help what should i do?

Question

My Brothers girlfriend annoys me so much.
At the moment i am pondering what i should do about this. This is why i feel like this.
Me and my brother were always close but she does his head in that much when he comes round my house he dosent bother anymore. Every time he comes round to play on the comp with my partner she turns up so she can sit with him but if he goes anywhere with her family i.e her brother or her dad she dosent bother him. when he is at my house she is constantly phoning the house phone or texting him but none of that goes on if he is with a member of her family. Every morning she will phone my parent house and ask for him my mom will say he is in bed 10 mins later she knocks on the door and goes and gets him up. They are teenagers but she goes on like they are married.
She seems to panick when he is either round mine or my parents.
He recently cheated on her she found out and begged to get back with him the same day!!!!
what should i do vent my fury or let go!!!

if u had bothered to read it properly kewl u will c i have a partner

Answer 1

I know it must be hard for you to watch this happen with your brother but that is all you should continue to do, just watch and say nothing. This is for your brother to sort out and maybe he would not appreciate you getting involved and then it would come between you and your brother. I know you care for your brother and want so much to help him but don't get involved, just be there for him when he needs you. All the best x

Answer 2

If your brother is living at home, your parents need to set up some house/phone guidelines and keep them. That you feel you have to do something means your parents must not be taking responsibility for what goes on in the house. It is not healthy for you to be distraught over the situation with the girl friend's behavior which is totally inappropriate.

First: Have a serious talk with your brother and tell him honestly and respectfully how you are being affected.

Second: Have a serious talk with mom and dad.

Third: Encourage having a family discussion

Fourth: Encourage the family to seek family counseling

Fifth: If all else fails, go to your school counselor and ask for help.

I hope you find a peaceful solution to your family problem.
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Added Comment: uhhh??? You have a partner? It was hard to read your info properly. It wasn't easily understood.

Answer 3

At a guess she is feeling very insecure about the relationship. The fact that he cheated on her is no doubt a big part of that. She is afraid that when he is with someone outside of her family there is a possibility that he could be persuaded to leave her. I would suggest you just give it time. If your brother really wants to be with her then he will and if it dies a death then it will anyway. It is a part of life that things change and that includes family relationships too. You give no indication as to your ages so it is hard to say much more.

Answer 4

Actually you are feeling jealous of your brother's girlfriend and therefore you are picky on her. Everything she does will not look right to you. You are jealous because prior to her existance your brother have been very close with you and your family and likewise now. You brother is trying to fit in to her family as he is also new the her enviroment. Being in love and aso an inmature teenager she doesn't know her limitations therefore her actions are childish and which can be inrritating. She doesn't realize her over actions which has actually hurt you. Perhaps you can take it as though she is inmature thus you can accept her better.

Answer 5

What you really want is some quality time with your brother. Tell him that without attacking his girlfriend's annoying behavior. Make a few suggestions for things you can do together. Just let him know you miss the fun you two used to have.

Answer 6

poor you, she is jealous of you and maybe feels a bit insecure of the good relationship you and your brother have. I dont think she means to be the way she is with you. Have you tried going shopping just the two of you or going to the cinema. Once she gets to know you she will see why your brother loves you so much and realise how much fun you can all have together. Good luck tiger x

Answer 7

Get over it I say and get yourself a boyfriend/girlfriend of your own. You gotta think that even though your and your brother are close, your both 2 different people. He's never gonna stop loving you and know's you'll always be there for him when they break up.

Answer 8

I think you should talk to your brother about this because he's the only one who can make her stop.. tell him you dont like the way she acts around you and your family and that you dont get the chance to be with him since she is always around.. Tell him nicely to put her in her place.. I'm sure your brother will listen to you ..

Answer 9

Let it go, they must learn on their own. If you try to point this out to him it may do more harm than good to what relationship you have left with him. Just try to avoid her, don't say anything negative. And then when he dumps her just let him know you are still there for him.
Hopefully if he is not happy with her, he will wake up soon.

Best of luck to you

Answer 10

My Stepmother does this with my dad, except when he's out at sea (my dad's a commercial fisherman), she goes to the bar and sleeps with another guy, according to my uncle and aunt, who have proof. She also hates his side of the family, my entire family (my mom's and my dad's side), my twin brother, my stepsister's father and his family, her mother, and me. She's being possesive, and you need to tell your brother she's trying to control him, and that a relationship needs to be co-piloted. If you have any questions, ask me at [e-mail].

Answer 11

Rise above it. She's not worth the stress. Your brother is the one to deal with it. Otherwise you might damage your relationship with him.
Go out when she's around, or lock yourself away in your room.
Why not try and build a relationship with her? You may have a few things in common.......... Otherwise she'll have the satisfaction of thinking that it's you that's jealous of her.....