Why does my girlfriend want to spend so much time with me? Our relationship is going perfect. We go out to for dinner, a movie here and there, and our sex is wonderful. We've been going out with each other for 6 months now. Here's the problem. Now she's becoming too attached to me to where she wants me to be with her every single day. From my perspective, I can fairly say that she might want to spend like everyday with me because she enjoys my company or is it? We have sex like everytime we hook up and now it's getting boring. It's not exiciting like how it used to be. Everyday she automatically assumes that i want to see her when sometimes I don't. It's hard for me to say that i don't want to see her so I always fall for her and pick her up that day. Can somebody tell me why some women get to that stage when they want to take all of their man's time? Please go into details. Thank you.
2006-07-10 21:18:03 · 8 answers · asked by Just_Asking 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think she loves you too much
2006-07-10 21:22:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like the problem is that she is far more into you, than you are to her. You just plain HAVE to be honest with her, there is no beating around the bush. Not all women get to a stage where they want to spend every spare hour of every day with their boyfriend....even princes like you. You are six months in, you better put your foot down now, and I mean right this minute. She will not cut back on her own, and if you keep bending, you are showing her that if she pushes, you will cave. She sounds too needy. You may be cute, and maybe the sex for her is hot hot hot, but it still isn't an excuse to want to be with you all the time. She sounds like a cling on, maybe even has serious issues that you won't see for a while. Anyway, this isn't normal female behavior. You should be able to have days where you do your own thing without a problem, you should also be able to communicate better with her. Don't worry about hurting her feelings, just tell her how you feel and if she can't handle it: 1. Too bad and 2. You will have more insight as to what you are dealing with. At this point, you might want to find out if she is a nut, so that you can start doing some scraping off if you need to, before you get in too deep.
2006-07-11 04:39:22 · answer #2 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She sounds like a bit of a clinger. Seeing your girlfriend often is good and normal, but everyday isn't. Doesn't she have other friends to see, or doesn't she have a job, or homework/studying to do? If she just automatically assumes that you want to see her everyday and expects you to, then she sounds a bit selfish and is not considerate that you need time and space for yourself, too. I think you should remind her that the world doesn't revolve around her. Does she always want to see you because she really loves you and your company or is it because she has nothing else to do and no one else to see? Maybe she wants to see you everyday because she doesn't trust you. If she has trust issues, convince her that you're honest and faithful to her.
2006-07-11 04:26:39 · answer #3 · answered by pureessence 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Lets see, 6 months, sex almost every night, and you dont want to be with her anymore...
Or, you want her on "your terms"...
Lets face it buddy, she thinks your in LOVE with her! As she is in love with YOU!
But, apparently she is only passing time in your book as something to pass the time and get out of my face when you dont want to see her...
It doesnt work like that guy!!! She is investing time in you...
Trying to satisfy you so that you will love her, and want her...
Do her a favor and tell her how you feel, and quit stringing her along. Sure, it will break her heart, and we may end up telling her what a smuck you are, in Questions and Answers, but, it will do her good to find some one who loves her, and uses her for your pleasure.
You are the type who wont commit and I feel sorry for you, and the wonderful woman who is going to be very dissapointed in learning that she is "boring sex"...
I wish you well..
Jesse
2006-07-11 04:25:55 · answer #4 · answered by x 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i can sympathize with you on that one for sure bud, i would have to say that it would be particularaly hard to spend time with someone who realy has nothing in commen with you, you can atleast try and gety her involved with the things that you enjoy doingthe most and see if that make.s things more interesting. and if that doessnt work then id have to say that you wernty patient enough to find somone who is comatrible with you by means of things in commen.
2006-07-11 04:27:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Seems like you want your cake and eat it too, You sound selfish if you don't mean her any good leave her don't waste her time at all she deserves someone who wants to be with her
2006-07-11 04:21:20 · answer #6 · answered by Neek-Neek 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
CAREFUL CAREFUL CAREFUL!!!! She might be getting too attached and could potentially be developing a stalker complex. Be very cautious as to how you break things off if you decide to.
2006-07-11 04:24:56 · answer #7 · answered by Cheese 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She has an attachment disorder, she has become co-dependent and it will only get worse if you do not talk to her. Is she always trying to make plans?
2006-07-11 04:23:59 · answer #8 · answered by Dude 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋