My parents want me to meet a girl as they are planning arrange marriage. Well, I have no idea of what to discuss. How can I judge whether we will be good mate or not? Please help me out.
2006-07-11 00:30:19 · 6 answers · asked by Vipul K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
1.) You first need to be friends. Although this is an arranged marriage, which is perfectly fine. (Parents DO know best sometimes.) The two of you need to be attracted to each other. I'm not talking about just physically, but I'm talking spiritually and mentally.
2.) Be open with her about yourself. In order to know she is the right woman, she will be open and honest about herself also. Marriage is about life-giving.
3.) Values. Talk openly openly about values. How do you rank your values. How does she rank hers. These values include time, family, work, friends, charity, church, education, saving, etc.
4.) Faith. How does she practice her faith. What does she plan on bringing into the relationship? What do you plan on bringing into the relationship? How will you both grow in your faith together? Maybe even praying together, you will be able to see more deeply into her heart.
5.) Children. What are her ideas of raising children? Does she believe in staying at home? Or will she go to work? What are your ideas? How will you teach your children about your Faith? What are your views on disciplining? What are her views?
6.) Fianances. Always a touchy subject. But what are important to you when it comes to saving and spending? How does she see herself playing in the role of family finances.
That's just the start. I would meet with her several times... The first few times will most likely be chaperoned... but see if you can find some alone time with her to talk about issues that are important to her without the watchful eye of the parents.
There's a lot to talk about... so don't talk about it all in one sitting. If you do, then you really aren't talking about these things!
2006-07-11 00:38:05 · answer #1 · answered by ChitChatBrat 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
No one can judge it depend on luck.your parents qualified respect them, you have to meet the girl and select yourself.
2006-07-11 09:18:57 · answer #2 · answered by abdul_gaffar_dubai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk about what you both want in life... and see if you have a lot in common or not. Good luck. :)
2006-07-11 07:34:26 · answer #3 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well take a test a trust test ull come to know
2006-07-11 07:32:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take things slowly....make gegeral convo....you'll be able to tell by the way she talks. good luck.
2006-07-11 08:03:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just spend some time together and go out twice or more time as u want......
2006-07-11 07:33:30 · answer #6 · answered by brijesh k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋