My mother passed last year, and it's been difficult to view church the same?

Answer 1

That is not uncommon to feel that way my hubby felt the same way when his mother passed. but as time passed his heart did heal and he did understand the Lord does things for a reason and it was her time to be with Him. with time you will be right with the church and God again. Meanwhile keep in mind all the good things He has done for you in your life.

Answer 2

It is sad that your mom has passed, my dad passed not long ago and I know how I felt. In some ways maybe similar as you might feel currently though there may be differences. People don't seem to really know what to think about death. Sometimes they talk about it as if it is glorious after you die and it's nothing to fear. Other times they sure act as if it should be avoided at all cost so we try to eat better or not smoke so we'll live longer. And they go all out medically to save a person's life, but then say at church "be not afraid".
If you are like me, you may not go to church often so now when you do go it seems painful because it only reminds you of the time period in which your mother passed. The thing that has helped me was when I came to an understanding that first of all people don't know what to think about death, so they are'nt a very good guide-I better trust my own feelings. Secondly I miss my dad alot at times and other times it's easier and it will take a long time until it doesn't hurt, but I know how I feel about it. And church has been a place where I've had alot of good experiences too, or at least it wasn't always a bad experience. So church might always remind me of the saddest day of my life, church can also be a place where I can remember some of the best times with him and things we did as well. Sometimes I feel angry at God for allowing this to happen, but I think God understands how I feel. I believe this person is fine and with God, I feel they are okay. I miss them badly and don't understand how this could have happened, but I know they would want me to be as happy as I could be. So this is really one of the most difficult experiences in life that happens. But by going through it, I am learning to trust how I feel even when others don't agree, and that if there is a God, he knows how I feel and it's okay to be mad at God for awhile. But as time goes on I feel stronger and know what my dad or mom would want me to do, and it's all a part of life. And every day it gets a little better. Mykalangelo

Answer 3

Who said your mother is dead? Didn't your Church tell you that no one really dies. Most of what all religions try to convey is this aspect of Metaphysics. None of us can die. Only our bodies die - they are perishible. The soul cannot die. Your mother is with you. Ultimately, you will also reach a plane that's different from the one you are on now. From there you will see that all happenings on this plane (life on earth) is just a sort of a drama - something unreal. If people who lose loved ones are going to be blaming and rejecting the Church, then no churches in the world will have a congregation. On the contarary, get closer to your Church. Understand the inner meanings of the scriptures. You will learn more about life and death and the immortality of the soul. You will not feel any grief then - or at least you will feel consoled. Actually, the immortality of the soul is only the real thing and all else in this world is Maya (illusion), including relationships. Wealth is Maya, Time is Maya (There is no past, present or future - there is only timlessness), even our very bodily being is Maya. Only the soul is real. YOUR MOM IS WITH YOU DEAR. CHEER UP AND WARM UP TO GOD WHO CARES FOR YOU REALLY. AND BELIEVE ME YOU ARE GOING TO BE FEELING MUCH MUCH BETTER.

Answer 4

There is a great sense of loss when someone passes, especially a parent or sibling. Church does not change, at least not in any significant way. Most religions adhere to pretty steady philosophies. If church had meaning to you before your Mother's passing, it will continue to give you what you need. My condolences for your loss.

Answer 5

I'm sorry for your loss. What in particular is difficult to view about church as the same?

Also, maybe you should not be viewing church the same way. Death, when it strikes close to us, very often starts us thinking about eternal things.

It starts to make us realize that this life is very short and we all are going to die and face the afterlife.

That's perfectly normal. That is also part of how God makes us think about eternal things. He reminds us we aren't (our physical bodies) immortal. And we do have to think about what we are here for and what we are doing (or not doing) with our lives here.

Answer 6

Because you did not explicate as to how you view church differently now that your mother has passed away it is difficult to give an answer.
I sense and can identify with your loss,as I am sure all of us who have lost someone we hold dear to us can, my condolences.
It can only be one of two things. Either you mean your view of church has changed because you went to church for your mother and not for your own desire to be there. or you mean your view of church has change because you blame God for her death.
If you went just because she did and now you don't feel compelled you must examine your own belief system and decide what is the best way for you to develop your relationship with God
If you blame God for her death-don't.God does not kill us nor does he take us before our time to be with him or because he needs another angel.First of all Angels are created to serve man so your mom is not an Angel he needs she is already more than any angel could ever be.Secondly God does not take us nor is death a reprieve or punishment,but rather it is the final stage of life on earth.Jesus said he is going and where he goes we can not follow but he will come back,and in his fathers house are many mansions and he goes to prepare one for each of us.When death is at our doorstep we can only ask for and accept God's perfect will. If in his plan,which he has for us all individually,you have come to the point of the end of your journey on earth,(it comes at a different time for all of us some sooner than others)then death should be welcomed,as it is your time to go on to your mansion and dwell in peace and paradise forever.If it is not your natural time but evil or disease or another's actions have brought death to your doorstep then if asked God will restore or heal you, until it is your appointed time.This only happens when we seek his perfect will and accept whatever that will is.The idea is its all about faith in God's perfect will, especially when reason leaves you drawing blanks.It is also his promise that we will see and be joined again with those we knew and loved and shall all who choose dwell in the house of the lord.
So be of good cheer brother, open your heart,and do not let anyone or thing confuse you into thinking you should abandon your faith,just because it was your mom's time to head to her mansion, be happy that her troubles are no more.

Answer 7

Do you associate the church with your mother's funeral, or is it that most of your fondest memories of your mother involves church? Or, are you questioning God, "Why did you take my mother?" The only thing I can suggest is forcing yourself to deal with your situation. That is the only way that you will heal, because you would be forcing yourself to deal with the pain. I can't imagine what it is like to lose my mother. I lost my father, but I know that that isn't the same.

I am sorry for your loss, but you will have to live one day at a time. Will yourself to trust God again. He will provide you peace.

Answer 8

See what the Bible has to say about death read all
Ecclesiastes 9:1-18

5 For the living are conscious that they will die; but as for the dead, they are conscious of nothing at all, neither do they anymore have wages, because the remembrance of them has been forgotten. 6 Also, their love and their hate and their jealousy have already perished, and they have no portion anymore to time indefinite in anything that has to be done under the sun.

Answer 9

If it's due to the visualizations from the burial, and I think that;s what you mean. Try another church for a little while anyway. You'll know if & when you should return to the former. Don't worry about it< Our Higher Power is everywhere!!!



Anoni.

Answer 10

am so sorry for your loss. I know when my grandmother died in 96 her and my mom went to the same church my mom just couldn't go back it just didn't feel right for her was to painful maybe u need to a different church?