im 20 and all i have ever wanted was to get married to my boyfriend and start a family. some people tell me im much too young to do this and will regret it
2006-07-10 16:52:00 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think it's different for everyone. Some people are ready to settle down sooner. I never wanted a career or anything, so I was ready right after college to get married and I couldn't be happier. However, a lot of people get to that point much later in life. The people that tell you you're too young - they think they are looking out for you, but really I know it must seem to you like they're trying to impose their thoughts on you. That's hard to deal with.
I know it sucks to hear, but there is a chance, at 20 - because you are young, in the grand scheme of life - that you might be wrong about what you want. But I think that if you've thought it through and this is what you want, that you should go ahead with it. Do what makes you happy.
The one piece of advice I would give you though is to make sure you are not just excited about having a fairy tale romance. I know it's very romantic to get married young these days, but in truth marriage is hard work, especially when you consider just how long you have to spend with this person. As long as you look at your options from as responsible a standpoint as you can, you'll feel better in your decision. Also, have you talked to your boyfriend about this? Is it what he wants? I hope things work out for you.
2006-07-10 19:07:44 · answer #1 · answered by ykokorocks 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree that the best time is when you're ready. I am 24 and engaged....at 20 I was engaged to someone else. My point is that there is a LOT of growing and knowledge that happens in those few years. On the other hand, my younger sister got married at 19...and she's been happily married for 2 years with 2 children. If you are absolutely sure about this person, then go for it. Just make sure there isn't any room for regrets. Happiness is the key. :) Hope that helps and good luck!
2006-07-11 01:13:43 · answer #2 · answered by funshinerika 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if it's what you both want then go for it. No one can say how it will turn out. I married my husband at age 20 and he was 19, and let's just say it gets better everyday for us. Ultimately it is your(both of you) decision to make and and that's what matters. As far as regret, everything in life is a gamble. Sometimes you win sometimes you lose but that doesn't mean you shouldn't play the game. Yes, you could regret it, but you could also spend the rest of your life with the man you love.
2006-07-11 00:01:14 · answer #3 · answered by tina-marie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i have the same question as you only in 18. I think im ready to get married but no one else believes me. Everyone seems to think im throwing my life away but when it comes down to the decision you have to do what makes u happy and what pleases God. If you love being with this person and your happy together, why wait to get married. My sister got married at 19 and she has the happiest family I've ever seen. It's your life live it the way you want.
2006-07-11 01:04:31 · answer #4 · answered by HeArtBr0Ken... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Based on your age you are too young. Although, it also depends on how long you and he have been together.
At 20, you're still developing emotionally and probably not settled down in terms of a career.
Anyway, what's the rush? Enjoy your youth.
2006-07-11 00:01:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
at 20, yes
enjoy your life as a twenty something year old,
**** up, slurge money and all of that stuff, dont catch any cases or diseases.
by the time you are 25 then start to settle and work on your career seriously
Have your **** together by 30
2006-07-10 23:57:03 · answer #6 · answered by !@#$$ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at 20 you're not yet fully had the change to enjoy life. Go out and do things. i am 27 and finally ready for sure. i thought I was before but then i would of had to give away my freedom. enjoy yourself. you will know when the time is right. if you are asking when is the right time you don't know. When you don't have to ask, that is the right time.
2006-07-11 14:56:29 · answer #7 · answered by stacydeets 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
23-25
2006-07-10 23:56:44 · answer #8 · answered by narcissa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well . . . . . . . . I wouldn't suggest it. Here's a Q (that I know the answer to) why do young people think older people give them a hard time about this stuff? Oh, yeah, they (like me years ago) can't see past their nieve youth. If you two are . . . (dramatic pause) "meant to be" then you're meant to be 5 years from now. 10yrs from now. 1yr before you die. My point: don't rush. Young people in young love always in a hurry to be HAPPY.
2006-07-11 02:34:35 · answer #9 · answered by TellMeMore 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best time to settle down is when your ready to settle down.
2006-07-11 00:19:32 · answer #10 · answered by ladybug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋