he believed something his wife had told him. If we have to meet face to face again to attend a Funeral or Wedding should I confront him? Or just let sleeping dogs lie?
2006-07-10 17:42:02 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Okay, fine, I'll be nice just this once.
It would be in bad form and just down right TACKY to confront him at a social event focusing on someone else (whether it's a funeral or a wedding, whatever). The most you could do that would be acceptable is walk up to him (preferably as he's leaving the event) and say "I think we should talk about things, but at a later date. Now is not the time or place. Do you have any free time in your schedule?" If he accepts, you're getting your opportunity. If he starts to make a scene, just walk away. It takes a better man to turn and walk away than one to stand and lower himself before the crowd.
One of my favorite quotes: Mathew 7:6
"Give not that which is holy to dogs, neither cast ye your pearls before swine, lest they trample them under their feet, and turn again and rend you. ..."
2006-07-10 18:16:30 · answer #1 · answered by Ken'sBabe 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Well if your relationship with your brother was poor to begin with and you feel comfortable waiting until you bump into each other again, then see how it goes. If its awkward and still a problem, then bring it out when you have a moment alone with him. If emotions are high about this "something", then expect some fireworks, but if your both willing to work it out, it'll get resolved. If however, he greets you as if nothing happened, then by all means let sleeping dogs lie.
However, if this something was bad enough to ruin a good relationship, then perhaps you need to try and contact him after he has time to settle some. At least try and work through it. If he is unwilling to engage in dialog, then at least you tried and you at least communicated to him that you were willing to work things out. Sometimes two people stay mad at each other simply because they are unwilling to give in first. By showing your willing to "give in" and patch things up, he may respond likewise.
2006-07-11 00:50:50 · answer #2 · answered by chalis913 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the funeral or wedding wouldnt be the best place to confront him.U guy's probably could get into an argument.So just let sleeping dogs die for there.However,if it is sum other place maybe u should definetly confront him sooner or later.
2006-07-12 00:02:08 · answer #3 · answered by ramlover_92 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let sleeping dogs lie; especially given if you would meet it'd be at a funeral or wedding: a time of mourning and celebration respectively.
2006-07-11 00:46:01 · answer #4 · answered by Belie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let this woman come between you and your brother. Whether or not you agree with what he chose to believe, he is still your brother. If his wife lied to him once she will do it again. There may come a time when he will need you and just be there for him. Blood is thicker than water and no woman is worth destroying your relationship with your brother.
2006-07-11 01:01:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If what your brother's wife said is not the truth and it has caused some hurts and even tarnishes your reputation, then I suggest you go to your brother directly, at the presence of his wife, and explain. However, don't do it during a funeral or wedding and do it discreetly and gentlemanly. :)
2006-07-11 00:51:37 · answer #6 · answered by kuangesther 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you and your brother really are not talking at all, then you have to say something... If you have already said your peace before and he rejected it, then I think you have to let things lie.
Other things to consider are if you and his wife have a strained relationship or you told your brother not to marry her in the first place. If he thinks he is happy with her then he might only hold it agianst you even more. You need to respect his wishes and support him with his decisions.
2006-07-11 00:53:39 · answer #7 · answered by Skrappy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on if its important to you to keep a relationship with him or not. Blood is thicker than water to me, and I always want to maintain a loving relationship with my family members. If its not possible right now for you two to talk about it, then give it some time to blow over and then try to talk to him again. I wouldn't just forget about it, because that makes it seem like your guilty of whatever you were accused of doing. Take a break from the drama, then calmly try to talk things over with him. If you want to save the relationship, its worth a try. If he doesn't accept that, then thats his problem and there is nothing you can do about it until he decides to listen to your side of the story.
2006-07-11 00:48:52 · answer #8 · answered by AstonishingAries<3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it really depends on what the situation is. You have to way the good vs bad. Is it worth it to have him continuing to think what his wife told him? Or will him thinking what his wife told him be detrimental to him or you? Something things are better left alone especially as you are dealing with a sticky situation ( brother vs. wife) Either way - good luck.
2006-07-11 00:49:27 · answer #9 · answered by Lucid Secrets 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, u need to clear somethig to him .....his your brother after all
2006-07-11 00:48:00 · answer #10 · answered by ed0425 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋