do u gotta marry the girl u got pregnant? what if ur too young?

Answer 1

No you don't have to marry a girl you got pregnant. You shouldn't marry anyone until you are financially and emotionally able to support yourself. You do have an obligation to financially AND emotionally support your child.

Answer 2

Well by putting it that way, you're saying you don't want to marry her. I don't think you should be forced to marry because if you're not truly in love, the marriage won't work anyway.
I do however, think that you should support the girl and just be there for her and the baby. Being pregnant at such a young age is a scary thing to go through alone. And this might sound a little harsh but ... you did contribute to creating the baby which makes you responsible for the next 18 years and if you don't want to get labeled a loser, you will try to do the right thing by making sure you have a job and read up on fathering the child.
Alot of people do get married for the wrong reason such as, it's cheaper and you don't have to worry about it being taken out of your paycheck when child support comes after you. So I think you're going to have to make some tough decisions.
If I were you I would start with not making enemies with the girl you got pregnant and don't get involved with anyone else at this time.
I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 3

You definitely don't have to marry anyone that you don't want to marry, no matter what age you are. You may feel pressure but you shouldn't get married if you don't want to. It will most likely only lead to problems later and a lot of resentment down the road.

That is not to say that you shouldn't stick by this girl. If there is romance, so be it, but what is most important now is the unborn baby. Make sure that you always make the best effort to do what the child needs and to remain on good terms with the mother.

If you feel like you are too young, make sure you have supportive people in your life - parents, a counselor, anyone - that you can talk to about your fears. People that you can lean on for help when you don't know what to do. Maybe in the future you will end up wanting to marry this girl but for now the most important thing is the child - and if you don't want this to happen again please practice safe sex, or no sex. If you aren't ready for the consequences of being intimate with someone it's probably best that you aren't intimate with anyone.

Answer 4

Even though he was abusive to me, and I knew he really didn't care about me, I made the mistake of marrying this guy just because he got me pregnant. Marraige is not only a big personal responsibility, it is also a vow before God that you will love and cherish that person through good or bad for the rest of your life. If you feel that you could not possibly keep that vow then don't get married. If you do love her, but you just feel you are too young you can search for states that have lower marrying ages and/or you can propose to her and stay committed until you are old enough to marry.

Answer 5

NO! You will not being doing your child any favours by putting them in the middle of a relationship your don't want and are too young to be in. Own up to your responsibilities by being involved in your childs life, but you'll be making a HUGE mistake if you get married just because she's pregnant.

Think about this...50% of marriages end in divorce of people who are crazy in love, running towards each other, dieing to get married. What do you think the outcome will be in your case, when it is quite obvious you don't feel this is what you truly want?

Answer 6

The kid and the pregnant girl are your responsibility now. You got her pregnant, you have to see that she is taken care of. If you don't love her enough to spend the rest of your life with her don't make both your lives miserable by marrying her. Stay in contact with her, even be her friend. If you have doubts, then the answer is most likely, no, don't marry her. But for God's sake don't abandon her. That child is as much yours as it is hers. You knew that, or at least should have when you had sex with her.

Answer 7

Just because your young and get a girl pregnant, doesnt mean you have to marry her. I dont agree with it.

When I was 17, I got pregnant with my son (who is now 2 1/2) Everyone wanted my boyfriend and I to get married before our son was born. I didn't mind the idea, but he refused. He said he didnt feel our relationship was ready for it yet. So, we waited. We waited entil the time was right for us, and not just because we had a child, to get married. I really feel like its the best thing to do.

For example, my cousin got his 15 yr old g/f pregnant. They're parents forced them to get married. They werent ready for it at
all... and I have no doubt in my mind in a few years they will either A) be divorced or B) They have tons of kids and he's on the side cheating on his wife.

Dont get married entil YOU are ready for marriage. Dont just do it because you got a girl pregnant.

Answer 8

Don't do it man, especially if your young. You will regret it. I'm not saying dump her, but don't marry her. Stick by her and the kid, do the right thing by paying your share, and doing what you have to maintain your level of responsibility, which is more than half. If you are still in school, STAY IN SCHOOL. You could always try living together first. You will find that you are going to grow up fast now. Being a responsible parent is Fu@king Hard Work. Key word RESPONSIBLE

Answer 9

No, you don't have to marry them. Things have changed alot over the years.Marrying the person you got pregnant isn't always the best choice. I didn't marry the guy that got me pregnant and boy am I glad with all the problems I have had. A year later he got another a girl pregnant and married her. 3 years later they are going througha divorce. Do what you feel. It is one thing if you love her and are happy.

Answer 10

Don't do it unless you want to spend the rest of your life with her. My brother married the girl he got pregnant, and now he's miserable. But he knows if he leaves her, he'll never get to see his kids, who he loves very much. You don't have to be married to be a great dad. And, who knows, maybe you will find out later on down the road that this is the girl for you. But, for now, just stick around for support and be a boyfriend if that's what you both want.

Answer 11

having had somebody in my family go through this, I would say DON'T marry her for the simple reason that your finances will be tied to hers in a stage when you are too young to be doing that sort of thing (and probably too irresponsible if you're already having children). For example, if both of you make an income it will be hard for you to get a student loan or a grant to go to college, etc. Do live together, or try to. Get a nice, steady job if you don't have one yet and tell your girl to stay in school (even if its only a few classes at a time).