1. A guy you dont know calls you, to ask you out. He identifyes himself to you and you know you have seen him around so you know he is not a total freak. what do you do?
2. do girls react well to guys asking them out over the phone, especially if they dont know the guy?
2006-07-10 19:20:49 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If I only know the guy from "seeing him around", I would be upset and a little scared if he called me, simply because I would want to know HOW he got my phone number!
Personally, I don't give even my cellphone number (let alone my home number) out to just anyone! I have to know them well, and trust them and their reputation, before I even consider it. I, as well as several of my friends, have dealt with too many scary situations and guys in the past!
So, NO, the girl would probably not react well if you got her phone number through someone else, without the permission of the actual girl herself. Please don't do that. In these crazy times, we gals really have come to value our privacy. Sad, but true.
2006-07-10 19:25:08 · answer #1 · answered by scary shari 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why can't he ask her out in person? the phone may give the guy an edge over being nervous, but it gives a girl a bit of reason to wonder about why he had to do it over the phone. on the other hand, the phone and emails have been used more and more for a lot of things, so maybe it is the new wave.
2006-07-11 02:24:55 · answer #2 · answered by still learning at 56 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, sounds kind of sketchy to me. If you know him or you're sure you want to go out with him, then go ahead. But you might want to make the first date a public one to get a feel for what this guy is like. Maybe even ask around.
Personally, I think it's always better in person. I think the phone is so impersonal sometimes. I also think that you should get to know the person before actually going out with them.
2006-07-11 03:22:28 · answer #3 · answered by dreamweaver 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. A couple of questions to ask yourself... How well do you know him? Do you know anything about him? Do you know anyone who knows him and can vouch for him? Are you interested in going out with him?
Depending on the answers, you have a couple of possibilities. You can go out with him, although I really don't reccomend this if you don't really know him too well. You can suggest a group or double date. He can bring his friends and you can bring yours, but make sure that you have someone in your group that you know and trust. If this freaked you out at all, I suggest you not accept right away and get to know him first in some neutral situations.
2. As a rule, I am generally suspicious of dating anyone I don't know or at least know of, or know someone who knows him. So if a guy I didn't really know asked me out over the phone, I would be a little weirded out. If a guy I did know asked me out over the phone, no big deal.
Sorry for sounding so hyper-suspicious, but honestly in this day and age you have to be careful, and it doesn't hurt to make sure you are safe. My mom has taught me well, lol. Good luck :)
2006-07-11 02:29:49 · answer #4 · answered by Stephanie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could try a super informal phone date; just tell him to give you a call and then talk to him for a while. If you like talking to him on the phone and get to know him a little bit then maybe you'll feel a little more comfortable. but right now it sounds like you're a little wierded out by it, so you should trust your instincts and keep your distance
2006-07-11 02:26:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would rather talk to you in person first then maybe you could ring and ask. if you don't know someone well you'd get freaked out by phone calls from people you have only seen in passing or to say hi to
2006-07-11 02:24:38 · answer #6 · answered by traceylolanna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why ANYONE would want to go out with a guy they didn't know at all. Having 'seen him around' is not enough reason to date someone. Say no, and if you see him around again, he can always talk to you if he wants to.
2006-07-11 02:24:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay... Check this out first... Does any of your friends (or friends, friends) know him - if not, it's a little bit tricky... Someone has to know him?
I've had two great relationships with two different guys - who just called me up one day - one relationship was so good, I got engaged! (went out with him for more than three years but things got too bad and we broke up)
Anyway, it can do no harm to meet him (with some friends around - just to be safe!)
2006-07-11 02:29:31 · answer #8 · answered by Chellie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like a John Cusack movie line. Have you ever seen Say Anything? I kinda recall the girl barely knowing who he was either. I say go for it - call her. Life is too short.
2006-07-11 02:30:16 · answer #9 · answered by AriesGIRL 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, that would most likely freak her out. Its not normal for people who don't know you to call and ask you out. It would be a better idea to strike up a conversation with her (face to face) when you see her next...then just ease your way into asking her out
2006-07-11 02:25:47 · answer #10 · answered by jenisisgrafix 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋