We have known each other since 5th grade!?

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We have known each other since 5th grade!?
And from 6th to 8th grade he would talk to me alot. He would always say that he hates me. And i would always tell him that i hated him too. But in 8th grade i asked him why he hated me and he asked me the same question, I would tell him that i didn't hate him. But he would insist that i hated him. Well he was a really annoying person. Lets just say we flirted alot. I would always tell him to stop talking to me, Because we would always get in trouble for talking to much. Even the teacher was suprised that we were the only ones talking all the time during class.I would tell him to stop talking to me, but he wouldn't listen to me, he would still talk to me, and we would always get in trouble. and i was the only girl he would do this to. Anyways since 9th grade up to now which were both going to 11th grade we haven't spoken at all. Even when we pass each other in the hallways. He wouldn't even say hi or anything. What should i do to get him to

What should i do to get him to talk to him again. Last year i asked one of my friends to give me his msn address and he was on. and she told him that i wanted his address and he said that he didn't want me to have anything of his. What should i do i really want to flirt with him again because i miss talking to him. He is the only guy in my class that i don't get along with and don't talk to.

Answer 1

Pull him aside at lunch or something and talk it out. Say that you're really sad you two have drifted apart. Even if you played around about hating him and stuff, you didn't really mean it. And stuff like that. Practice what you're going to say really well so you don't forget anything. Take the blame onto yourself, if you try to blame him for the distance, he might just push you away more. Also look sad. Make your eyes tear up a little or something. That always makes guys putty in your hands lol.

You only have 2 years left to patch things up. If you don't do it soon, you'll both graduate and go your seperate ways. He probably really does think you don't like him so convinces himself to not like you in return.

Or if you're not an in-person problem solver, You can write to him through the regular mail (not e-mail). It's more personal, plus he'll be in the privacy of his own home, assuring that he'll actually read it. If you pass him a note in school, he might throw it away or something just for "effect" and to make you feel bad, even if he really is interested in what you had to say. Guys also tend to try and "show off" for their friends and act like things don't bother them or that they don't care even if they really do. Send a picture of you two from 5th grade if you have one and say you want that friendship back.

Good luck!!!!! I'm sure everything will work out fine if you try hard enough. But if he still resists your efforts, then he's probably not the kind of friend you want anyway. People do change over time. Maybe he just changed... a lot...

Answer 2

First, find out if he has a girlfriend or anything like that. Then, approach him. Just talk. Chances are he won't flat out deny talking to you, so just ask him what's happened since 8th grade. It sounds like he's grown up, and you're left behind. So catch up!