I was asked out by a bloke from work, only really thought of him as a freind at first but he's a real gentleman. We were going out for a couple of days but my dad was'nt happy about it because of where he's from. My Dad said it was incase his family did'nt accept me but thats a load of rubbish. I decided to finished it because family come first and working together and going out really does'nt go well together.
Five weeks on and i can't get him out of my head, i see him every day and i cant stand it. I heard that he's got another girlfreind and he's already talking of marrige. Have i made the biggest mistake? Should i have carried on going out with him even though my dad did'nt agree to it?
2006-07-10 23:22:26 · 17 answers · asked by kitty20 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Although you should respect your parent's thoughts, at the end of the day it is your life and it's too short to waste on what other people think, whether it is your parents or friends! You dad was only looking out for you and clearly didn't want to see his daughter get hurt. My dad is just the same over me dating guys and I am nearly 23! Personally, I would have dated the guy, taken things easy, gone t the cinema, spent time together out of work and found out if it would ever be more than friends. As you did state that you only previously saw him as a mate rather than a boyfriend. Sometimes, guys become more attractive when they are not available; it's not the case that you suddenly fancy them, but the attention has gone from you.
I think that if he becomes available again, ask him out to the cinema or for a drink and see where it goes. Think about now, rather than the future, take each day as it comes.
2006-07-10 23:33:21 · answer #1 · answered by charlie_angel3751 1 · 8⤊ 2⤋
At the end of the day are you living your life or your dads?I've been through hell and back and have reached the point where I've realised that you only get one chance at life. So go with what you think,OK some people might disagree especially familly. So sit down and explain to them how you feel about things and how it feels right to you.If they really care and have your interest at heart they'll let you get on with it. If things dont turn out as you'd hopped thry should be there to help and support you with comfort and advice based on ther life experiences, but not tell you what you should or should not do. We all need to make mistakes to learn and build our own life exspriences so we can help others. We all need to reallise that we should only offer advice and not demands even if we think we know better for that individual.
2006-07-10 23:58:20 · answer #2 · answered by ancollins 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's no longer a protection, that is stating the hypocrisy of the right. specifically, that Bush did a lot worse issues that did not look to annoy the right on the time, yet Obama's similar (and frequently a lot smaller) infractions are met with a decision to armed revolt. in aspect of truth, i'm previous indignant with the Obama administration, and that i must be high quality with impeachment lawsuits depending on the abuse of drone technologies, and what I see because the unconstitutional extension of the Patriot Act. i do not fairly care that the right is hounding Obama, except that i do no longer trust that if Romney had received the presidency and were doing the very similar issues, the right ought to say a word, except in his protection. So, the fast answer is that i do not trust the right is trustworthy in its grievance of Obama - i imagine that's oftentimes tactical, no longer moral.
2016-11-06 04:59:23 · answer #3 · answered by heyder 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You live and learn...Sooner or later you'll have to start trusting your own instincts. If this guy's thinking of marrying somebody else already, then he probably wasn't the one for you anyway.
The only way you can find out about a person is to get to know them. Many people get together with colleagues and it's your parents' job to disapprove of your lovers, because parents protect and lovers often hurt us.
Find your own way and your parents will get to know and like anyone who treats you well and makes you happy - trust is earned.
2006-07-10 23:29:34 · answer #4 · answered by jocular_japes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know it's hard to accept but maybe it wasn't meant to be, the best thing you can do now is be happy for him.
i don't think you have made a mistake for two reasons
1. you may meet someone very special and if you'd have stayed with him you may not have met this other person
2. if you are going to end up together again perhaps right now it's not the right time for both of you
2006-07-10 23:30:50 · answer #5 · answered by sali 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on your age. If you are still young then don't worry about it. Chances are you will find someone eventually who will fufill you in ways you never imagined. Family does come first but at the same time you have to follow your heart.
2006-07-10 23:28:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's talking of marriage 5 weeks on, i think staying with him would of been a big mistake, 5 weeks is not long enough to even consider being serious, - i think you've done yourself a favour, i know parent pressue can get to you, and hey you need your family to accept ur descision, but don't foget, its over now, if it was meant to be, it will either come around again, or it wont and it was never meant to be
2006-07-10 23:47:04 · answer #7 · answered by me-jus-me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope
2006-07-10 23:42:41 · answer #8 · answered by Lil mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all you can do is follow your heart if you are over 18 then if you make your bed then family should let you lie in it .mind you some fathers are very protected of there daughters hpe you find what you are looking for
2006-07-10 23:35:26 · answer #9 · answered by martin r 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are over 18 then you should do what makes you happy and not worry about what anyone else thinks.
2006-07-10 23:26:34 · answer #10 · answered by OriginalBubble 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋