You walk on the street all dressed up, beautiful, neat and (unfortunately) alone. On the other side you see your not so beautiful friend with a gorgeous boy! Of course, you ask yourself what does she has and I don't? Why am I alone? Everyone says you're nice, sweet,smart, polite,have good personality and still...SINGLE!!???
Some boys say that they would rather date a girl which is not that beautiful, than a girl that is beautiful and confident !
Is this true, and, if it is - WHY?
2006-07-11 01:03:21 · 26 answers · asked by sama 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you certainly lack sense of humor...
Look at your question: It's netiher funny nor making sense...
2006-07-11 01:06:38 · answer #1 · answered by Roland 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
GREAT question!
Guys tend to shy away from beautiful girls because they figure they're going to get shut down if they ask her out. It's the old "she's so beautiful that she'll never go out with ME" syndrome.
Believe it or not, guys are just as afraid of rejection as girls are. When they see a beautiful girl ... they just KNOW they will be rejected, so they don't even try.
What many people don't realize when they see a beautiful girl is that she's probably lonely as hell, because her looks intimindate most guys. That's also why you will see beautiful girls "dressing down".
At some point, you'll find a guy who will look at YOU, not just your skin. He'll treat you like a PERSON, not like a trophy or a beautiful girl or like anything but who you are ... somebody who is just as scared as he is. That's why you sometimes see beautiful girls with "plain" guys and wonder why.
Maturity has a lot to do with it, and sometimes teens don't have enough of that to have confidence in themselves or be able to relate to another person just as another person.
Hang in there, girl ... he's out there and he'll find you eventually.
P.S. Why do you see "gorgeous" guys with plain girls? It could be because they feel the girl will be SO appreciative to have the attention of a hot guy ... that it's going to be easy to get her into bed. Think on that ...
2006-07-11 10:59:12 · answer #2 · answered by Rob R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because girls that beautiful usually have boyfriends already so what's the point in trying. Plus, an average looking guy can't help but feel unworthy next to her and he'll always be thinking that she'll leave him for someone better. The best advice I can offer is don't try so hard to be gorgeous. Just be simple and not extravagant then you'll snatch a guy a lot quicker.
2006-07-11 08:14:24 · answer #3 · answered by Sleepy Shroom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that this is true for many guys. I, too went boyfriend-less --never even been kissed-- until the very beginning of my Junior year in high school. I didn't flirt, don't consider myself ugly, had lots of really good friends, was never mean to anyone, and was known as calm and mellow throughout the entire school body. I don't know why guys are like this and I have no real explanation. But know that you're not alone with this problem.
2006-07-11 08:27:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of guys are attracted to the more beautiful girls, but some guys don't think of themselves as good enough for the more beautiful girls or they are afraid of rejection. They also may think that if they aren't rejected, the relationship won't last long because you might find a better guy. It's just the way guys can think. Maybe if you find a guy you really like and instead of waiting for him to ask you out...just ask him or he might find some "normal" girl. You need to just accept that one of every guy's worst fears are rejection, that's why they go for girls lower than you. I Hope This Helped
2006-07-11 08:30:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you look too expensive to keep. Some girls just look high maintance. Perhaps boys think you are so beautiful you must already have a boyfriend. Perhaps they are afraid that even if they do "get" you that you will dump them as soon as you have the first argument as they know you could have any man you wish. Some guys are just too afraid of rejection.
What pick up line do you wish a guy to say to you?
2006-07-11 08:09:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I perfer girl who look average unless she decide she want to look beautiful and make it happen. I also like girl who is very sweet and caring.
If you seems to have problem, may you want to look at your social life. Do you flirt with lot of guys all of the time? Do you lead guy on without know it and reject when they ask you out? Do you keep cancelling plan and make it look like you're not interested?
Personally I wouldn't date girl if I see them social with wrong crowd, if they give a reason they can't go do something with me after I ask for second time, I don't like girl who party or club. I have rejected many many girls because of small mistake she made that she doesn't noticed.
2006-07-11 08:10:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be perfectly honest - YES!
We are intimidated and perhaps have low self-esteem... thinking there's no way in hades that a good looking woman would ever even talk to us. While I'm sure its rare, I know that there has to be some beautiful women out there who don't get asked out just because of that.
Example - one time, way way way back when I was in High School - it was Prom night and had to stop at a store in our local shopping center - and then my eyes almost bugged out of my head when I saw two of our school's hottest, sexiest - smokin young ladies walking around with nothing to do.
I was stunned and as you can tell it made such an impression on me that I still remember it like it was yesterday. I normally would never have the guts to talk to either of these famously hot young ladies - but curiosity got the best of me, so I asked them - why in God's name aren't you at the prom? Their response - we wanted to go - but no one asked either one of us.
Huh? So there you go
2006-07-11 08:16:39 · answer #8 · answered by RAllen1st 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, afraid? Nah...intimidated would eb a better word......and if you are with a beautiful woman, then every guy is after her, and you may lose her....then there is the high maintanence part.....very often, a girl doesn't want to lose her looks, and if she is indeed gorgeous, then it will take more to keep her happy.......it takes a very confident man to want, and keep, due to emotional grief, a great looking woman. Also, one that does not get jealous easily
2006-07-11 08:19:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
I am not in the least bit,intimidated by a beautiful Lady...
If i wish to inquire of her anything at all...
I will just go up and ask her what i wish to know of her...
I mean if you do not ask,You will never know...
So for example,Said beautiful Lady is walking down the street,alone...
If i wished to know,i.e.make her acquaintance...
What do i have to loose by approaching said Lady and making my inquiry?...
The wosrt she would do is tell me to go too hell...maybe with an f word...
And just maybe,hopefully...
Said beautiful Lady will chat it up with me and we'll walk together and become acqainted...
Either way,there is no reason to shy away from any Lady,for any reason...
If you wish to know her...
2006-07-11 08:29:21 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gal as for me i adore beautifull gals
beauty is wht attracts
if wht u say that a guy said taht to u well i can only say he is just insecure abt him self
u r single coz u r just going out with the wrong group or clubs
beautiful women r asked out all the time by men of all type frm every where
2006-07-11 08:14:58 · answer #11 · answered by ghost13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋