I get off work and she wants to be around me until midnight. Say I get off work at seven, she wants me to wait for her at my job until she gets out of school. And on the weekend it's just me and her, no time with my friends. It's okay sometime but sometimes I want to hang with my boys have a couple of beers and do guy stuff
2006-07-10 17:50:19 · 15 answers · asked by BlessedOne 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
From me,"Blessed One":
This question was actually asked of me from my brother last night. I didn't know how to respond to him or how to give him the advice he needed -- seeing that I've always been on the opposite end of the spectrum! I suggested that I ask you guys for advice. He thought that would be fine. No, I'm not a guy! I'm simply soliciting advice for my brother. Sorry for the confusion!!
2006-07-11 07:11:15 · update #1
i think you need to have a talk with her because pretty soon you're gonna blow up and end up losing her friendship forever..
2006-07-10 17:53:59 · answer #1 · answered by orange juice 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely talk to her about this. Being smothered is bad for the both of you. Obviously if she wants to spend all of this time with you she cares about you a lot, and so if she knew that if she didn't back off she could potentially end up losing you, I'm sure she'd try and back off. We all need a time out from each other sometimes, you spend too much time with a person you get sick of them. If that doesn't work-end it. She's obviously not the girl for you if she isn't willing to give you what you want-a little space.
2006-07-11 00:56:59 · answer #2 · answered by Skitz628 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried making plans with some of your guy friends and just telling her you have? If she objects or gets upset at the idea tell her that you love being with her, but you need that time to do "guy stuff" too. Suggest she get involved with something or do some "girl stuff" when you're doing your stuff. Agree that certain times (ex: every first Friday of the month) you'll have your time for yourself and she'll have hers. Don't get too upset with her, she loves being with you. Maybe it will just take some rearranging of time. I hope that helps. Take care!
2006-07-11 01:00:00 · answer #3 · answered by beautiful disaster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should tell her how you feel she wont know unless you tell her but when you do just suggest that you have plans to go with the boys but dont completly ditch her all the time cause she might think you are cheatin or something and dump you
2006-07-11 00:54:53 · answer #4 · answered by *~Rachel~* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So can't you both have ONE night a week for guy/girl stuff???
Like Friday nights you go hang with the dudes and she goes to the chick flicks or the mall with her girlie friends??
COMPROMISE.....if you can't do it when you are dating this relationship isn't going anywhere so just dump her now.
2006-07-11 00:54:09 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs activities other than you. She really likes you. This is a good thing. She admires you so much that she wants to spend her whole day with you because you are a lot of fun to be with. If she were bored, she wouldn't be with you so much.
2006-07-11 00:54:25 · answer #6 · answered by laylamami 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let her know that you love spending time with her but you also want to be with your friends sometime hopefully she will understand. Good Luck.
2006-07-11 00:54:38 · answer #7 · answered by sweetLynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is your GIRLFRIEND not your wife. Tell her what you want and what you don't want and if she does not like the situation then you can breakup with her and find someone that is more suitable to your lifestyle. It really is not that complicated.
2006-07-11 00:55:19 · answer #8 · answered by Joseph S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to give you space if she wants the relationship to grow.
2006-07-11 00:57:40 · answer #9 · answered by Amy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah tell her...that u need space and time wid ur frnds too....talk to her abt ur needs...spend considerate time wid her also....dont let ur relationship become a burden....all the best
2006-07-11 01:19:17 · answer #10 · answered by gotscr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋