but i had a one night tand with a korean guy. it's my first time to do it with a foreigner. i admit my sexual life is not active, but it's not dormant either. ihis employees told me(the ones who he's close to) that he doesn't usually ask and talk to girls hanging out in his bar. in fact, he ignores them and just make polite conversations whenever they try to talk to them. taht made me feel better. i have a big crush on this guy for seven months already but i didn't do something about it. haven't even told anyone. but that night when we hang out, one thing led to another and before i know it, we were in bed together. it's not like me to have a one night stand. now, i feel happy(because i had the chace to pour out all that pent up emotions by making love to him) at the same time scared of what he might think of me. i come off as a sensible girl. and the intimidating type. so i know it was a surprise to him. what will i do? should i tell him the reason or move on?
2006-07-10 16:46:51 · 16 answers · asked by AJ BA 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oh! i was not exactly stalking him. i tried to forget what i feel for him by not going to his bar. his employees gave me that piece of information. and he hadn't sms me for 2 days now. my mind tells me to move on and forget him. my heart tells me to try. ohmygosh! it was so stupid of me to do it with him but it was the night i want to last forever. the problem is: should i sms him first or wait for him? thank you for the advise.
2006-07-10 20:10:51 · update #1
Tell him how much you like him and keep it crazy in bed. Or you could say you love him long time - he'll get the meaning.
2006-07-10 16:49:32 · answer #1 · answered by The Max 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question comes to mind now is why don't you consider it more than a one night stand?
a) You yourself state your sexual life is not active
b) You took the time to check him out with his employees
c) You know he is not a womanizer
d) You admit you have big crush on him
e) You want him to think you are a sensible girl
f) You have been stalking him for 7 months (yes you have, you checked him out, and watched what he did for 7 months!!)
Obviously you feel it is more than a one night stand and if he (who normally blows off other women), picked you, he obviously feels something for you.
I would tell him you like him and see if the relationship goes on from there
2006-07-10 17:01:58 · answer #2 · answered by Pete 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've nothing to lose by being up front and honest with him. If it sparks a relationship, you can "rewind" and start the courtship process at a more leisurely pace. And if it doesn't, at least you'll have the knowledge that you shared a mutual passion for one another, and that neither are you are "players" in the general sense. Good luck!
2006-07-10 16:49:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG you had a one night stand!!!! You are going straight to HELL!!!
Just joking, of course tell him how much you have been ooogling over him. Make sure he understands that it was out of character for you to do what you did but you just couldnt help yourself. Tell him that you would love to get to know him more in a vertical manner rather than horizontal and see where it goes. If hes not receptive then move on and chalk it up to lessons learned.
2006-07-10 16:51:59 · answer #4 · answered by bobndew 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
here is a thought, he had a one night stand too, maybe he is embaressed too, not all men are dogs. Secondly, if you have been asking about him at the bar he might have known how you felt about him, and for how long. I would just call him up, see him in a non-bar, non-work setting and spill your guts. It won't hurt, and it might help.
2006-07-10 17:03:16 · answer #5 · answered by simplyfabulous 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sounds like you have known this guy for a while, and have deeper feelings for him, than a typical "one night stander". If you think you might want to pursue a relationship with the guy, tell him... he may feel the same way.
2006-07-10 16:51:22 · answer #6 · answered by tropicalfancy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's weird my bestfriend is korean but what are the chances right? ...right? anyways there is no problem here i am not to fond of one night stands. but you liked the guy for 7 months so it;s not like you just met him and slept with him. tell him how you feel if he agrees then a relation is there if he doesn't go back to your normal life.
2006-07-10 16:52:15 · answer #7 · answered by Orselo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he asks then let him know what made you do this. If you tell him without him asking then he might think that you are weird because maybe he doesnt care and it was just one night for him. Tell him it isn't normal for you to do that and something about him made you move too quick and you wanted to know what he thinks of you..
2006-07-10 16:50:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you like this guy, you need to tell him how you feel. If you don't make a move now, he may just move on.
2006-07-10 16:49:17 · answer #9 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband was supposed to be a one night stand. I would just try to be friends and not be too needy. He'll appreciate it and come to you on his own,
2006-07-10 16:49:36 · answer #10 · answered by Adalina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋