he is now 16 years old and my wife denies to take his responsibility. He is liake a typical teen but the problem is he is wearing g-strings! I asked him, if he was gay and he said no. He has a regular relationship with a nice girl who I know her family too. With that silly looking baggy pants and a g-string he looks terrible. But he says that he likes it. Is it normal for a teen boy doing that?? My wife says, our children should do what ever they want. I don't think so openly! I tried to communicate to my son. I asked why he tried to be different. He strongly disagreed that he was trying to be different, he says he likes the feeling of a g-string... However, if he is not gay? How come he likes the string feeling. I am totally confused. What's more, two other friends from his school have started wearing strings too... How can I get my son giving up wearing that things???
2006-07-10 22:07:26 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Education & Reference ➔ Home Schooling
Hey, Bam wears a G-string, so what's the big deal? If you really want him to stop, forcefully grab him and drag him out in front of the house by the road and duct tape him to a light pole or mail box and cut his pants off so everyone can see him in his G-string. He will be embarrassed and quit. If that doesn't work smack him in the testicles with a tennis racket while he is sleeping. I don't know if that last one will help, but video tape it. It would have to be funny to watch.
2006-07-10 22:17:16 · answer #1 · answered by martin b 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think your answer is here " two other friends from his school have started wearing strings too...". I bet there are others who were wearing them before him. I'm guessing it's a fad, and he'll get over it. I disagree with your wife, generally, that children should do what they want- but maybe that's why she's refusing to get upset over it. Teenagers do some very strange things and then 5 years from now they're totally different and "apparently" normal young adults.
You've done the right thing opening up communication with him and letting him know- he can come to you and talk about it. If he's got a problem he knows it's OK to talk to you. If you get upset or judge him, then "if" there is a problem he won't be able to come to you. As long as he feels it's OK to come to you- you can be comforted that he will probably be fine.
2006-07-10 22:20:29 · answer #2 · answered by niteowl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow!...I also have a 16 year old son. I feel for ya. I will tell you this he is more than likely not gay. lol. I believe that children and teens should have(some) opinion on what they wear, but if it is inappropriate to you then dont be affraid to shut it down. Personally if it was my son i would not allow it. When he gets older you cant control what he does. It is our(your) responsability to set an example in your own home. If he is anything like my son he is more than likely doing it to see what reactions he will get. I wonder what reaction you would get if you started wearing one dad...lol...how would your son and wife feel about that? In any case its not the end of the world ..but out of respect for you he should not expose his thong!....
2006-07-17 15:57:26 · answer #3 · answered by C J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of all the worries in this awful complex scary world, your son's fashion choices or sexual identity are really unimportant compared to your building a lifetime of trust, closeness and communication. We live in a cookie cutter world so kids need to define themselves in odd ways and as they push boundaries it's helpful if you just let them be. Just as in medicine, the first rule of parenting should be "First do no harm". To let your gay fears out is to secretly tell your son that your love has limits and conditions. He is learning to be a man by you and learning women through your wife. I know it's scary to think of a gay son but if you had a choice of healthy wealthy wise and gay would you take it over no son at all? If you can let him be, you will find that he will return to you and make choices not those unlike yours. these are his years to screw up and to learn. If you can be big enough and brave enough to let him. I think over time you might be amazed how he comes around.
2006-07-10 22:18:57 · answer #4 · answered by christopher7329 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
at 16 is a rebellious stage and won't listen much but it is also a stage that will mound his characters. if you restrict him even to what he likes and the likings have nothing to do with good or bad of course he won't listen. wearing g-strings is normal in this era. don't worry too much give him some free will to do what he likes and he will listen to you when you give your son the feelings that you respect him as adult.
2006-07-11 05:10:10 · answer #5 · answered by revelc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him be, the more of an issue you make of it, the more he will put it in your face. Teens do weird stuff and get over it. Be glad he's not piercing his face or genitals or something. In comparison to what a lot of teens do, I'd forget about this one.
2006-07-12 16:07:46 · answer #6 · answered by ♥monamarie♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See, now here's a clever pervert. He makes up a story about his "son" to get a discussion going about guys in g-strings.
Sorry to burst your bubble there dude, but you're obviously a perve. Go look in the mirror and say "NO NO NO BAD PERVERT!"
2006-07-10 22:13:33 · answer #7 · answered by anseru 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont buy him such stuff there is something wrong with this dont allow him to weare it in your house stand firm what kind of parrent would you be if you allowed him to do what ever he wants call the scholl tell themyou dont want this allowed in scholl i bet there are more that want this out of scholl then in its gay
2006-07-10 22:13:03 · answer #8 · answered by polkahaunis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop looking at his unders and finding hidden meanings.
Don't give it another thought.
2006-07-10 22:11:21 · answer #9 · answered by Valerie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It may just be a fad. Can you think of anything stupid you did in the name of fashion?
2006-07-10 22:11:08 · answer #10 · answered by The Apple Chick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋