My mom grew up in poverty.When young,she worked hard 2 earn money so that her brothers and sisters can get proper education.When she married, it was not exactly a happy marriage but she held on for the sake of me & my brother. My father died 10 years back & she had to work again after a gap of 25 years.I became an engineer and my brother a doctor because of her hard work. i had a love marriage 3 years ago,not exactly against her wishes but she was not exactly happy with it either.Now, after a big fight, my wife has walked out of my home.and my wife has flatly refused to try to reconcile.
my mom, in her old age, has to witness all this. She is upset all day. I WANT 2 MAKE HER HAPPY, BRING SOME CHEER IN HER LIFE. HOW DO I DO THAT. PLEASE ADVICE, PLEASE HELP ME.
2006-07-10 17:41:04 · 10 answers · asked by archer 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Obviously you are from India, you went against your families wishes and had a love marriage, I am not saying that was wrong, but your mother after all her skimping and saving probably feels that it was a waste. There is not much you can do, I would suggest going ahead with the divorce and having the daughter in law she did not like out of her life as well will console her. Perhaps if you really can you could consider an arranged marriage with someone in your professional arena, it is really not as bad as you think. believe me I am Indian too and living overseas.
2006-07-10 17:49:44 · answer #1 · answered by Pete 5 · 9⤊ 3⤋
Maybe your mom is just more worried than being unhappy with you.
All our parents want for us is to have a far better life then they had. They want the very best of everything for us.
Her concern may even be that you could back together with your wife. That is if she does not like her anyway?
Take mom out to eat and have a good old fashioned heart to heart.
Point out to her the good things that are going on in your life and the good things that have already happened. Try to get her focused on the positive aspects of what is going on.
Tell her that a bad marriage only made you wiser and you now know what to look for in a woman and what to avoid.
I think it is very hard for any parent that is at the end of thier life to be able to leave this world in peace when a child is going through problems.
You need to assure her that it is just a small obsticle and not a major problem.
Also, if your mom has seen your misery and heart ache then that would also bring her down.
You need to put on a happy face every time you are around her even if you don't feel like it.
Good Luck! & God Bless!
2006-07-11 00:54:13 · answer #2 · answered by lovingfeathers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, tell her that she was right about your marriage. Every mother wants to feel that she was right. Then take her on a nice trip. Maybe a cruise would be good. Let her relax and eat good food, get a massage and have her hair and nails done on the ship. She will love it.
2006-07-11 00:58:34 · answer #3 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First try to calm your wife down. Apologise to her.... and tell her no one is perfect in this world... and tell her (calmly) that she was wrong too....
Tell her about your mom's old age... ask her to consider your mom as her own mom.... Tell her that ur mom, in her old age is worried about your marriage.... At all times keep your voice down and if your wife raises her voice ask her to remain calm. Then bring your mom and your wife together, make them sit at the same table... and then you try talking out your problems.... and solve them right in front of her....
This is one way of solving this problem... there can be several other ways.
If you think this hard.... then just pray. That should solve all your problems.
2006-07-11 00:52:19 · answer #4 · answered by laclockiecelestialle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just support her in all that she does.That would be enough of a support.And of course try to do something nice.Even spending some quality time for a whole day is also very helpful.
Good luck.
2006-07-11 00:44:48 · answer #5 · answered by Eternity 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does your mom think you're unhappy? let her know that you're alright, take your mom out to do something that the 2 of you can enjoy together...mostly talk to her and let her know how much you love and appreciate all that she's done for you and the family. she sounds like a great woman, and you are loving and caring to worry about her, so just talk and it'll all work out!
take care!!!
2006-07-11 00:49:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's lonely I imagine
Take her on a vacation to Europe
2006-07-11 00:47:05 · answer #7 · answered by Olivia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
understand her and love her truely.that is enough to lead happy life
2006-07-11 02:11:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just obey her....
every mother will be so proud to have an obedient child.
2006-07-11 00:51:33 · answer #9 · answered by jzt_sambody 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love her
2006-07-11 00:59:03 · answer #10 · answered by boo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋