After months your'e still in love with the person, and you feel the same way and know they are THE type of person you want as a spouse. Do you try and forget it and move on? Do you just forget about romance with anybody unless and until that person comes back to you or a serious romance just happens upon you from somebody else? Has this happened to you?
2006-07-10 17:46:44 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That is such an awful thing to happen....(I'm assuming you are asking this for yourself, right?)
First of all, I'm very sorry this happened. Even though you deeply loved this person and you could imagine spending your life together and you knew that you wanted this type of person as a spouse....it doesn't mean you should give up on love. You shouldn't forget about love and give up on being with anyone else.
Time does heal all wounds...and your feelings will fade. You will always care about the person, but, after a while, it won't hurt so bad. You have to try and forget and move on. There are a lot of other really great people out there...and if you found one you loved so much that would be perfect as a spouse, I'm sure you will find more, and one who will feel the same way.
Good luck. :)
2006-07-10 17:56:11 · answer #1 · answered by In_Love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not alone, this has and is still happening to me. I don't suggest giving up on love and other relationships. If I had done that, I'd still be sitting around lonely 7 years later. Eventually it gets easier. You will meet other people that can fill the void. Maybe not completely, but you'll meet someone else. Don't give up all hope on this person though. Always hold on to something you want that bad, even if buried deep down. Let me tell you after 7 years of pining, the guy I mentioned stopped by my house on his way home from work and reopened the floodgates of feelings I have for him. The thing is he'll be on my mind for awhile, but in time, I will close the gates back up. I should be good until I see him again. Sorry, hope this helped, not make it worse or seem hopeless.
2006-07-10 17:54:42 · answer #2 · answered by turtle33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to forget that person, but not what you felt. When the next one comes around, you're gong to know the feelings that matter and felt right to you. Don't try to find someone who is a duplicate of that person, because it won't happen. Only go by the comparison of what you feel. If it felt right before, it will feel right again.
At the same time, try to understand what is was about them that made you feel the way you did. Make sure they are tied to good solid traits and values, not something superficial or purely sexual. You don't want the exact same person, because that person didn't stick around. You want the good traits mixed in with the ones that are a better match for you.
I've come close to that situation, but with time was able to realize it would have never worked. With a little time, you're able to see what you may have been blinded to before and can learn from that.
2006-07-10 18:03:31 · answer #3 · answered by Dale P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every couple that breaks up goes through about a 6 month phase where they think they can fix all the things that went wrong and get back together. BZZT! Wrong! All those things that annoyed either one of you will be even more annoying when you get back together. The reason is, is that you expected the person to change all those things in some sort of unwritten rule. Look at Eminem as an example. He remarried his ex wife and they are getting a divorce AGAIN.
It's best to start off with someone new who doesn't know any of your baggage.
2006-07-10 17:53:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It must be difficult. but you can't wait the rest of your life to see if that person wants to come back with u... You should try to keep yourself busy... You can join a club, or start going to the gym or take dance lessons... That way, you'll meet new people and hopefully you'll forget about her... You just gotta be possitive and keep an open mind... A new love could be just around the corner
2006-07-10 17:56:54 · answer #5 · answered by sweet-girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same position. My boyfriend broke up with me and a few days before that we were talking about getting married and then something happened that changed everything within a few hours. I'll tell you what PLEASE when you find out let me know cause i feel like i'm dying and i feel clueless. Get back to me at www.pequena_cheeks@yahoo.com
2006-07-10 18:01:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buddy, you have to move on. It boils down to this: its over. If you really want to get her back, go out and date and do your thing and don't act or talk like you're hung up on her. If you want to get her back, you've got to play the game, and it is a game.
This kind of thing happens to everybody at some point. You have to move on, she's already decided that for you unfortunately.
2006-07-10 17:55:42 · answer #7 · answered by Babber420 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, this has happened to me. Use my Philosophy: You meet every one and every person for a reason. Be it that they show you great joy or great sorrow or a glowing love or a dark pain. It's a life experience take it at that and move.
2006-07-10 18:00:48 · answer #8 · answered by Roni W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think shes the "one" for you then you should go out there and find her and tell her that. You cant just sit there and expect destiny to find you, you have to go for what you want. And if she still dosnt want you back, then you could move on and think that you wanted her but she didnt want you so it wasnt meant to be. But if you dont your gonna regret it your whole life that you didnt even try. So it dosnt hurt to give it another try.
2006-07-10 17:55:02 · answer #9 · answered by Lily126 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything worth having at all is worth fighting for, pick up the phone and ask her to dinner explain to her how you feel, be honest and sincere, give it your all one last time and see what happens. Good luck!
2006-07-10 17:54:43 · answer #10 · answered by mznatural30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋