my 14 year old son has always had a problem with going to school. weve tried EVERYTHING for years. suggestion

Answer 1

military school or boot camp.

Answer 2

Well, with this kind of problem, his school issues could have many reasons.
If his problem is social, like being teased or bullied to the point of depression, embarrassment, or avoidance, then I would suggest some sort of counciling or psyciatric care as well as a change of schools for a fresh start after this summer. Also try some summer trade classes at a Skill Center. Sign him up to learn about something he shows interest in. This way he will be doing something hands on with other new students that share a like interest with him. Be understanding of this kind of situation, it can be a tramatic experiance for a child and embarrasing for him to discuss with anyone.

Should his problem be with learning disabilities, then have him checked by a professional for a learning disability diagnossis. Something like ADD, ADHD, Dislexia, or even a simple vision problem can go on for years and never be discovered, causing frustration for the child, a loss of intrest, or feelings of hopelessness. Like someone above stated, Sylvan Learning Center, or other kinds of tutoring institutions could help greatly and become a great source of confidence when he realises he is smart, and begins to look forward to better grades and less frustrating study times.

Should the issues with him be rebelious and anger drivin, then you need to take a stronger hold and disiplin hand with him before he is older and bigger, and you can't control him. Legally, you can force him to do about anything since he is only 14 years old. Counciling or Psyciatric Care to let him talk to someone about what makes him act this way is a must, even if the first month he is going, he just stubbornly sits there refusing to talk. Perhaps he is in with "the wrong crowed" and has developed an attitude of not listening to athority. This would be a great time to not only change schools, but send him to a private, parocial, or millitary type school where he is made to be watched over and you can actively participate in his schooling. Maybe even a summer boot camp or such during the summers till graduation would keep him from returning to the regular friends who are getting him in trouble, also keeping him disapplined and controlled where you couldn't handle him anymore.
In looking on the lighter side, you could always call up the Maury Povich Show and ask to be a guest on his regular "help my out of control teen" where they send them to spend a weekend with a motivational speaker in a prison to see what that kind of life is like before sending them for a week to millitary training camp to scare them into showing respect not only for you, but for themselves.

You could alway sit down for a meeting with the principal, teachers, councilors and your son at the school he currently attends. Talk about these options WITH him, not about him like he's not there. You don't want to seem like youre all ganging up on him, he may push you away. Instead, ask him what you all could do to make his schooling experiance more interesting, and what his opinions and conserns are. Involve him and make him in charge of the discussion. Most importanly, don't always talk about the negative. Bring up all his attributes, achievements, and what his strengths are. Showcase his intrests and what he is good at. Talk about what your worries are to show consern, not forcast his future. In my personal experiance with my parents, they TOLD me that I was going to fail since I wasn't doing well in school, so I thought there was no use. I had a friend who combated that by telling me that she was conserned about what COULD happen IF I continued to not do well, But she knew I was capable, and was willing to help. Just that different wording was enough to change my course.

Well, Good Luck to You, and I Hope I Could Be of Any Help . . . . . . Love, Angela

Answer 3

i went thru this with my then 12 yr old son he came so close to flunking out of 6th and 7th grade, we then put him in an alternative class room setting (small size ) there was no homework and he didnt have to switch classes, they had free moments to get up and walk around the room in between each lesson, I worked magic and now he can go to a normal high school, he ended the year with b's instead of f's

Answer 4

You need to correctly identify the peoblem before you can fix it. Is he getting bullied, made fun of, does he just have a tough time concentrating? Is he bored with school?
Let him know that you care and he can feel safe talking to you about it. If it's possible get a counsler involved.

Don't give up!

Answer 5

I was that student. I dreaded school. It took me years to make up for it, but eventually I went to college. Have him take a class to learn studying and school strategies (outside of school), like Sylvan learning. If he learns ot play the game of school, it will be much easier and more gratifying.

Answer 6

Whats his problems? You might want to see if he has ADD or ADHD or some type of anti depressent maybe he has some learning problems and he is acting out because of this?

Answer 7

he needs a doctore im 14 years old i have a more problems but i handle

Answer 8

My son's allowance is dependent on his attendance at school. If he doesn't go, he doesn't get any money that week. He straightened up quick when he learned it sucks to be poor.

Answer 9

A vocational training center in order to learn a trade from which he could earn his keep if he couldn't make it at school.

Answer 10

i agree w/ chick.


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