I like this girl at work and the problem is that she is somewhere around 20 to 22 and I'm only 18. I know that she doesn't have a boyfriend. And I'm Obsessed with this girl. Please, Please help me to talk to her.
2006-07-11 01:43:58 · 29 answers · asked by sean 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just talk to her.. be confident, that 's really important.. try to get her number and txt her.. try to be friend at first .. send her email and msgs to ask how she is doing.. she will get the "message" soon.. talk to her about silly things and when u see she is responding ask her to go to the movies or somewhere you think she will like.. then just tell her that you like her.. give her time though to see who you really are.. (btw she's not too old :P 18 - 20 is almsot the same..)
2006-07-11 01:48:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well nothing works better than honesty. Just be polite and frank.
But before you ask her out, try to have some answers ready for these questions.
- Are there any workplace dating restrictions where you work? You may have to follow the regulations. Check that out.
- Will she mock you or laugh at you if you pay her a compliment that you like her? If you think she will, let go. Its not worth pursuing.
- If you think she will politely acknowledge, be a good friend of her first. The date can happen a little later.
Good luck!
2006-07-11 01:52:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
O.K. The first thing you need to do right now is forget this girl. You are way to into her. You said your obsessed with her and that is a recipe for disaster. Obviously you lack experience with women. My advise to you is to go and get yourself a couple dates and get some more experience with women. Learn to be comfortable around them and maybe just maybe with some time and once you get used to speaking with women you can approach this woman from work with some confidence and like a man. If you try approaching her now you will end up looking like a babaling fool. And please dont send a note, what are you in third grade or something. Women like confidence.
2006-07-11 01:51:47 · answer #3 · answered by micron816 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obsessed is not good and I don't think its good to talk to someone you work with because say if the relationship goes bad there will be alot of conflict on the job between you and the female. Are you in lust with her or just want to know her if you are truly interested ask her out start as friends first and let time take its course.
2006-07-11 01:47:17 · answer #4 · answered by Neek-Neek 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't talk to her, then you must not be friends or know her very well.
On top of this you believe you're obsessed with her?
This is a recipe for disaster.
Try just getting to know her first and just be friendly, nothing more. To handle the obsession, try to find something interesting about OTHER women, deliberately force yourself to go out and meet others.
Oh -- and take long walks and cold showers!
2006-07-11 02:00:40 · answer #5 · answered by kevrob8008 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to tell her you like her. When you say this don`t stumble over your words, look her solid in the eye and say it clear so she can hear you. I am a girl and I really wish my crush would tell me he likes me. So please, you are doing her a favor. If she says she doesn`t have feelings for you, move on. Just think, she could be asking the same question online and she could be obsessing about you just as much. All girls know that even when a boy likes you and you don`t like them, that makes us feel special.
2006-07-11 01:59:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sean I know you love her but love has to be by age you cant just love her she is bigger than you and I dont think that she will appect it cause you are 18 years old thats really young there is 4 years behind and thats not sound good so I think you ahould resive back ok because thats a hard thing to chose from your future needs to great not been ruined ok .
2006-07-11 01:49:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u know how some dudes go to talk to someone all shy well dont do that because that would be a totaly waist of time play it cool and smooth and if she shows any signs of not interested than i think u need to beat with out embarrasment because if u dont that would just annoy her but i think u approach her and always be ure self and no one else cause that never works ou t trust me im female i know what im talkign bout
2006-07-11 01:49:11 · answer #8 · answered by cup-cake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, you see all of these people advising you to "give her a note" and "be yourself" and all of that jazz? Ignore them. Take it from me, if you do those things you'll strike out quick. Women say they want all of these things (the cards, the flowers, the romance), but the second you do that you'll come across as needy and they'll lose interest. www.sosuave.com That site will tell you all you need to know. Good luck.
2006-07-11 01:48:54 · answer #9 · answered by buddhasmash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think that you should go up to her and maybe start a little conversation then just squeze in the fact of you liking her its what i did and my boyfriend and i are going out still im 13 and hes 14 i dont want to blab out my stuff so i hope my answer worked 4 you
2006-07-11 01:51:56 · answer #10 · answered by squeaky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋