my bf doesn't want me to go out with my fnds and i really don't like this.tell me what should i do?

Question

tell me what should i do to make him understand that i really don't like this kind of attitude.i know that he loves me and i love him too but i also know that love doesn't mean this.he's too possessive.please tell me what should i do?

Answer 1

You need to tell him you're going to leave him if he doesn't start trusting you. He's being insecure and possessive. It will start wearing on you after awhile if you let it continue.

Answer 2

First of all any guy who is that possessive means he has something to hide or fear...Perhaps,he fears that you will find someone new and runnaway with that new guy. Or he is trying to keep you away from your friends so that they don't open your eyes about him and his flaws. My recommendation to you is to tell him if he really loves you then he will let you meet your friends and family and other important people in your life, and if he says no then know that he is not a nice guy to begin with.

Love is about being free, enjoying each other's company, trust, honesty, and understanding. If he does not let you see your friends now he doesn't trust you....which can be a problem if you ever marry the guy because someday he won't let you meet your family....

Look, be honest...tell him he can trust you and that you love him a lot and you would never leave him,if that is what he is worried about....but also tell him that if he says you can't see your friends then definitely can't see his friends either...Love is also about equality and being fair!


Furthermore,a guy possessive enough to not let you see you friends is not a good start to a loving relationship...either he needs to learn to trust you,understand you and be honest with you or you need to dump him and save your self from a future of being locked up in a house and never being able to see the people you love and care for. Love is never a possession, it's a gift you give someone with all your heart.

Answer 3

NEVER fall into that.
If you don't have your own life your relationship will never survive.
It's important to keep your friends.Your relationship won't flourish if you have no one other than each other to vent to; not to mention you become resentful of people when you keep your feeling to yourself and yo feel your being stifled.
On the flip side, in the event that your relationship fails you want to have friends to rely on. This becomes increasingly difficult if you blow them off and make them second to your relationship.
You should never let anyone tell you when or who to hang out with relationships are about compromise not control. Take a set day or days every week where you spend time alone together and set days where you see other people. Integrate your two groups of friends and do group activities. If he really loves you he'll want you to be happy.

Answer 4

Everyone has heard the songs about how much love can hurt. But that doesn't mean physical harm: Someone who loves you should never abuse you. Healthy relationships involve respect, trust, and consideration for the other person.


Abuse can sometimes be mistaken for intense feelings of caring or concern. Sometimes abuse can even seem flattering; think of a friend whose boyfriend or girlfriend is insanely jealous. Maybe you've thought your friend's partner really cares about him or her. But actually, excessive jealousy and controlling behavior are not signs of affection at all. Love involves respect and trust; it doesn't mean constantly worrying about the possible end of the relationship.

Abuse can be physical, emotional, or sexual. Slapping, hitting, and kicking are forms of physical abuse that can occur in both romances and friendships.

Emotional abuse, like teasing, bullying, and humiliating others, can be difficult to recognize because it doesn't leave any visible scars. Threats, intimidation, putdowns, and betrayal are all harmful forms of emotional abuse that can really hurt — not just during the time it's happening, but long after too.

It's never right to be forced into any type of sexual experience that you don't want. This type of abuse can happen to anyone, anytime.

The first step is to realize that you have the right to be treated with respect and not be physically or emotionally harmed by another person. But how can you prevent becoming involved in this type of relationship? How can you help a friend who is in an abusive relationship?

Signs That You Are Being Abused
Any type of unwanted sexual advances that make you uncomfortable are red flags that the relationship needs to focus more on respect. Phrases like "If you loved me, you would . . . " also should warn you of possible abuse. A statement like this is emotional blackmail used by people concerned about getting what they want. Trust your intuition. If it doesn't feel right, it isn't.

Important warning signs that you may be involved in an abusive relationship include when someone:

harms you physically in any way, including slapping, pushing, grabbing, shaking, smacking, kicking, and punching
tries to control different aspects of your life, such as how you dress, who you hang out with, and what you say
frequently humiliates you or making you feel unworthy (for example, if a partner puts you down but tells you that he or she loves you)
coerces or threatens to harm you if you leave the relationship
twists the truth to make you feel you are to blame for your partner's actions
demands to know where you are at all times
constantly becomes jealous or angry when you want to spend time with your friends

Answer 5

He will only get worse. You must tell him how you feel about this. Tell him you need time with your friends. If he cant handle that then you need to find you a real man. One that will support you in what ever you do. For some reason he dont trust you. He may say that he does but by what you said he dont. Tell him if you cant spend time with yours friends then you have no time for him. Be striaght with him. DOnt beat around the bush, it will only make it worse.

Answer 6

Tell him that you need a life other than with just him if he expects your relationship to work out. Dont' let him stop you from having a social life, because if you do then if you get married or anything and have a kid, he'll expect you always to stay with the kid while he goes out and has fun with the guys, or other girls. Bottom line, he's not your boss, don't let him be.

Answer 7

Tell him he has to trust you, that trust is necessary for a relationship to last. Tell him if he loves you he will understand that a little time out with friends makes you appreciate what you have all the more.

Answer 8

Honey, I went through the same thing. Is this the only thing he is posessive about? Is he posessive about other things? With my husband, the issue wasn't about me going out with my friends.. it was the friends that I wanted to go out with, and the money that I would be spending. My friends are all carefree and have no responsibility. They would have no trouble cheating on their bf, and trouble was only a leap away with them.. also, he's a flint about money, so if I was going out I was going to be spending it. Talk to him about it, and see why it is that he doesn't want you to go. REALLY TALK.. you might be suprised by the answer and then, you can work it out.

Answer 9

i have had some experience like this well this is what i did and this is my advice:
You have to talk to him about it or it wil never get resolved tell him that you like spending time with ure friends and that it is important for you and him to have time with your own friends. now if he truly loves you he will not have a problem with this but your question sounds like he is a proper controlling person.so tell him that its not fair that you are not allowed to c ure friends and if he sees his play on him and stand up for yourself and say well actually if i cant see my friends you cannot see yours or alternativley stand up for yourself and say i am going to c my friends when i want and if you don like it you know where to go. noone can stop you seeing your friends.
remember you will have ure friends forever they will always be there for you. your bf wont.

Answer 10

no-one can tell you what you should and shoudn't do. even if you're in a relationship, you need time to do your own thing and see your own friends. i'm sure you haven't turned around and said he can't see his mates. you need to have a serious talk about this, seems like he's got some trust issues going on. good luck hunny!