what do u advise her to do?

Question

her boyfriend is always checking on her,when ever she gets a call,he will like to know who called,still in doubt,will like to check her phone(4 the calls she has gotten for the day),he doesnt like hearing that a friend visited or that she went out wit a friend.please do i call that love or what?and what do u advise her to do?

Answer 1

Get out of the relationship. This man is controlling and possessive and all signs are leading to the fact that one day he might become violent.

No it's not love it's about control.

Answer 2

There are some serious trust issues in the relationship, the boyfriend is acting in a way that is totally unacceptable.

The boyfriend has no right to keep checking up on her and certainly has no right in checking her phone.
If the girl has cheated on him before then the guy has a right to feel a little untrusting of the girlfriend but he has no right to treat her this way.

She should talk to him and tell him he either stops acting like a jealous husband or she will leave him.

If he tries to hurt her to issues threats then she should get out of there straight away and should refuse to ever have any contact with him again.

Answer 3

She has to get out of that relationship - its poison. Hes a control freak, and it will only get gradually worse. I was once in a relationship similar, but it didnt get to that extent - im not sure if its the same, but in my case, it started out really good, then he gradually got more and more controlling - so slowly that i didnt even realize. I had to end it. And your friend must as well. If hes not already emotinally abusive (which im sure he would be, with his behaviour youve talked about), this looks like the kind of relationship that will quickly turn into a violent one. Hope it all works out for her -

Answer 4

That's too bad. Trust & understanding are the most important thing in a relationship. I think she should break him up. Or tell her feeling towards him. Relationship breaks down when there is no communication. She should discuss about this problem frankly. She won't be happy if he does not change his attitude. If I were her, I would be very angry. And I will break him up right away.

Answer 5

Run away from this man right way . Don't give second thought or i must say don't take further time and chance , just break this relation to be in peace and future happy life . These type of character are very possessive and later they start beating & humiliating their pratners . Go away from his shadow .

Answer 6

there is serious alarm bells my ex was the same that's how it started and before i knew it he had cut me off from all my family and friends and i had no-one else but him and then he started hitting me when i went to shops without him knowing etc. your Friend should get out of that relationship fast. but word of warning she won't like to hear it and she won't listen but when it all blows up in her face make sure you are there for her she'll need your support i just hope she does not let it get that far good luck and remember shes your Friend and you must help her.

Answer 7

She needs to get out while she can. The guy is exhibiting the classic signs of an abuser. He's only going to get more possessive and controlling. She needs to distance herself NOW!

Answer 8

Sounds a bit scary to me.

There is nothing wrong with a man showing an interest and concern but this is a bit much for my liking!

Answer 9

Get a new boyfriend, this one sounds like a controlling, jealous freak. He obviously has issues, and many of these traits are shown by wife beaters.

Answer 10

Get out before she starts visiting casualty. This guy is a control freak & needs serious help!!!!!! It is not love it's control. Why would she need anyone other than him? The jealousy thing will just get bigger & bigger until she becomes a prisoner in his world & their home!! GET OUT NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!