okay well like i dont know what to do....?

Question

okay i have a job that well lets say its not a job i want my mom to know about and well like my boyfriend just found out about it and he wants to break up... i love my job and ive had it for like 2yrs now what do i do?!?!?!?! i love my job but love my boyfriend too... i dont have any clue as to what i should do?!?!?!


can anybody help?!?!?!

and yes im a stripper!
is that a problem?!?!?!

i was a prostitute full-time...
but now im only part-time...

and i dont get whats so wrong about being a prostitue or a stripper...
it pays the bills...
that i pay...

yea and i havent talked to my mom since i was 9!!!!

Answer 1

You already know the answer. Decide what is more important: A relationship with your mom and bf, or the pleasure of the job. Which can you replace?

Answer 2

This one is a tough decision that u r going to have to make for urself but in my opinion I would have to say keep ur job. I mean I have dated a stripper before and it is not like they are sleeping with anyone else they are just making a living for themselves and based off the one I dated it was a very good living too. If your man will not support you then u need to take a step back and ask yourself first of all where do you see your self down the line with him if the answer is not together then u might as well continue to do your job. Also look at your financial status if he is not helping support you or you bring home the bread then u might as well leave him. So basically what I am saying is u need to just weigh your options and go with what u feel comfortable with.


Okay I just read the prostitution part. You might want to leave that one alone but as far as the stripping goes there is nothing really wrong with that one. I understand the prostitution is helping pay the bills but u might want to rethink it. Cause for one it's illegal and if you get caught then u won't be getting any money cause you will be locked up and that's always a bad thing so like i said before just take a step back and look at what's best for you.

Answer 3

if it is a job you are ashamed of (you dont want your mom to find out) and it is apparently bad enough that even your b/f can not handle it - you need to think why do they feel this way? Obviously it is NOT the kind of job you should be doing. find something else, or risk losing your b/f and hurting your family. no job is worth that. it must be a raunchy job and I would be out of there - well no, i would not have gotten into a job like that in the first place!
ps - yes it is a problem, as you yourself have shown, by the way you are afraid your mom will find out. you know inside it is not the job for you just by the question that you put on here. I don't blame your boyfriend for wanting to break up. you have not told him about being a stripper, and he found out, how the heck do you think that made him feel, the girl he loves lied to him all this time and i am sure he does not want men lusting after you while you do your thing. if he had known from day one that would be different, but you hid it from the one you supposedly love, wrong wrong wrong.

Answer 4

I'm interested what job do you got. I can give you a way better answer if you tell us what job it is.

If it is less then $10 an hour Canadian and you don't think it will go up much hire then drop the job. But if it is something that can make your boyfriend feel bad for example your a "porn star" then your boyfriend has the right to be mad.



Ok your a stripper that's ok. lots of guys would not mind that. But some will so you got some talking to do. you can try to work things out to keep the job and your boyfriend. but if you must get rid of one then follow your heart. Money is important remember this.

Answer 5

ok have you ever had a bf cheat on you? well that's the problem you are doing it everytime you go to work as a prostitute,especially since you weren't up front in the beginning. the stripper thing is fine but prostitution last time i checked was not only immoral but also illegal. But i would bet that your boyfriend's biggest problem is the fact that you were having sex with guys behind his back. SO you will probably have to choose between him or prostitution.

Answer 6

I think that if it is not a job you would tell your mother about then you must be ashamed of it. If your boyfriend would break up with you over it, it must be something in the sexual field. Here is something to think about. If you had a kid and they ran for president, would their appoinent be able to use what you are doing now against them??? Don't disrespect yourself for money, the cost is too great. Go back to school and do something else with yourself. If your boyfriend still wants to break up then cut him loose and find yourself a new one after you ditch the job. He will respect you better and more importantly will not have the job to hold over your head like the current guy....

Answer 7

ok, here's the deal. i went through the same thing with my girl...only she wasn't a stripper, she was a go go dancer. i didn't have a problem with her doing it, nor did i pass judgement on her as a person for doing it. my problem with it was that i wasn't going to go through this experience with her cuz i'm a few years older. i had been there and done that with other girls in the past. so, i dealt with it for as long as i could and i finally told her that she's a great person, but i think that she has some growing up to do and that i'm not going to be a part of it anymore. i broke up with her and she made up her mind to stop dancing because i was more important. so, what i'm trying to say is that you need to decide what makes you more happy, your job or your man. and if you really do quit...don't go sneaking behind his back to do it, cuz that will just be prolonging your break up.

Answer 8

Earn the money doing what you want to do. Boyfriends grow on trees around here. It's unfortunate you're doing something you can't tell your mom about so you're probably a stripper or you're selling insurance. How sweet.

Answer 9

Well first of all what do you do. If you're a stripper then I would break up with you too! That is something that should not be kept a secret. To bad, cause if you would of told him when you first started then he could of made his choice then not later oce he was betrayed!

Answer 10

I am guessing stripping or hooking.....not real sure here. But honestly, if it's a job you a) don't want your mom to find out about and b) you're boyfriend flipped out about, then is it a job really worth keeping? What matters more to you...the job....or your boyfriend?
If it's something you don't want your mom to find out about or it's a job your boyfriend disapproves of, then you need to find a different line of work. Jobs come and go.