like looking at personals, female asses, and girls with guns? He says he loves me and would never cheat, but I have to wonder....we have been living together for 2 years.
2006-07-10 17:40:18 · 7 answers · asked by renfairegal 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know, it used to trip me out with my husband before we were married many moons ago. I finally came to recognize that it wasn't true anger but a cover for embarrassment. It was the same, discovering his girl magazines, coming home buzzed, saying he was going to a store and instead be at someone's house I disliked. But he wasn't cheating and he did truly love me (we've been happily married for 20 years now), but he had these things that were highly personal to him and didn't know how I'd react or judge them, so he'd keep them hidden until I'd eventually find out and get uncharacteristically angry at me leaving me confused. It's a defense for him. Think about it, if you were in that uncomfortable spot with your partner would you choose to flush with embarrassment or humiliation and begin apologizing for something you weren't sorry for (and really isn't harmful) or get uptight at being questioned? I bet your boyfriend is a really good man who does love you and isn't cheating, he just has these interests that were a part of his life before you even got together and it has nothing to do with your relationship. Just give him space and remember you have your own ways too and it will work out. When I began to loosen up and not worry about it, my husband treated me with total respect and love and I'm glad that I didn't pay attention to other people's opinions about little stuff.
2006-07-10 18:01:11 · answer #1 · answered by HisChamp1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone looks it is a part of human nature. It doesn't mean that they cheat just because they look. When my husband and I are up town or watching a movie we both make a comment about an attractive person we see but we are only making a comment not a pass. Your problem is you need to grow up some and realize there is a reason they call jealously a green eyed monster. If you keep pushing him you will drive him away. Realize you are with him and he is with you because it is where you both choose to be not because you have to be together. So try to gain some self confidence and realize he is with you because he chooses to be, if he wanted someone else he would have already left you.
2006-07-11 00:53:14 · answer #2 · answered by gina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looking at porn is a normal guy activity (within reason). The personals would concern me. Usually guys react with anger when they know they have been caught doing something they shouldn't. It's their way of handling guilt. So you have to ask yourself - why does he feel so guilty?
2006-07-11 00:45:18 · answer #3 · answered by Roach25486 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They feel like they can and you can't I feel the ssame way like they disrespect you and then they get mad if you tell them something, but if you do it they call you all types of names, put you down or talk down to you, Ive Got One Of Those , Too. Girl just know its not you, Its him. Either accept it or just get over it cause honey if you love him you ain't going anywhere and if tahts teh case just no your right and throw that a bone.
2006-07-13 05:46:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because some men think with the wrong head sometimes.
2006-07-11 00:47:27 · answer #5 · answered by ♥BUD or BUD LIGHT♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It probably is a defense mechanism.
2006-07-11 00:45:03 · answer #6 · answered by jom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try trusting him sometime.
2006-07-11 00:44:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋