Why do people fight becoming their parents for so long, and then become exactly what they hated?

Question

I grew up with some people who were such rebels. they laughed at their parents, said they'd never get fat, and hated their parents personalities. Yet, those people have become the same boring, fat, losers as their parents were. Why?

Answer 1

Genes!!
Maturity changes you. It's easy when you're young to say that you're not going to be like you're parents. Who hasn't said that? But, you are what you lived to a degree I think. If we grow up listening to our parents fight and argue, or drink or abuse then to children that is normal. That's all they know.

But I also believe we are capable of change as adults and I believe people use those things as an excuse not to change. It's easier. We all know right from wrong. You have to make the right choices. So, you can go through life treating people bad because that's all you knew growing up. Or you can go through life being good to others because you know that's the right thing to do.

Have A Good Day!

Answer 2

As a kid I'd never want to turn off lights. This way I could walk into a room that was not dark and have to fumble for a light switch or walk down a dark hall. This was in spite of my parents always telling me to turn off the light or run around behind me and turn them off. When I was on my own, even in a one bedroom apartment or in my four bedroom house I'd leave lights on in rooms I was not in, just so I'd not worry about walking around in the dark. About two months ago I started turning off all the lights except in the room I was in. About a week ago I realized I was doing this and came to the conclusion "When did I become my dad?"

When I was young and knew everything I thought my parents were nuts when they said "I know from experience!". I thought what a bunch of crap. After stubbing my toes, burning my fingers, burying friends and family that died I realized that the older you get you really DO get experience. In high school I had a teacher tell me (the entire class actually) that we'd likely outlive friends, family, and end up being pawl bearers, plan funerals, or perform other funeral duties. I thought "No way I'm doing that!" I've now been the pawl bearer at three funerals and lowered two caskets into the grave.

The people that have lived through life become who they are because of life. Eventually you will live through enough things that will build who you are. Your parents and elders have done this already. Once you have completed what they have, you will become them because you've lived like them.

Answer 3

that is what is instilled in them from the beginning

Answer 4

human nature you are what you live