This guy I like, tells me he wants to see me again several times via either email or a phone call . Then he pulls away and I haven't recieved a sweet email from him in about two months. I did emai him for clarification and he said he needs to focus on him self. what does this mean ???????????? why is he pulling away???
I send him a card to thank for responding to that emaill but have recieved no response..
2006-07-10 20:37:12 · 18 answers · asked by freetodiscoverself 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Did not meet him on the internet. I am 100% sure he is not married. I have friends who are friends with his friends. And we live about 5 hours apart.
2006-07-11 07:46:50 · update #1
Some guys are really shy and when things start moving too fast they get scared...or he has been hurt before and is just making sure....sometimes it takes awhile before the hurt goes away
2006-07-10 20:40:53 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
once, there were two people who lived in the mountains, and were very close to each other. so close that there was almost no distance between them at all; just a short foot bridge. they cared for each other and were curious, excited, and eager, and without thinking about it they moved closer all the time.
Then one of the two spoke, and invited the other to cross the bridge between them. Immediately a chasm opened up between them, and what was once a short foot bridge became uncrossable miles, and the one who was spoken to suddenly did not want this anymore, although before it was spoken it seemed like it would have been the natural thing to do.
Later, the one who was spoken to thinks about why he or she had this feeling, and caused the world to split open between them, and realizes that maybe it would be better to cross the bridge and to be together. But it is too late, the distance between them now is one that could never be crossed even if they had all eternity to do it.
Nobody knows why things are like this between people sometimes. Neither does anybody have a solution to this problem.
2006-07-10 21:12:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-01 01:16:35 · answer #3 · answered by fellman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the internet is an impersonal forum.
People can do crazy things, and promise the world to you and not think anything of it, because its the "internet", and anything goes on this forum.
But in person, its a different animal. He has to face you and if something like this happened face to face, then he would be more reluctant to do this sort of thing.
Its why I dont believe in internet dating, or long distance internet relationships.
I know of a couple of kids, who strung a few females along, and one was even coming across the entire USA to meet him, and he was only doing this for something to do and as a joke to see how many he "COULD" string along... (I didnt see the amusing factor in it at all, and got my cousin to stop letting him using his computer because of it).
But, as internet dating goes, its up to the person, and your person looks like he may have found another one to string along.
I wish you well..
Jesse
2006-07-10 20:43:39 · answer #4 · answered by x 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a long distance barrier and he probably finds it too complicated to deal with it and figures it's not worth his time to go through the trouble. Either that or he's married or in another relationship and is trying to refocus. Men sometimes act more weird than women do. Good luck!
2006-07-10 20:44:01 · answer #5 · answered by exotica 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I completely hate it when guys do this to us!! I have a few theories of my own but the most logical seems to be that he just wasn't that interested, or he's too afraid of his feelings. All i really know is that if he asks for space or "me time" give it to him. You won't be doing either of you any good by butting in when he wants you out. Good luck!!
2006-07-10 20:40:07 · answer #6 · answered by mlove1307 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Everyone of us is different - male or female. I've had girls really encourage me and, then turn thier backs on me, when there seemed to be no reason. Each of us has our own reasons. Afraid your guy has someone or something else in mind. It hurts!
2006-07-10 21:00:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he was probably trying to let you down by avoiding you..and then telling you he needs to focus on him self was probably just an excuse ...more than likely hes got another girl friend..its been two months you should be totally over him....move on
2006-07-10 20:41:58 · answer #8 · answered by LoLa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is the result of finding a friend by internet. go find a real bf and leave the fake ones in hell.
2006-07-10 20:40:47 · answer #9 · answered by manalonedubai 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is seeing some one else thats the truth u should know
he dun wanna stay but its not ur falt ignore him if he isnt with tsomone else he will go crazy and he will be back to the sweet emails
good luck
2006-07-10 20:40:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋