I am so ready to get married but my boyfriend is just beating around the bush. I am ready to settle down but all he wants to do is party and have fun with his friends.
2006-07-11 02:24:09 · 21 answers · asked by Lady B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Then you can either be patient or move on. Marrying him isn't an option right at this moment. Remember guys mature more slowly then women.
He isn't ready and there is no way you can "make" him ready. Dropping hints may pressure him to give you a ring but do you really want that? Wouldn't you rather it be from his heart, totally his decision because he truly loves you, not just something he gave you to make you happy or worse, to shut you up?
It's tough to love someone who doesn't love you in the same way. It's a painful truth you may one day have to accept. I'm sorry and I wish you the best.
2006-07-11 03:21:31 · answer #1 · answered by bubb1e_gir1 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you two are on two different paths! If you're ready to get married and he's not, there's no garuntee that he'll be ready later either. I'd take some time apart and see how things go. If he really loves you, he'll realize what he's losing in his life -- you...BUT if he continues to party and not miss you, then you need to move on. Find a man that will appreciate you for the lady that you are! In the long run, you'll be happier.
2006-07-11 12:38:23 · answer #2 · answered by english_argie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you need to decided if he is the one and if you think he is then wait for him. Because if you push him into it just because you are ready he will still party or will wish maybe some day that he had not gotten married. You don't want that. If you are not sure he is the one or can't wait move on there are nice guys out there that are ready for a commitment.
2006-07-11 09:38:17 · answer #3 · answered by SiberianHusky_8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately...you can't force someone to be ready for marriage. If he's not ready that's just the end of it. If you're willing to wait for him, then you shouldn't keep at him about wanting to get married. You either have to decide he's worth the wait or move on, but if he doesn't want to get married and you end up pressuring him, you'll only end up pushing him away.
Meanwhile though it might be time for you to sit down with him and ask him about why he doesn't want to get married. What are his reasons? My husband didn't want to get married because he didn't think it was right to get married before age 30. Luckily I was able to help him see that there is no correct age to be married and we are about to celebrate our one year anniversary (and he's 27 now). It will help to hear things from his point of view, and talk things over with him.
2006-07-11 15:11:09 · answer #4 · answered by ykokorocks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then is not ready to get married, If you do get married he will continue going out with his friends...woukd you like to be the crying spouse looking through the window all night waiting for him?
He is enjoying his bachelor life while you are holding your breath for something that he is not ready for. You have to talk to him and see if marriage is a real possibility for the near future or not. My feeling is that your best bet is to look for a matute and emottionally available man that is ready to commit rather than wait for him.
Good luck
2006-07-11 09:32:57 · answer #5 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to arry a guy that isn't serious? I mean say you do marry him and then have kids, it will be you just taking care of a big kid. You'll resent him for not doing his share and things will fall apart. You can't make him marry you and honestly you shouldn't if he is still stuck in this stage. You should move on and find someone who is in the same stage of life as you. You'll be happier not wondering if he drank too much and is puking on the street.
2006-07-11 11:25:59 · answer #6 · answered by sugarcarat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to marry someone who isn't ready to get married? Do you think he will totally change to the way you want him to if you somehow finagle him into getting married? Maybe you should tell him you are ready and if he isn't then it's time you moved on because you are ready. If he lets you go, you haven't lost anything.
2006-07-11 10:06:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a person is not ready to get married they should not be rushed into it because it is not about one it is about to that should be as One person, just like true love a soulmate is from God they should feel what your feeling and vice versa for each one , are You really ready to get married think about it yourself also are You really ready!!???
2006-07-11 10:45:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up with him cause he is not taking u seriously and maybe when he see that u r willing to leave him hi may change his mind about the relationship and if not u can always get another boyfriend
Good Luck to u wish u the best
2006-07-11 11:52:27 · answer #9 · answered by lola 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your boyfriend has some growing up to do. unfortunately for you this could take a while. there is no way to make a guy want to marry you. he'll have to come to that decision on his own. so the real quesion is, are you willing to wait around for him to come to his senses? is he worth waiting around for? does he even want to get married? the two of you will have to have a serious discussion about your future. good luck!
2006-07-11 11:26:26 · answer #10 · answered by Fashionista 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋