About 10 years ago I got REALLY screwed over by a guy I was in a serious relationship with. I guess it's revenge for what he did to me, but for 10 years I've been DYING to tell his mother that in 1987 him and his (then) girlfriend had a baby and gave it up for adoption. Should I tell her? What's the best way to tell her? Write a letter perhaps?
2006-07-10 18:01:51 · 19 answers · asked by GiaDDD 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
You don't have the best reasons for telling this secret, but maybe it is something she should know. I would like to know if my son did this, even if there is nothing I could do about it. An unsigned letter would be best.
2006-07-10 18:09:09 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋
You are obsessed with something that happened 10 years ago and didn't even happen to you? Are you insane? You seem mentally unstable. If they were young at the time they gave the baby up for adoption, they probably made the best decision they could in the best interest of the CHILD. Needless to say that both he and the baby's mother probably think of that baby every day of their lives. You are a very, very, very sick person. I hope you get counseling or therapy and move on with your life.
2006-07-11 01:08:07 · answer #2 · answered by wldntulike_2know 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it up girl, just leave it alone, don't you know that this just makes you a sadder person in the long run. If your not happy, making some one else suffer will not make you happy, at first maybe, but the demons will get you in the end. Do you have anything you need to hide that he can tell on you, I hope not, and do you think his mother will believe you over her son, forget about it.
2006-07-11 01:10:09 · answer #3 · answered by henry b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already did by asking this question. You have also hurt your ex-boyfriend and the girl he got pregnant. Don't make it worse for the child either! you have done enough! give it a rest and think of it like this... if this happened to you-you get pregnant and have a child and give it up for adoption would you want the whole world to know about it? You just let the whole world know about your ex's child. GROW UP!
2006-07-11 01:14:35 · answer #4 · answered by lori H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've been holding a grudge for an ex-boyfriend for 10 years, I think you have more important things to worry about than tattling to his mother regarding something that doesn't involve you at all. I think you need to seek therapy and find some closure for this situation...
2006-07-11 09:54:20 · answer #5 · answered by brevejunkie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Revenge is a dish best eaten cold, 10 years is lots of time to to wait but why would you want to hurt his mother and not him?
2006-07-11 01:05:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her because she has a right to know she has a grand child out there. I would write her a letter and explain it to her and also tell why you couldn't tell her at the time. Cause she really should know about her grand child.. Good luck
2006-07-11 01:06:10 · answer #7 · answered by Candi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't tell her. What do you stand to gain from hurting her? Really there is no "good" way to tell a woman that her son fathered a child almost twenty years ago and kept it a secret. So just keep it to yourself.
2006-07-11 13:32:40 · answer #8 · answered by Claire 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would only make you look bad. The best revenge is just to keep him thinking you're gonna tell. Never lower yourself to his standards.
2006-07-11 01:07:07 · answer #9 · answered by J P 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should tell her IF you gave get or have PROOF, that lady has a grandchild out there somewhere and as the grandmother she has a right to see her/him.
YES TELL HER!
2006-07-11 01:10:01 · answer #10 · answered by brat71825 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋