mad at grandpa?

Question

i have been like really mad at my grandpa for liek at least a year now and its not so much of what he does for me,,, its more of what he doesn't do for me

my grandma died when i was i think 3 and then after a few years he met this lady. at first no 1 minded her but now all he does is spend his time with her like he would rather be with her than his own family

like i remember he used to come down to my house every wednesday just him then it became every once and a while and occasionally she would come and now he never comes up anymore

i mean i no he just got over having cancer and all but he is able to go everywhere with the gf but it seems that he never has time to spend with any1 else in my family

an other thing is that every family event we have (christmas, easter,, ect..) the gf is always there like she has to be there. i no that he probably is lonely with my grandma gone and all but sometimes i wish that he died instead of my grandma. is this so wrong??

Answer 1

dont ever sy that because u should know thats not true. it sounds like u were pretty close to your grandpa and im sure if he died you would be crushed. just because he got rid of cancer doenst mean it cant come back even worse. my grandpa just died in may and it was awful he was the only one that thought that everything that i did no matter how bad it was seemed right and he would never ever be mad at me. when he died i died. i think this is more missing your grandma and thinking he is trying to replace her

just try and get to know her and hint to your grandpa with things like "how come you never come up and see us anymore" or " you knw the house looks a lot different now" what u really shoud do is flat out confront him about it but dont make him feel bad about wat hes done. he loves you very much anf woud never put a woman before his own granddaughter even though it seems thats what hes already done. he doenst know how u feel so maybe u should let him know

best of luck!

Answer 2

YES it is wrong of you to wish that is had been him instead of her!! Don't ever wish that way. You should have wished it was neither one of them that had passed away.
Now what you need to do is go talk to grandpa and let him know how you feel about what is and has been going on just like you did with us. Tell him how you feel!! He doesn't know unless you tell him. Have that heart to heart talk with him. As for his girlfriend, he needs her for a companion in his life. She is not going to or try to take your grandma's place. She has a right to be at the family get together's if he invites her there and I'm sure he does.
You need to have that talk with him now, as soon as you can. Make everything right with him now before it is too late. Once he is gone it will be like it was when you lost grandma. He will be gone for good. He is not going to live for ever!! Enjoy him right now while you can, cause as the years go by, and you get older and he passes away you will look back on this day and wish you still had him in your life.
So go to grandpa and let him know how you feel and that you love him and you want to spend more time with him than you do, and most important that you love him. You can still have fun with him even if she is there as well part of the time.

Answer 3

You are sooooo wrong and extremely selfish young lady.

Do you go out of your way to see grandpa? Bet you don't!
Do you tell him you love him and like to see him? Bet you don't!
You acknowledge he does things for you, do you thank him? Bet you don't!

Have you considered for one little minute that adults need other people and adult company?

Have you considered that love means a lot to everyone and in particular to two people in love?

Don't hear you saying your dad should leave your mum and just give you attention. Or your mum should do it either.

You do not say how old you are but it is time you sat down, put your "trying to be adult" head on and gave this some serious thought.

Good, loving relationships don't come to you of right. They don't even come unbidden. They take action, love and acceptance on both sides.

Give it some thought and then give your granpa some loving consideration. Perhaps you will see him differently then and achieve a better relationship.

Good Luck.

Answer 4

Well yeah that is. Have you talked to your grandfather about what is bothering you? He may not be aware that it is bothering you on such a level. How old are you? Reason I ask is that if your a teenager he may think that your not wanting to be with him. From your perspective that doesn't seem true. Try talking to him and see where that takes you. Just don't be resentful that he found a gf that isn't fair. Its not like he cheated on her or divorced you gm. Sadly life goes on and he is due some happiness to.

Communication is the key talk to him and see what happens. Maybe having a gf makes him feel younger cut him some slack. I am sure that he is still crazy about you! Good Luck!

Answer 5

It sounds like your family amy be trying to make grandpa choose between his lady friend and the family. Why can't he have both? Your grandma wouldn't want him to be all by himself. Grandpa and his friend probably have a lot in common, just like you and your friends. You could tell grandpa that you miss the special Wednesdays you used to share, and ask him to come over.

Answer 6

Yep, same as Moms get ticked at Dads who teach that stuff to kids and then of course they don't put it into practice until Mom and said kid are in front of ...oh! say the school teacher or a bunch of other school Moms. Really impressive. Good thing some people have a sense of humour!

Answer 7

Have you tried talking to him about how you're feeling? It might help to set a time up where you get together with just him (specify that you don't want his gf there) and tell him you're feeling like you don't get enough time and attention from him. Obviously you love and care about him a lot of it bothers you that much. Let him know how much you love him and you miss him.

Answer 8

yes it is, but i do understand your pain though, look just ask your grampa if you can spend more time with him, if not and tell him that you love him and maybe he will spend some time with you. He in love with his girlfriend, he is spending more time with his girlfriend because he dosn't want to feel alony again.just call him just to talk to him and tell him that you miss him too so he will feel guliy about you and he will spend some time with you, maybe with his girlfriend or not, well if your gradma was alive this wouldn't happened always, but don't blame her, she didn't do anything, it love, that want made that happned, when people are in love with each other, they are happy with each other so i hear.All it takes is a little bit of time,but not too much time, ok.Dont worry, you will see your grampa again and to spend some time with him soon.

Answer 9

pEOPLE CANT JUST FREEZE THERE LIFE, EMOTIONS AND HAPPINESS TO PLEASE OTHERS. YOUR G-PA IS GROWN AND KNOWS WHAT HE NEEDS FOR HAPPINESS. IF YOU WANT TO HOLD THIS ANGER IN YOUR HEART ALLWAYS THAT WILL BE ON YOU. YOU CANT CONTROL THE ACTIONS OF THOSE AROUND YOU WRONG OR RIGHT YOU CAN CONTROL HOW YOU REACT. I HOPE YOU GROW UP SOON. WHEN YOU DO YOU WILL SEE THAT THERE ARE ALOT OF THINGS THAT CONSUME YOUR TIME. YOUR GRANDPA CAN LOVE YOU AND NOT VISIT. HE IS SICK CANCER IS NOT A COLD. OH WHY AM I EVEN TRYING. THE WORLD IS FULL OF STUPID PEOPLE. (YOUR ONE OF THEM)

Answer 10

It's not wrong....but it's sad....don't be mad at your Grandpa.....*Hugs*