does it is nessesary that family be first priority of your boyfriend.?

Question

my experience is that i always notice that my boyfriend his priority is his sister and brother.though we were in the right age i never heard that he think for our future and what important for him is his sister.he always do everything for them like washing all thier clothes even though thier fiftheen and he cant even do the house hold chores.look i just want to you know try to help them to do this thing for thier to learn not to spoil them coz i have my own sister too.but he always give a different meaning on it thats what our fight begun.though i know that i have no right but what if?if we were be married does it mean it would be always start in our fight.especially if they show thier affection to others as if they were lovers it is so awkward because not all people is used what they used to do.they were not a child anymore they were teenagers but he treats them a child.hope you can give me a enlightenment on this.thank you!

Answer 1

u have a boy friend, first of all you must thing before your b/f he is a brother, son, and the most important thing he is having a sweetest family, who cares for him

u should be happy that u have that kind of guy who loves his family , think when he loves his family that much, then how much he loves to you, its amazing.

one more thing is amazing that he truthly tell you all these things never tries to hide them, nore to lier infront of yours, u should proud on him.

u have to stop all these fights, you can do that, just trust on him and try to be like that as he wants you, after some times u will realize he understands yours needs, then he will do everything for you.

just give him your one hand he will give you two hands but not for touching this will come for a sweet hugg, which u want.

i am married and i can realize and even i can u/std all this.

Answer 2

What the circumstances here? Is your boyfriend's sister just lazy? Maybe he knows that nothing will get done around the house unless he helps out. Maybe he did something that he would get in big trouble for and he's doing her laundry so she won't tell on him. These are okay and generally normal.

Maybe it is a family tradition for this to happen this way. He also could be trying to be responsible. I admire people that are giving and responsible in this way. If you get married, at least you won't be doing all the work! He may feel bad about something he did in the past. But if something seems weird, you need to talk about it.

This might not be okay if.....

IMPORTANT QUESTIONS:

Does he stop being with you on purpose to do his sister's laundry? Like right while you talking even though you planned to be alone at the time?

Does he do it at weird times? Like right when you come over? (This doesn't apply if you go over there several times a day, ect.

Does he talk about it constantly? Like when your eating out, going to the movies, ect? Does he cancel plans because of this?

If any of these are true, their might be something up. Don't assume ANYTHING until you discover the facts.

Answer 3

When one is young, one's family is indeed most important. But when one gets married, that all has to change, because the nature of the sexual bond is such that nothing can be allowed to interfere with it except death. Not Mom and Dad (or, presumably brothers and sisters), not our desires, nothing. We have to leave our childhood family behind and make a permanent commitment to our spouse (i.e. get married).

It doesn't make sense to even take any steps down the road to a one-flesh relationship until one is a) ready to do all of this, and b) has found that one person, and both parties are absolutely sure that this is the kind of relationship they want (in other words, they are at very least engaged to be married).

Bottom line: This guy is probably even normal in his attachment to his family, but on the other hand is anything but ready to be married. All his relationships (including with you) should be totally platonic as long as this continues to be the case.

Answer 4

Family first Always

Stay in school or go back or at least ask someone to check the grammar of your questions so they make sense. Use spellcheck.