well, here it goes... i've been with my ex on and off for the past three years..i gave him more chances than you can think off after he broke my heart several times. i think i am too soft. so he left me to further his studies in england, it was his choice, he told me 'maybe he doesn't love me enough'..over the phone during my major exam period. (yeah..inconsiderate!) then i haven't heard from him for about three months then he sent me an email 'sending his regards', i didn't reply for a couple of months and just recently he sent me another one (long one), telling me about his time over there and the ppl he meets etc. and about how he'll never forget the past memories of us...and that he'll treasure it in his heart forever blabla. i told him before he left that if he needs a listener i will be the person to listen to all his problems and help him out etc. but then things turned out sour and now in this email he supposedly wants meto b some1 he can talk 2. wat shall i do? is he over me?
2006-07-10 21:21:44 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
should i reply? i know he is soooooooo NOT worth it after all that he has done to me! every now and then i still get hurt from thinking about about what he did to me(i cried until i have no tears left), i mean i personally believe, u can forgive that person but u can't forget. i can't say if i am over him or not, because right now, i am just living my life. *plz give me meaningful and proper answers* thanks
2006-07-10 21:24:40 · update #1
oh..and also...he said in the email that he doesn't want to lose contact with a person whom he has gone a long way before (me)... maybe he just wanna be close friend with me. but i don't feel that it is right. am i being too childish? i just don't want to be friends....
2006-07-10 21:36:43 · update #2
*i made him a cd of pictures of us and some messages for him to treasure before he left...he has been looking at it...hence that's why he can't forget... (mentioned in email) .
2006-07-10 21:41:20 · update #3
mitr says.... care for the person who cares for you and forget about the one who doesn't...
life is like that sweetheart.... poeple who are too forgiving, like you, will never be able to survive it... you have to be hard.... and you have to be strong... people who bend, keep on bending....
the guy has taken you for granted... to him you are like "if no one is there, you are there .." kind... do you want to be a substitute in your life.... just because he is not able to get anyone there, he wants someone to talk to ... and that some one will be his ex... thats ridiculous.. he just wants to keep his options open... he just want to win you back via this method....
he is not worth it girl... based on my experience on these issues... he is not worthy of the response that you are giving....
love the person who will love you..... without conditions......
2006-07-10 21:28:02 · answer #1 · answered by mitr_hamesha 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I was reading your email and I didn't know whether I should cry or laugh! :)
Because I have just had the same thing with my ex.. The only difference is that I am studying in UK and he is in Ukraine and I broke up with him because I could no longer be in a distance relationship (it has been 2 years)... Well I am behaving exactly the way ur ex is behaving.. I have sent him messages and emails saying how much I miss talking to him and how I will never forget him... Well as I can slightly imagine what ur ex is feeling now I can tell you, no he is not over u! This hurts like hell to break up with someone! HE still can't get all of the great memories out of his head.. I still think about my ex every day and I doubt whether I did the right thing!!!! I even have a new bf, but I still didn't stop loving my ex...HE also told me that he will always be there for me... so I took advantage of it and started telling him how I feel and this way I have hurt him even more... He told me to get lost and I am sure he feels better now...I would advise u to do the same.. It will just hurt if he continues to write to you
2006-07-11 04:30:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like you two, or at least him, were at one point in love with each other. Maybe it was one of your early and deeper loves. You can never forget each other and the times you had. You can only move on. I've been with my wife for over 10 years and every now and then an old girlfriend pops into my mind. Sometimes I'm doing something that I did with someone else and I just think about what they might be doing now. Sometimes I think back to hot times I had or hot times I passed up on.
It sounds like he might have had a rough time and began thinking back to a happier time when he was with you. That doesn't necessarily mean he wants to be back with you. Maybe for a couple days, but not back for a long relationship. I personally think that once people break up then they are finished. There should be no going back. If you were unhappy with a relationship and needed to "make sure" they were the right person, then what caused your doubt in the first place. You said yourself that you've been on and off before and he's not worth it. There are 6 billion people in the world. I'm sure that you can find someone that is worth your efforts and love.
2006-07-11 04:33:44 · answer #3 · answered by Cheese 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well from your additional details it seems like deep inside you wanna hear "yes, talk to him reply him" blablabla.... look, you have already made it quite obvious that you know he's a jerk. so has everyone else. you know you're not about to gain anything from him except waiting even longer for nothing.
he's probably bored over there, or just got dumped by his latest girlfriend, and needed to hear from you to feel like someone cares (sorry if this sounds harsh). no, he's NOT going to change.
so the life you're living (which you probably feel is lifeless, pointless, worthless without his love, etc etc etc) is much better than you'd have with him. at the end of the day, your love is one-sided and you can't possibly have a good life with him if he simply doesn't give a damn
tell him good for him if he misses you, he best treasure the time he had with you, coz he's not about to get it back... and do something really good for yourself!!!!
2006-07-11 04:32:51 · answer #4 · answered by conspicuous 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he does not respect your feeling? you told him that because you did want to loose him but now do you have any idea what he is doing over there so the best thing to do just call it quite just be his friend but at the end it will break you heart more than you ever imagine so move on with your life put him a past tense?and he find someone he can vomite too and that you?so be wise gal because you can find someone better than him
2006-07-11 04:30:17 · answer #5 · answered by mima t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's been over you ever since he took the plane to merry old England, can't you see? He just wants a chatting partner and he can get them by the sackfull from Internet chatting rooms. Get over him, my dear and faithful lady and start your new life by looking for someone kind and considerate who can be worthy of you sensitive spirit and high, sincere emotions. With all my best wishes for a happy and fruitful future. God bless.
2006-07-11 04:31:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not mean to be mean but quit beating a dead horse get over it and move on. He is not worth your time and I am pretty sure there is another guy for you out there somewhere. So just move on and let Mr. Right come to you. Good luck and God bless
2006-07-11 04:38:19 · answer #7 · answered by Iceman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should stop letting yourself be tortured by someone that doesn't seem to want a relationship with you. He's already shown he can't be dependable, doesn't care for your feelings, and doesn't bring anything good to your life. I know it's difficult to let go of someone, but the longer you put it off, the harder it will be.
2006-07-11 04:28:23 · answer #8 · answered by Awesome Bill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's over you. His behaviour is abominable. But if you feel ok, you can still listen to him. Better yet, you can load _him_ with your problems, and if he finds a problem with that... well, he deserves it.
But don't think he will want to get togethr with you again, even if he tells you so. From my experience... maybe he doesn't love you enough ... means he _doesn't_ love you enough, and you'd feel better if you move on.
2006-07-11 04:28:34 · answer #9 · answered by AlphaOne_ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what u have to do! try and ignore his email and block him ok maybe not block him but dont reply then he will just break ur heart and use you dont even think about him ok find another guy hope it works out 4 u see ya
2006-07-11 04:41:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋