my ex called me 2 days ago.i didn't answer.but i felt really depressed.she left me 5 yrs ago.then,she calls me periodically.why she calls me altough she has a boyfriend? when i ask her to start again,she says "no"
i hate this situation! but i can't save myself :(
What should i do?? Pls help...
2006-07-10 19:48:42 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't entertain her. She just wants to find a resting place maybe coz she's not happy with her new dude. Please get this from me, she's after destroying you. Don't answer ANY of her cals!
2006-07-10 19:56:18 · answer #1 · answered by Miss M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she has a disorder common to many women (and many men, for that matter); she has a severe case of not knowing what the **** she wants. In a case like this it is up to you to undertake decisive action. In some ways this is good because it puts all the power in your hands. In other ways it is more difficult, because even if you give her something great that would be very good for her she will still resist, because one of the side effects of not knowing what the **** you want is also not knowing what the **** is good for you.
My recommendation would be to block her calls. She's never thinking about you. She's only thinking about herself, and that's pretty ****ed up because she probably doesn't even know who the **** she is
2006-07-11 02:56:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
call her back... than you'll stop wondering.
I called my ex of 5 years and according to his Mom he has a girlfriend (actually she said he's in a serious relationship, come to think of it she didn't say girl/boyfriend), if she did take the message and give it to him he hadn't ever called back.
It seems he got in this "serious" relationship right after our serious relationship (or during?) He's the only ex I haven't been able to talk to and since he broke up with me long distance over the phone it seems incomplete.
What makes you think she ahs a boyfriend?
2006-07-11 02:55:21 · answer #3 · answered by double v 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one, you could stop trying to re-live the past. You ended the relationship for a reason. She probably needs to feel secure by knowing you are still there for her. Forget about this situation and meet other ppl.
2006-07-11 02:54:35 · answer #4 · answered by lost_realist_84 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep ignoring her. If that doesnt work change your number and let only the people you receive calls from know about the change in advance.
2006-07-11 03:21:12 · answer #5 · answered by Ycul72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore her phone calls, she is using you to make herself feel better and, I am just guessing here, her new boyfriend is not all he is cracked up to be. If you accidentally take a call from her, like if she calls from another number, tell her to go screw herself. Find yourself another!!!!!
2006-07-11 02:53:19 · answer #6 · answered by simplyfabulous 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
beat your phone against your head for being an idiot for all these years. It's over. Get a hotter girl now.
2006-07-11 02:52:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on, she has.
She's taking the 'let's still be friends' line to far.
Get out, get dating.
2006-07-11 02:53:03 · answer #8 · answered by Whisper4691 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u cant b in a relationship...u can stil b frnds wid her....may b she feels close to u and considers u as a gud frnd and jus wants to talk to u.....try talkin wid her abt dis......ask her if shes happy wid her current bf.....all the best
2006-07-11 02:53:34 · answer #9 · answered by gotscr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i know this is going to sound cruel, but maybe she wants to be just friends and maybe she feels sorry for you. you can't just sit around and feel sorry for yourself you have to date other girls to show her that your not sitting around waiting for her to come back
2006-07-11 02:53:08 · answer #10 · answered by holycowsweetjesus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋