbo.
It's funny watching those who screwed you over get screwed in the end. He's having his doubts now and I'm laughing.
2006-07-11 03:49:56 · answer #9 · answered by Becky Jo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you live together? I lived with my husband for 5 years before we got married. I didn't care either way. I was his wife by all other purposes except on paper and maybe in the eyes of God. If you want more of a committment, then get out. If you are fien with the way things are, then stay.
2006-07-11 03:49:26 · answer #10 · answered by pamela_d_99 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋