pls pls tell me watodo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!?

Question

my mum is a poerson with toooo much expectations on me...all my sisters have excelled darn well in their academics....and she wants me to do the same..being a teenager, i cant even hang out with my frens..i have such a tight restriction...every sentence she speaks to me will have the word 'study'...yst, i just cudnt help it i screamed at her..i mean...how much can a teenage girl take?
she started lecturing me..and she isnt tokin to me...it has been 24 hrs since sh's uttered a single word to me....

wat do i do?
i dont wanna apologise as it isnt my fault...but how can i fix this?

i'm sorry my spelling is horrible up there but i was typing very fast..=)

Answer 1

Tell her firmly to out of your face so you can get on with your life. You should be allowed to do what you want at your age. Move out. PUT HER IN HER PLACE . TELL HER ITS YOUR LIFE

Answer 2

Wow, if you have a Mom that is usually "tokin" with you that should be stopped immediately. I'm glad she stopped; I mean what kind of a Mom shares weed with her kids. I know that I don't let my kids have any of my pot!

Seriously, you need to run, run, run straight to school and study. If the sample of writing above is any example, you do need some serious help.

On the other hand you need to calmly talk with your Mom and say to her if restrictions are too tight it will simply drive you away from her. If she pushes too hard you may simply leave when you are legally able. You both sound immature and in need of a mediator. Screaming NEVER helps and your Mom needs to realize that you need to have some off time.

Sit down and make a schedule with your Mom. Figure out when you will study and when you will have time with your friends. Then stick to the plan. If she sees you holding to the program I bet she will respect you more and lighten up. Good luck.

Answer 3

Hey! Let me tell you something, I am 23, was just recently your age, and my family hates me. I dont' know what kind of family background you have, but mine was filled with lots of expectations too. Everything I did was doomed for perpetual failure. What do you want to do with your life? Tell your mom what your goals are, what you want to do, and how you plan to do it. If your mom loves you, which I am sure she does, she will support you in anything you decide to do. That is what good parents do. Let her know, if she wants you to be a success, there needs to be a balance. You can do your school work and study, and do things with friends. There is a time and place for everything, including fun. You are a human being, not a machine, you deserve a break, and parents tend to forget that. Understand your mom wants what is best for you, they just don't always know exactly what that is, or the best way to attain that. Keep your grades up, and try writing a letter to her, tell her how you feel, how she makes you feel. Ask her why she puts so much pressure on you, get her to except you for you, and remind her that you aren't a clone, your an individual.

Answer 4

Maybe you could explain to her that you're sorry for screaming at her, but you are being put under more pressure than you can handle. Tell her that you aren't the same person as any of your sisters. You will agree to work very hard on your studies if she'll agree to stop putting so much pressure on you. Tell her you'd like to show her that you can be responsible enough to do well without the added pressure. Then you gain trust and responsibility from your mom while keeping your sanity.

Answer 5

If it wasn't too much for your sisters, what makes you so special that it's too much expectation for you?

You want to hang out, then study. The way to hang out is to study, first. There goes her reason for you not being able to hang out.

If you don't want to hear the word study? Just do it! Then you won't have to hear it. You've got everything assbackards.

You're a teenage girl? You sound like a subteen to me. Teenage girls are capable of much more than what you're putting out.

I teach English in China, and my little 6-year-olds, after a full day at school, come to my English class at 5:30 in the evening, study English for two hours, 'til 7:30, then go home to do homework until 10 p.m. You are such a baby. Grow up, Baby.

I s'pose your mother does what she does out of pure hatred for you, right? It couldn't be that it's out of love, could it.

Get over it. Grow up. You know what it takes to get her talking again. Just straighten up. Show her you're mature enough to do your homework without being nagged; then, watch the change in her.

It's not your fault that you yelled at her for being a responsible mother, right?

Oh, man; what goes around, comes around. Just wait 'til your kids come along. Have you ever got it coming. You'd better get with the program and stop any bad karma coming your way.

Not fixable without the apology. But, if you don't mean it, and mean to change, don't lie. Better to be truthfully a loser.

Answer 6

Some day when you are your mother's age, you will understand her wisdom and her love for you. You are too young now to see it.

Usually one child in the family will do bad things to get attention if she feels she cannot compete with her sisters by doing well. Tell your mom you want to do well, but perhaps she can help you find what is special about you. What if you excelled in something different from your sisters? Art, music, athletics, dance???? When you feel proud of yourself, then you won't feel such a need to get attention by being "bad."

Answer 7

You've got a difficult problem and all I can do is suggest a few things for you to think about.

First, I suggest that you apologize. I know it isn't your fault, but there are many times in life when it's better to say I'm sorry than to worry about whether or not its your fault. I'm sorry carries a lot of weight.

Second, once you've apologized, you then need to make a plan and start a project to explain to your mother that you're you and not your sisters. Try to get her to see that there are many kinds of intelligence--the psychologists have identified at least 8, and most of us only have one or two of these that we're good at. They are: math ability, reading and writing ability, sports ability, musical ability, mechanical ability, people ability, emotional ability, and big questions of life ability. It sounds to me as if you are a people-oriented person with social or people ability, that's where your strength is. Try to get her to see that you are not good where your sisters are good, but you're good in your own area of intelligence and ability.

Third, I assume that you're around 13 or 14. You have four or five more years under your mother's care. You'll need to find a way to make peace with her. Bargain, make an agreement with her if you can. Will she give you one hour with your friends for every hour you spend studying. This way, you'd get your way and she'd get something. It's a compromise, but it's better than nothing. And while you're studying, you might find something you're good at and show them all someday.

Answer 8

Well.........you might start by taking an English class so your spelling can improve! No offense!

It's important for you to be your own person and your mom needs to know this and lighten up and not expect you to fit in some mold she has conjured up in her own mind.

Shes not speaking because she is trying to control you in her own way because she knows you want her to speak to you and this is probably killing you because you love your mom!

There just has to be a "meeting of the minds" here. A really good heart-to-heart talk is important. Get someone that can be with you that understands whats happening like your sister or something, and the three of you sit down and discuss what is really best for you so you can still be yourself yet accomplish what you know you can accomplish with out your mom pressuring you to conform.
The best of luck to you!

Answer 9

You need to sit your mom down and have a serious grown up conversation. Apologize to her. Tell her how you feel. If your doing your best, tell her that you are. She just wants the best for you and this is all she knows how to get you to listen. I wish my mom was more strict with me about my schooling. Now I am just a secreatary barely making enough to pay the bills. Let her know your plans when you graduate. You need to find out what you want to do with your life. I understand about wanting to hang out with friends, but I also know how important it is to do well in school. Get your friends to form a studying party or something. That way, you get to hang out with your friends and study at the same time. Compete with each other on who does the best with the test your studying for. Don't argue with your mom. It just makes it worse. Tell her that you understand where she is coming from and that you will do your best. It may come easier for your siblings to do better in school. Everyone is different. Just try to do your best and I think your mom will be happy with that. I didn't get to hang out with my friends. My parents were very strict. When I came home for school, I had to change my clothes and get into old clothes and go out in the field and work. I am 27 by the way. My parents didn't care about my education until it was report card time. They expected me to get out and work like a slave and have good grades too. So I believe you have it a lot better. All you have to worry about is school and peer pressure. I had to worry about working in the fields, peer pressure, studying, and not getting beat to death. So feel very lucky that you don't have parents like mine. I also hid in the woods with my mom from my dad until 3 in the morning and then get up and go to school the next day and pretend that nothing ever happened. So, please just take into consideration that there is much worse out there and feel very lucky that you have a mom that cares about your education and your life. She just wants the best for you. I am sure she has sacrificed a lot for you, so you can sacrifice a little for her too, especially when it's for you in the first place. Good luck. I hope I have been some help.

Answer 10

1. For the sake of us all learn to spell or learn to use the spell checker.
2. Study and get better grades. All your mother wants is for you to do well and she knows that you are capable of doing it, but choose not to.
3. Apologize to her, because it is your fault for screaming at her. She is your mother not your friend or someone you can scream at.
4. Remember: Honor Thy Father and Mother. Stop trying to be a rebel and put your priorities in line. Your future and success is what she wants to ensure for you. Hanging out with your friends and wasting your time will lead to absolutely nothing. Concentrating on school work will lead to a successful future, more time for you and your friends, etc.

Answer 11

First of all when talking to your mommy don't "turn on the volume".
Just a calm talk. And say this to your mother: Listen mom I know that you want me to study and be something in my life, but like a teenage i must go out with my friends, and there's a lot of time to study, and maybe I'm not like my other sisters?

So you should have a deal with your mother and arrange the time for going out with your friends and study.

I'm glad if this helps