This is my ex boyfriend, but I still really care about him &i want him to know i'm there for him. I just don't want to know all the details about him being suicidal.
2006-07-10 16:41:23 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Talk him into counseling. Take him directly to the hospital yourself, or dial 911 the next time he threatens.
If you care for him, get professional help for him.
If he's just using it to manipulate you, that is emotional blackmail. There will be no end to it without counseling. I wouldn't "call his bluff" on the chance that he's serious.
I think taking him to the hospital if he'll let you would be best. Reporting it would be the next best thing.
2006-07-10 16:51:49 · answer #1 · answered by Contemplative Chanteuse IDK TIRH 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Explain to him that you understand his feelings, but you have done all you can! Let him know your relatioship is not as lovers, but as freinds now. He might be just threatening you with the suicide to get you to come back. I'm not sure! Really it depends on how long you have been seperated and how long he has been talking about suicide. If he has threatened the suicide since you seperated he most likely is just threatening. Especially if he hasn't even tempted to commit it. I should know I thought I was suicidal until I seen a Psychatrist and realized it was just a mental illness and I was wanting attention.
2006-07-24 18:52:58 · answer #2 · answered by Bethany B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you care about him then you need to listen to him or find someone that will listen to him. If he is talking about being suicidal then this is just a cry for help of something that is really bothering him.
Ask him why he is suicidal and deal with that issue.
2006-07-23 12:17:11 · answer #3 · answered by walking2health 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you truthfully cannot prevent someone from committing suicide. If they feel that compulsion to end their life, then all you can do is pray quietly and ask for God to send somebody into his life with the wisdom needed. Honestly if something fatal does come out of it you will still have a clean and clear conscious. After all who is more powerful than God?
As far as talking to him and remaining his friend, If he still is wanting more of you, than the longer and more often you are calling him, or there to take his call, the more stressful the relationship will become for him.
All of us guys learned at an earlier age that we cannot remain strictly friends with a chick if there is ANY sort of attraction. Our thoughts will always wander to something more than friendship---- this could also become DANGEROUS for you. so be careful and just be there LESS for him...
2006-07-10 17:05:35 · answer #4 · answered by warsuxdeathsux 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take this very seriously. Do not under estimate what he may or may not do. Before it is too late talk with his parents about this. Call them arrange a meeting at your home, informing them not to let their son know they are coming. Discuss this matter with them so they can get him help immediately. He needs it and he is walking on the very edge currently. How would you feel if he indeed pulls this suicide venture off and you did not try to help?
So do your part..he is crying out for help from somebody, anybody.
2006-07-10 16:51:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This seems like a control thing to me. If you don't talk to him he'll kill himself. Because you aren't with him any more he'll kill himself. I would tell him straight up that you care about him and that you don't want to see him hurt but you broke up for a reason and he has to respect your decision. Negative attention from you is better than no attention from you so he is shocking you and forcing you to hold on to him because he knows that you are a loving and caring person and you don't want to be held responsible for his death. I would privately talk to his parents about what he is doing. If he is serious about suicide then he needs serious help that he can only get from a trained professional. Good Luck!
2006-07-24 15:13:00 · answer #6 · answered by angelsforanimals 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then gently but firmly let him know that altough you still care about him; you are not interested in hearing how he plans to cause harm to himself. You might also suggest he seek some sort of counseling he sounds as though he may be emotionallly bankrupt. Also, remember although honesty is important; remember that honesty without compassion is hostility. He seems very delicate at this point in his life, and the last thing you want to do is to make his state worse....Best wishes....
2006-07-24 16:43:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A person who plans suicide seriously doesn't talk about it.
This guy is just wanting pity from you.
You need to tell him to please not contact you anymore.
And if he does commit suicide, it's not your fault. He has serious emotional problems and thinks if he threatens this horrible thing,
you will take him back and he will control you in this same manner for the rest of your life and you'll never find a way from him.
2006-07-22 19:12:00 · answer #8 · answered by Cookie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you are a trained Psychologist or Physician or Minister
of the Gospel, just pray and turn this situation over to the Lord.
Something like this is too serious to play with. Consult a
professional. Consult Jesus.
I Corinthians 13;8a, Love never fails!!!!!
2006-07-24 10:15:59 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you still think of him as a friend and you will be there to talk to him but that he needs to get help.
Some people think suicide ends it all but it merely spreads the bad Karma to innocent people. Everyone who is close to that person will always wonder; What could I have done?, What should I have done or not done?.
2006-07-24 16:53:09 · answer #10 · answered by Ed M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋