His new wife had an affair 5 wks. after they were married. 4 months later and he is almost divorced. I tried to convince him to go to the doctor to treat his depression, instead he started blowing his whold paycheck on coke.
2006-07-10 19:09:41 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I know how your brother feels, but I did not go and turn to drugs for an answer. You can only be there to comfort him. You can't make his mind up for him by telling him to get help. He has to be the one to see he has a problem and want help himself.
Just make sure you are there for him and to help support him. It wouldn't hurt to suggest things to him but do not "rub it in" or keep nagging him about it. That will only make things worse.
2006-07-10 19:14:54 · answer #1 · answered by Angie R 4 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Ok. Try explaining to him in a loving way that drugs will not help him in any way, they may make him feel better, but circumstances will without a doubt get worse for him and those around him.
Don't pressure him to much about going and getting help, or he may turn against you.
Let him know that you are there for him, to listen and help however you can, when he is ready to talk and ask for help.
Pray for him or if you don't believe in God ask someone who does believe to pray for him, even if that just means going up to a pastor of your local christian church and telling them your story and asking for help. They may be able to give you good advice as well.
You could maybe see a counsellor so that you can discover the best ways you can help your brother, and how you should act and talk around and to him.
Try and spend time doing things with him that may help get his mind off his problems- things that don't involve drugs, alcohol, or other people that use drugs and alcohol.
And keep a close eye on him in case he does something even more stupid than drugs.
But take care of yourself too, don't let someone elses stresses damage your life.
2006-07-10 19:20:47 · answer #2 · answered by L1ngg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Several years ago I had a friend tell me I needed to go to Al-Anon-which is for family & friends of alcoholics & drug addictions - because of a daughter's drug problem. Why did I have to go? After all, I was not the one with the problem. But I did have a problem...I was doing all the wrong things & thus enabling the person. It told me some of the right ways to approach the problem...and yes I got enormous help for myself as well. Perhaps you might want to check it out...you will get lots of love & support...as well as useful info on how to help your brother. Good luck & May God Bless You...and your brother.
2006-07-10 19:30:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your brother to Colombia or Mexico. You will save him a lot of money on coke there, also, by the way, you can take him to a nice latina whore house and get him a couple of spicy latinas that will cheer him up, later get him drunk on tequila or aguardiente and repeat the next day. You will see how that guy start recovering and appreciating life really soon.
2006-07-10 19:32:47 · answer #4 · answered by another 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, it isn't in your control most likely. Continue to do what you've been doing and encourage him to seek help. Coke is VERY addictive. That probably won't end once the divorce is over.
2006-07-10 19:14:47 · answer #5 · answered by lenny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get him commited. Drugs are illegal. Of course you know this, but if you get him commited it could keep him out of jail or prison. Also people think that deperession is a kind of being 'stuck sad' situation, but it's really being overwhelmed to the point you can't make decisions, so you will not convince him to seek treatment. He will keep filing away information and be unable to act.
2006-07-10 19:16:40 · answer #6 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you want to keep satisfied your self. yet to help him tutor him your there for him and tutor him you're taking care of him. attempt getting him out for some air. allow him talk with you about how he's feeling. attempt to remember strong thoughts with him and relaxing days out. purely be there for him. play video games watch strikes. carry out tutor him you want him and your now unlikely to leave him
2016-11-06 04:52:04 · answer #7 · answered by olli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well go church wth him it'll help him or take him on a vacation to another country like Europe.
2006-07-10 19:15:16 · answer #8 · answered by London girls other account 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi my name is Debisso I am going to answer this question.
i encourage my brether who is divorce is wife
I give bible verse in matt.19.10 it is not allowed to divorce wifeand i also I prey for him
2006-07-10 19:32:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! I'll pray for a miracle, sounds like you need one now!
2006-07-10 19:14:03 · answer #10 · answered by Makemeaspark 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋