Me and my mother never get along. She stopped talking to me for three months because her boyfriend told her it was either me or him and she chose to get rid of me. Turns out the next couple months he got rid of her and she had no where to go, I was living with my grandmother. and she was moving with my brother and sister from place to place behind her. so they were homeless for a couple of months. Then after not talking to me for three months she came and told me that i needed to sign a paper for her to get a apartment. well being that she's my mom I did it but i regret it. She tells me when i can come in and out and its not right . I pay rent and buy groceries. and i think its time for me to do my own thing and let her get back up on her feet on her own. She's always put men before her kids. So what do u think I should do? Keep in mind she's 40. Let me know
2006-07-11 03:18:01 · 6 answers · asked by Mrs unpredictable 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She needs to grow up, doesn't sound like you've had much of a chance to be a kid. One of these days maybe she'll see the error of putting a man ahead of the miracles that she brought into the world, but until then it doesn't seem to do you any good emotionally to have to deal with her irresponsibility. Cut the cord for good, hopefully she'll grow up...if not, it's not your responsibility and she'll just have to live and learn. Good Luck...
2006-07-11 03:27:43 · answer #1 · answered by surfmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said, "I think it's time for me to do my own thing and let her get back up on her feet on her own." I completely agree. The fact that she is your mother makes this very difficult. But if she wasn't your mother and say, just a friend, what would you do? And remember that the fact that you are her daughter, didn't change the way she handled herself either. I don't want to sound harsh, or cold, but I think you need to move on and let her live her own life and move on with yours. You have to think about what is best for you. And frankly it might be good for her also, to have to be independent for a while. Maybe she will grow up a little. Just don't let your credit get ruined by this apartment lease. If you have to keep paying the rent, at least it's only temporary, but do look out for yourself.
2006-07-11 10:45:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok I dont know if this is going to be a long answer. Ok you might need a walk with your mom alone or take some yoga but insted of bending cross your legs and then think about what would cheer HER up. When your finished get it from somewhere present it to her not so anxious or to calm then you should ask her calmly to talk about what's bothering you and then ask whats' bothering her and if things go wild simply leave where ever the closest exit is.
I HOPE I HELPED AND WISH THERE IS PEACE AND ⥠BETWEEN YOUR MOM! :)
2006-07-11 17:02:57 · answer #3 · answered by amic00lnow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is an unfair burden for you to have to support her and your siblings but admirable that you have helped her. She needs to get her act together, her kids should always be the first priority. Can she ask a social worker for help with jobs and apartments? Does she work? Try not to enable her by helping too much-she needs to stand on her own two feet and realize men are not the answer to her problems. Best of luck to you.
2006-07-11 10:28:38 · answer #4 · answered by Maria b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have to support your mother like that. It sounds like she never really learned to take care of herself, and she needs to do that. If your brother and sister are still living with her then I would try to get them out of that situation before cutting your mom off.
2006-07-11 12:09:31 · answer #5 · answered by caitlinerika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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