Do all men want the lying, immature girl over a smart, mature woman?

Question

I have recently been burned again for the 3rd time. I apparently am not supposed to have anyone and I was just wondering if all men are like that because certainly all I have met are. Anybody know of a good one? I need some kind of hope.......

No I don't go to bars, I am not a drinker or partier. I am 21 years old physically but am an old soul and have an older mind. All I want from a man is honesty, love, and respect. I am also very forgiving and understanding so thats probably part of my problem.

Answer 1

I prefer brains over bosom myself. On the flip-side, though, I wouldn't want to date a woman who is constantly bragging about how much more mature and smarter she is than me. I don't mind that woman is smart, beautiful and mature, but I don't like ones who will go out of their way to make you feel inferior and that I should be thankful that she "agreed" to go out with me as if I was just a charity case.
So long as you don't overdo the smart and mature, you should be able to find someone you can connect with at a certain level. I know a lot of guy who like smart girls. Not all men are into the "dumb blonde" stereotypes. Those that are are either: 1) totally shallow themselves 2) Prefer women who are easily controlled/manipulated or 3) Just in it for sex and not much else.

Answer 2

I'll take the smart, mature woman every time. The person who said that all men are pigs is wrong. The problem is that women are attracted to men who are lying pigs, then when they get to know them better they complain.

Women find men who are kind, mature, and truthful --boring.
The question isn't why do nice girls like bad boys, it's when will women wise up?

And where are you looking for guys? Are you looking in churches? I bet not! You look in bars and wonder why you find drunks and losers! I'm sick of you women complaining that there are no good men when so many of you passed me over
for some flashy guy with a line of bullshit that a 3 y/o should have seen through. I'm sorry you get hurt but you need to look at yourselves not complain that there are no good men.

Answer 3

I don't want to be the one to tell you it's alright and it't not your fault and all you have to do is lie there and the right one will come along.
After 3 times this should be telling you something. You have a problem with your selection process. You need to figure out what it is that makes you pick guys that will burn you. This may be as easy as sitting down and thinking about it for 10 seconds, or maybe you will have to do a solo ascent of Mt Everest to find your answer.
In general when I know women who have problems picking the wrong guy it is because the woman is judging and desiring men based on preconcieved notions about who their ideal man is supposed to be; "I only like skinny guys with curly hair" or "he's got to drive a car and be in the right income bracket" or "he's got to play on the basketball team". Then, surprise surprise, after they picked the guy based on whatever it is they were hoping to find and then they find out he's not as great as they hoped he would be, they are disappointed and hurt.
Try getting to know a man for real. Whether it's for a relationship or friendship or whatever. Try to throw away your preconcieved notions about what kind of man you want and just look at who the people around you really are. That way you will get into your next relationship with your eyes open, and you will be much less likely to get burned. Good luck!

Answer 4

It depends on what they want them for. There are good men out there, you just have to know how to find them. I don't know your situation but here's some general ideas that might help. Bars are not the place to look for good men!!! I'm not sure how old you are, but it seems most men and women don't start settling down, ie maturing until they are around 25, so don't expect too much before then. Before you condemn all men, make sure you are going for what you really want. If you go to a bar and let the guy from the band pick you up, don't be surprised if he's picking up another girl the next night. Or if you look for guys with nice cars and clothes, don't be surprised if they are shallow and look for trophy women to go with their trophy cars, boats, and homes. The problem is the guys that are between the extremes, the good guys, seem boring at first to most women. They are too normal I guess. Find a normal guy (with career job, house, car, not promises of those things!!!) that you are attracted to, give him a few dates to warm things up, and see how he treats you. Chances are you'll be happy. Good luck.

Answer 5

There are tons of decent men out there that are looking for more than an easy air head. You need to be sure you are after the same things before you start getting serious in a relationship. If they are just out for a play date then they have no intention of anything but someone to pass time with, You won't change a man any more than you will change a rock so don't try. Look for a better type of man that has stability and interests in life and skip the party hard bad boys. People do not change unless they want to change for their own reasons, you cannot expect them to change for you. Maybe if you focus on what you are doing in life and where you want to be in 3,5, 10 years you will have more luck attracting a like minded partner.
They are out there wondering why all you smart attractive females date loosers.

Answer 6

yes, most men want the lying immature GIRL, not the smart woman. they need a peer to relate to. ;p

If you've been burned 3x now by the same situation, you might be prone to taking up with them instead of the good guys. maybe that's what you're familiar with.

take a breather from relationships and figure out why you keep ending up in the same situation.

Answer 7

The good men are the ones most people make fun of... but ya they are out there...

I am thinking you are just looking for the wrong thing in the wrong place. Its all about location location location....

You will find a good man helping out and local volunteer functions, or a library, or anything you like to really do!!

Answer 8

Sorry that you have had this happen to you but for some reason movies and all are glorifying or projecting the image of a young girl with an older mature guy, and guys are going that way recently...not all guys though...I can tell you that for sure.

Answer 9

Hang in there, there is hope. Guys go for the lying, immature girl because they haven't grown up yet and are looking for that booty call. They are still boys. Look for a man who admires and desires a smart, mature woman such as yourself.

Answer 10

No men dont want that, boys do. You have just had some bad luck. Dont look for anyone, just have fun, be single for a while and the right guy will come. Trust me the good ones are out there!!!!!