i was with this guy for about a year then when he found out i was pregnant he ditch i decided on keeping the baby has this happened to you how did your life turn out so fair?
2006-07-10 21:34:24 · 49 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
thanks for your answers
2006-07-10 22:00:55 · update #1
First congrads on being a mom. Second yes that happens. I would not have done that to you or to any women. Children are God's gift to us an human beings. I would want to be in my childrens lives.
2006-07-19 12:38:12 · answer #1 · answered by mikeae 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Good 4 u! That takes courage & strength. The same thing happened 2 my sister. She was with this guy for about a year & when he found out she was pregnant, he migrated! But my sister had her baby ( he's 8 yrs. old now) and later on she became a police officer and is now persuing her degree in law. Go girl. Some people like 2 make u think b'cuz u had a baby it's the end of the world. That's not true. Don't let people hinder ur goals in life. Just keep on keeping on. God Bless!
2006-07-20 08:42:34 · answer #2 · answered by triniallstar_4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, the exact same thing happened to me. I was in a serious relationship with this guy for a year and a half, yet the minute he found out I was pregnant, he left me.
He even tried to spread rumours that the baby wasn't his, although nobody believed them, since we were together almost all the time. It was his baby, and he knew it!
I kept the baby, and I now have a beautiful four year old boy. He is the light of my life and I wouldn't change him for the world. It was quite difficult for the first couple of years, and I was very lucky to have my mum beside me helping me all the way.
I left home just over a year ago, and my son has just started calling my boyfriend (of over a year now) "dad". They get on really well, and my boyfriend is a model father, even if he is not a blood relation.
The only thing I fear, is if my ex - (my son's dad) decides to try to take part in my son's life one day. He really has no claim though, as he was not there through my pregnancy and he has never paid any child support.
I say well done for deciding to keep the baby, and good luck! There will be hard times, good times and GREAT times. Enjoy, and I hope you find a man like mine one day, so that your baby can have the father it really deserves.
K x
2006-07-10 22:55:32 · answer #3 · answered by Krissyinthesun 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I read your question I thought I wrote it. My life has turned out OK. I have a good job and good family support. My daughter is now 11 yrs old, she went through a period of asking where her daddy was when she was about 4. But I explained to her that he lives out of town. I always made excuses for him hoping that she will not ever think she was not good enough for him. But now, she doesn't want anything to do with him, she had a huge softball tournament and he told his grandfather to tell her that he was going to come, and she called him and told him not to bother. My daughter is very well rounded, she is an A+ student involved in band, she plays the clarinet. All is good, even without him. She has really turned out to be a good person.
2006-07-20 08:35:03 · answer #4 · answered by aufans71 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my friend was in this same sistuation, infact they were together longer than that then she got pregnant and boom he was out of there, then even tried saying it wasnt is kid once he was about 1 even though he looked just like him. His mother raised him all by her self. (she was and still is a teanager) she has been a very wonderful mom. Thankfully the father has decided it really was his child and is now trying to make some effort to see the baby. He is also paying child support:-) its hard for her every single day but she does it, and she does it good. I know she wouldnt change it for the world.
2006-07-10 21:54:49 · answer #5 · answered by sera 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can not even see any reason to father a child and than just bail? Your baby don't need that chump around anymore (the sperm was all he had worth giving I guess !!) What a looser did nobody tell him that sex with your baby's mama is awesome hot ? and seeing your offspring being born- first teeth- words- steps- all of that good stuff? my daughter is 11 yrs old and she makes the most righteous sandwiches (the benefits never end HA HA HA ) I wish you all the best and remember to get as much support for the baby anywhere you can and if looser shows up one day tell him to get lost.....( he knows the way already...right? )
2006-07-23 04:38:56 · answer #6 · answered by budlowsbro420 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you for keeping that baby!
It turns out different for everyone. It just depends on the path you yourself take. Just make sure to take the right path, ( no drugs, excursive drinking, things like that) just be the best mommy you can be, and things will work out. I'm not saying things wont be hard, but it will work out. My mom was a single mother of three, and all of us turned out great.
One last thing, take that man to court and get child seaport. Just because he wants nothing to do with the baby doesnt mean he has no responsibility's. He needs to pay for the child too. You r not the only one that created the child.
Good luck!!!!
2006-07-24 08:45:16 · answer #7 · answered by butterfly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same situation right now and everythings great at first i didnt think id make it cause i was only 15 when i found out but now that shell be 4 in jan everythings great i'm about to marry my bf i've been with for a year even tho hes not her dad he loves her like he is and hed do anyth ing for her just because you've let one jerk touch your life doesnt mean youll never find a great guy to help you dont worry about it just keep your baby and do the best you can and cherish every moment with them cause they grow up so fast goodluck!
2006-07-23 13:43:30 · answer #8 · answered by cutenwild1769 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was in this situation with my first son. I knew his sperm donner for 5 months and then when he found out I was preg he ditched. Don't worry everything will be ok. If you are determined to make it work it will. Everything happens for a reason. This child is a blessing in that you don't even know yet. If you need anymore help don't be afraid to email me. I can help you cope the best I can.
2006-07-11 02:51:02 · answer #9 · answered by adidasgurl68 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i cant tell you how it turned out cuz its not happening to me and its not even over yet but my best friend is in the same situation kinda. she got pregnant and at first the guy was all marry me and ill support all three of us and now hes all i dont love u like i thought and hes dating another girl now. she is also keeping the baby.
i think if u have enough support from ur family and friends you should be fine and live a happy, healthy life with your child.
2006-07-10 21:40:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Props for you... I was raised that if you play you pay... Meaning if I felt I was old enough to do the act I had to be ready for the possibilitys. Take him to court after the babys born. You can be a wonderful mother with out having a father in the picture. My kids father and I got a divorice a few years ago and he has nothing to do with them. My kids know that its okay because they are really special....Why because not every kid has a mom special enough to be a MOM/DAD LOL. My friends and family supports this to them as well. Good luck!
2006-07-23 17:39:38 · answer #11 · answered by shakai1014 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋