my parents atand over my shoulder and read whats on the computer???

Question

i know that they "have a right to" do that but they get too nosey. my dad isn't as into my business as my dad but he still bugs me. sometimes im writing a email to my friends and they'll just stand there and read it. they stand a ways away so my sister and i dont know that they do it buy we know. and my mom's way of getting me up in the mornings is to read notes that i have in my room. earlier today my mom was on the computer and she looked at the computer's history thing and she started questioning my about stuff. i finally broke when she asked me if i knew what a blow job is and i almost yelled, it's when a chick sucks some dude's dic.k. and i walked away. how can i tell them to stop minding my business? im a self reliant teen now and dont need my mother monitering my every move. i know right from wrong. if only my parents could see that

Answer 1

Why don't u make a user password for yourself
so they can't access your stuff??..and lock your room
when your using your computer.

Answer 2

Hun you will be a full adult before you know it do not rush. It is really hard to see it from a parents perspective till you are there. My 18 year old has me over his shoulder, I am not there all the time but all the same what goes in this computer is my business I am responsible for its content. I am also responsible for my kids mental health and keeping them away from the dark stuff as long as possible buys you time to make the best choices. If you are here you have already seen too and read a lot of inappropriate things. The problem is that so many teens have so much "freedom" that it seems unfair right now like being left out. Please believe me it will be a blessing down the road just hang in there and take notes. Hugs and all the best you sound like you are a great person take care ~A~
Ps My kids have access to my emails too and the computer which is mine and in the livingroom where we all are. I get watched by the kids I am open to that, I make sure I have nothing to worry about on this screen.

Answer 3

confront your parents. Ask them why they are constantly being so nosey. Ask them what have you ever done to deserve this. You could ask for a compromise, such as they put the computer in a public area (such as the living room) but they dont stand over your shoulder reading what you are writing. Tell them if they want to know who you are writing to or talking to online then they should use words not nosey means of doing it. They need to communicate with you. Tell them they are teaching you that you are not a trustworthy person, since they never try simply talking to you, but instead being nosy and reading what you write.
In addition you can start giving them a taste of their own medicine. Everytime they read the newspaper, anything stand over their shoulders. Make it obvious. If they ask you what you are doing and to stop say "oh i thought this is what we were all doing now. Not talking but instead reading what each other does." If they dont get the hint when you talk to them about the problem, then start being as annoying as possible (the reading over should thing, etc).
In addition maybe use the computers at school or the public library instead. Or go to a friend's house to use their computers for privacy. Leave all personal notes in your locker at school.
Expect some nosiness from your parents but tell them they have gone too far.

Answer 4

If you know right from wrong then why would you be talking about BJ's for goodness sake your her kid she is concerned about your well being do you know how many kids out there a abducted, molested and/or killed every year by people they meet on the computer and yes you may be a smart and responsible teen but even smart and responsible people(adults too) do stupid irresponsible things that they regret! Your parents don't feel that your safe on the computer with the perv's that are out there because they know that these people can con anyone into anything,they do it every day they are good at it they lull you into a false sense of security (make you believe they're your friends) then they sympathize with you and assure you they wouldn't treat you the way you are treated at home or what ever it is you may have a fuss about( this is called conditioning) then they go in for the attack!

Answer 5

I don't know how old you are but you seem pretty smart by the way you write.
If you are not doing anything wrong or immoral, then you have to step up in this world as a young adult that you seem to be.
Tell your parents that although you do mind them reading your notes and or e-mails that there isn't anything wrong in your doings and that if you have some space they would see that by the way they raised you and taught you to be.
This world if full of rights and wrongs, Goods and bads. that everyone learns through trail and error. Hopefully you will intent to make all the correct choices by the way your were brought up.
Let your parents know that they taught you, good ways of life and that anything different is well not good. Your parents love you and are worried that someone else out there is going to harm their little girl. It's not you it's those weirdos in this world.
If you feel that you are ready to grow up a little bit then you must also learn that if you come to some point in life where you will need your parents advice. tell them that.

Good luck.
Here's you a sugestion,.
when you e-mail. Be nice. and write appropately, then you can say as you will when in person with people you know and with good conduct.

Answer 6

I don't know your parents of course but they suck! Everybody has a right to some privacy, i'm sure you do have privacy, but your parents probably didn't have parents doing that to them. My dad's mom and dad were like that and he will forever have a dysfunctional and problematic relationship with them (except his father(my grandpa), he passed already). My grandparents were crazy and they drove my dad crazy when he didn't deserve it.
Anyway, I think parents could at least stop pretending that they are spying on you and if they have concerns about your life then they could address them in a kinder, less rude sort of way. They are just being afraid of the horror that's in the world because they are told to be afraid and act like a*holes.
If you are out of control yourself then you are the one who sucks and they don't have to be nice.

Answer 7

Your parents are doing their job and you should be glad they care about you, and love you. You may think they are being nosey and don't trust you but because you are young you have nosey and untrusting mixed up care and love. When you get older and more mature you will realize the difference and be thankful you had parents that cared. You are very lucky.

Answer 8

So, you think you know it all? My advice for you would to be MOVE OUT OF YOUR PARENTS' HOUSE NOW, WHILE YOU STILL KNOW EVERYTHING.

You wanna be a 'big man'? Get out of your parents' house and get your own job and pay your own bills and buy your own food, clothes, car, etc. It don't sound like much fun, does it? Too bad, that's the way life is gonna be.

Then you can be as big a smartass-know-nothing punk as you want to be.

GROW UP & START ACTING LIKE A MAN INSTEAD OF A SPOILED F'CKIN BRAT.

Answer 9

good for them to care about what their kids are doing on the computer ---- there's lots on here who need parental monitoring

Answer 10

Hello! Hello! Are you in rebellion? It is your responsibility to obey your parents. They are not being too nosy. They just care. I think you need to check your attitude.