Ok, Me and my husband didn't have the money to throw a wedding so we just went to the JP. So my question is, Do you think it is stupid to have a wedding????
2006-07-10 18:18:56 · 23 answers · asked by cherry_kissez376 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I forgot to add.... We have the money now to throw a wedding and I have always wanted one. So what do you think?? Have a wedding after your married??
2006-07-10 18:25:49 · update #1
For the smart @$$ Bond, if you read the details... I said I forgot to add....let me see if I can slow this down a bit for you.... I did not get the money within 10 mins of the posting, I didn't mention in the post that I now have the money to pay for a wedding but I didn't a year and a half ago when we went to the JP.
2006-07-10 18:39:29 · update #2
My husband and I eloped 4 years ago and had an amazing wedding ceremony with our families and friends this past September. It was the most amazing time ever. I say go for it. A girl should always get the chance to wear the dress and walk down the aisle. It's really special and holds a whole different meaning from the JP wedding (which is just as amazing and special in its own way). We called our JP wedding our "private wedding" and our other wedding our "public" one.
Do it! You won't regret it!
2006-07-10 20:14:22 · answer #1 · answered by coco 3 · 8⤊ 2⤋
No, certainly not. If it is what you want and your hubby agrees then why not? It is nobody elses concern- only you and your hubby's.
My oldest brother and his wife (married 15 years now) went to the JP then 3 months later had a lovely wedding. They chose to celebrate the church wedding date as their anniversary and chose the JP date for legal concerns. Since my sister in law had never been married before, she wanted a wedding and with both of them being in their 30's, they wore a nice suit and tie and a lovely tea length dress. The reception was beautiful and they paid for it all themselves. They did it simply because it meant a lot to each of them to have a ceremony performed in the church and they wanted to be surrounded by all of the love of their familys and friends and to include those same special people in their own personal celebration. Bottom line is that you should discuss this desire with your husband and see what his feelings are. You will never regret having a wedding if you do it but you might well regret not having one someday.
Good luck in your marriage and congratulations!
2006-07-11 01:38:39 · answer #2 · answered by Mensan Gal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally do not think it is a wast of money to have a wedding. I did it and I did it at a reasonable budget. If you want all of your family and friends to witness your sacred exchange of vows, you just need to come in on a budget and believe me you can. They say an "average" wedding ceremony in Chicago is $20,000. That's crazy! I spent $6,000 and had a beautiful ceremony and reception, that everyone who was there remembers. I realize that is a downpayment on a house, but HEY you only get married once *(hopefully) so go for it!!! Unless you are uncomfortable around this situation,. then I go on about nothing. It is all what YOU and your FIANCE feel comfortable with.
Congratulations!
2006-07-11 01:29:19 · answer #3 · answered by serenitynow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I think that it is perfectly fine going to the JP, I myself am getting married next year and don't really have much money to plan a wedding, but really want to have all my family and friends involved. If I went to the JP I guess I would at least have a cake reception and maybe a dance just so my friends and family could attend, and celebrate with us.
2006-07-11 01:27:50 · answer #4 · answered by Hauss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it, if you can afford it. You could call it a vow renewal, since you are all ready married. Or just throw a big reception if you don't want to go through the ceremony again. Everyone should have a wedding, it's a great experience. Do it, and enjoy every second of it, because it goes by sooo fast. You're entitled to have a day that's all about you!!
2006-07-11 08:41:56 · answer #5 · answered by SweetPea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of the time weddings are for show,For the families,friends,etc.I saw my wedding as a symbol of love for my husband and I wanted everyone to share in my happiness.Just because you got married at the JP,doesn't mean you can't have a nice reception where others can celebrate with you.
2006-07-11 01:24:30 · answer #6 · answered by kikasman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it. Have a church wedding, that'll probably make your parents happy. Then have a reception, don't go overboard and spend too much money, but have fun. If you have a church wedding, I don't think it's considered renewing your wedding vows, because the church doesn't recognize a JP wedding. Although you won't have to fill out the govenment paperwork again. Good luck.
2006-07-11 02:14:15 · answer #7 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not stupid to have a wedding. A wedding is a time that you can stand up in front of your friends and family and announce how much you love each other and the commitment you want to make - in your case it would be to reaffirm this. It is a great thing to do on your anniversary as well. I think you should go ahead with it if it's what you want. Good luck!
2006-07-11 01:59:50 · answer #8 · answered by ykokorocks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all--In fact a "wedding" can be whatever makes it special for you and your husband. Make it a unique affair that best suits you both--something non-traditional may even make it more special and symbolize a special moment created for just the two of you, that you will no doubt remember forever. Do what you are able, and remember--the wedding is not nearly as important as is the love and longevity of the marriage itself. You married the man you love and cherish. That is what counts the most.
2006-07-11 01:26:16 · answer #9 · answered by JMarks1966 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people make their wedding day more important than their marriage...a recipe for disaster! Yes, it is a 'day to remember' - but it will be whether you went to JP or went into debt throwing a massive wedding.
2006-07-11 01:25:36 · answer #10 · answered by Kazzini 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋