Having some rather mixed feelings here. This girl I've been seeing told me that for the past few months she hasn't been on the pill and never told me. I also know from previous conversations that if she ever did get pregnant she would keep it despite any feelings from me.
This is a total shock, shouldn't I have been aware of this? If i don't want children at my age, is she usurping my choice? Boys (ang girls) please let me know how you feel about this and what you would do if this happened to you.
2006-07-11 00:01:17 · 19 answers · asked by jleslie4585 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thats totally out of order...
It would be like you having sex and refusing to wear a condom.
Do you want to take the risk of her getting pregnant with your child and more importantly... do you want to carry on a relationship with someone who could keep something so important from you.
Im a female and i couldnt imagine doing that to anyone... its just wrong and immorral.
2006-07-11 00:10:36 · answer #1 · answered by KIAHTREE 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Its a pretty nasty thing to do to someone. She cant just use you like that. She may not care what your feelings are but what about the child. Why has she had told you now? Is she pregnant? You probably couldnt trust her again in this relationship. If you want to stay with her then you have to take charge with the contraception which to be honest I feel guys get away with way too much. If you are adamant about not having children at this time then you should use condoms with all your partners, that way you are in control and the woman wont have to fill her body with chemicals any more.
2006-07-11 00:13:48 · answer #2 · answered by moblopo36 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally i would dump them, this is a Major issue of trust.
I mean if you can't be honest about the back bone decisions concerning your relationship then why be with them.
Also it is unfair for her to decide when, of if you become a father, this is an issue of power, also you would be left looking after a child you don't want. This is unfair on the child.
BUT people will say to you that you should take care of your own fertility, so use a condom!
2006-07-11 00:53:59 · answer #3 · answered by JennyPenny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask her. Since some females have prombles if they are on it for a long time. Like they don't bleed. Docs tell females to sometime to take a break from them so there body can repair it self. It may be a health issue. So ask her and never assume anything. Maybe she is trying to say that she loves you and want to have your child or a way to say lets get married. Maybe your not getting the clue that she love you and want to be with you for ever. Plus it is her body so no she doesn't have to ask you. But if she didn't tell you then she shouldn't ask for child support, if she tricked you into a child. But she doesn't have to tell you, it is her body. so that is her choice in that one, but you have the choice to not play child support.
2006-07-11 00:11:46 · answer #4 · answered by houtexknights330 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is really unfair use a condom if you still want to sleep with her after this. She is trying to trap you into having a child with her what a selfish and immature girl she has not thought about you or your feeling once ditch her you can do better
2006-07-11 00:13:47 · answer #5 · answered by dizzymooo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should've told you but remember if you play with fire you're bound to get burnt. If you don't want children right now you shouldn't be having sex! Even while on the pill she can still get pregnant and what then. You should re-evaluate your relationship and your priorities.
2006-07-11 00:09:14 · answer #6 · answered by SweetyPie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very scandalous, don't trust her. I really wish that the male birth control pill would hit the US market. That way, the men have just as much of a say so and I bet they wouldn't forget their pill! Good luck.
2006-07-11 00:07:11 · answer #7 · answered by madyx524 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SHocked even i m.u shud have been aware of this.she did it (if she actually did)rather deliberately...the reason u must know coz u know her better than us. all u can do now is get her checked up for pregnancy.if she's not then be cautious from next time on.but if she is..........then only true love can handle.Otherwise it shall be problem 4 both of u.
2006-07-11 00:11:09 · answer #8 · answered by trustadevil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes she should have told you i am a woman and i would never do something like that .if it was me it would be hard for me to ever trust that person id stop having sex with her completely for now teach her a lesson .
2006-07-11 00:15:07 · answer #9 · answered by ocean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how long have you been together? from a girls side i think she should have told you, having kids with someone should surely be a joint decision. tell her you're not ready to have kids and see what happens. good luck!
2006-07-11 00:06:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋