how can i get thru to my mom she is tellin me to leave because of my passed how can i talk to her and get thru

Question

i used drugs in my passed and i used to deal but i stopped and my mom dosnt think i am going to stay straight i been clean since 10/5/05 and i havent touched a drug and now she is telling me to leave and get out and i want to know how to get thru to her and tell her that i changed and i am not going back and she just wont listen to me she tells me to pack my sh*t and leave and never come back can some1 give me addvice

Answer 1

As a mother maybe you have just rebuild your trust and respect towards each other. Spend more time with her and respect each other and others opinions. Try not to argue, but to communicate and listen before blowing things out of proportion and understand how she looks at things and you look at things. Respect your differences. Try sitting down and say, "Just let me get what I have to say off my chest w/o u saying anything...then You can have your chance, w/o me saying anything....then we'll go from there"
Maybe you broke too many promises and trust bonds with her, that she just can't seem to let her wall down anymore. If you are old enough...maybe she needs her space, move out....it will help you learn independence and responsibility. Your mom has been through a lot to raise a child and you will NEVER understand what mothers go through until you are one. Give her a break...one day you will be in her place and you might have a child and you'll look back and think..... Man I thought I knew everything, and I thought mom was stupid. Remember....what goes around, comes around. Have a good relationship with her while you can. She has already been there, done that, and probably has the t-shirt too.... there is nothing you are doing or have done or will do that she hasn't already encountered herself. I'm sure you didn't want to hear all this...but you wanted some advice. But whatever you do in life.....running away from your problems will never solve them, b/c they will still exist.

Answer 2

Sweetie, you seem to have a lot of problems. If you are 15, your mom can't kick you out. But maybe you should find a way to leave. Are you really pregnant? I am sure you can be proud of yourself for quitting drugs. Stick to it and do not look back! I wonder if your mom thinks you are still using. Are you still involved with drug-using friends? If so, she may not believe you are now clean. Also, if you are pregnant, what are your plans for the baby? Does your mom think she'll have to take care of it? It sounds to me like you need to be in school or you'll have few chances of landing even a crap job. Please go and find a counselor you can talk to at a place (either church or community-based) that counsels troubled teens and unmarried pregnant young ladies. You need a lot of help kiddo, and your mom's not up to the job. Get your situation cleaned up and let her know how you have made it work for you. She'll respect you more. I'm sure she has not a clue as to how hard this has been for you and what kind of courage it took for you to get this far. She'll never really know, because she was not a drug user (or was she?) Keep in touch with her, so you do not lose each other. Life passes quickly. You have to grow up fast now. I'm sorry. I wish you the best. Don't choose my answer even if you like it. This is what I really feel.

Answer 3

I think that communication is the key. This is your mother. She loves you. Sit down with her and say "mom, can we talk? I love you and I want to stay here? How can this happen? Please tell me what I can do to help you. We can set up once a week where we can talk to make sure everything is going ok. I love you and I think we can make this work, just let me know what you need."

If that doesn't work, then she is not ready to communicate with you. You can tell her this too. "I know that you are not ready to communicate through this, but I love you and I am hear to listen when you are ready."

There is a theme that is running through this. It is the vocalization of the love that you both have for one another. We naturally get caught up in our daily lives and sometimes forget to say "i love you". These three words mean so much to people. They might know you love them, but it is such a great thing to hear it.

Let me know how things go and you may e-mail me if you would like to talk about anything.

Answer 4

Congratulations on being clean for almost a year.
Now, sounds like your Mom was more hurt by your drug use than you knew. Ask her to sit and talk to you. let her say whatever is on her mind without defending yourself. (drug addicts have a "defense" for everything and it gets old real fast.) Move out and give it time. It takes more time to earn trust back than it takes to get it the first time.
My husband has been clean for 8 years and I still have moments.... it's just part of the deal.

Answer 5

I was in the same situation, if your able u need to get out her house , work get your own place, with a friend ( a clean one) i was kicked out & lived in my car, came home one night to see if she would let me come home, i was dieing & she new it, see let me stay but i had alot to prove, yourw hole world gets turned up side down, still to this day, she forgives me, but won't forget, i stoled from her, i ****## up so much it not even funny, u need to prove it to your self that u can make it on your own, to keep your self clean, in time ti will happen, she will trust u, but it will take time, we hurt our parents so much, its hard for them to see us messed up. Just stay clean, I comened you for your strenght, its one of the hardess things, it took me 2 rehabs, and living in my car and on the streets. take of your self, u are old enough to make the mistake, fix it. Good luck. go to aa meeting, they have them for drugs & drinking.

Answer 6

i say that as long as you know what the truth about your self is, then that all that matters. you dont have to prove u to anybody, but if u wanted to, do it through your actions, and no as a reaction to this new situation.

Answer 7

Can't say I blame her. Prove her wrong. take your azz to school earn a degree and make something of yourself and maybe she will allow you to visit.

Answer 8

Drugs are bad. Mmmkay?

Answer 9

you dont need to be around your mom right now anyways if she isn't trying to be supportive

Answer 10

Im guessing by "passed" you mean PAST.